It doesn't matter how old anyone is .. they're all going there eventually. I am 53 and also think about death waaay too much. But over the years I have searched and searched for the answers to life and death. Obviously have not found anything concrete .. I so need to know the purpose for it all. I have tried the religion thing at least 3 times .. different religions too .. but not enough answers for me there either. Lately I have come to think that 'maybe' reincarnation could be an answer to all this .. it makes a bit more sense to me than what I was taught in church. I don't know if there is a God that created everything .. no one really knows for sure .. it's all faith at the end of the day. But what I see around me sure seems to consist of intelligent design .. but there again .. it could be Aliens that have put us here .. and who created them (if they do exsist) is also anybody's guess lol. I have watched many of those programmes by Colin Fry and John Edwards etc .. where they put people in touch with dead loved ones. I find them SO uplifting and convincing that we do live on! So with that in mind I am not as terrified of death as I used to be ... I really do feel it doesn't end here. I am positive my mom who passed 2 years ago has made contact with me a couple of times .. I did ask her to before she passed :D .. When I dwell on the subject of death .. I think to myself ... would I want to 'not' die and live on whilst all those in my generation popped off? I think not ... I also feel if we are fortunate enough to make a grand old age .. we will be more than ready to go. Living is tiring .. and as we age .. we slowly let go anyway .. so that when the times comes we are ready to go. Premature death is something else and must be very difficult to deal with. There again I have often read that people who have fatal illness .. go through different phases and eventually reach one of acceptance. It must also be that way for those aging and getting near that time. But I really do believe there is more to our exsistance than we know and so with that thought in my mind .. I'm managing ok :) .. PS .. When my mom was near the end (aged 93) .. she seemed to be seeing people in her room that have passed on, one being my dad .. so that was also encouraging for me regarding life after death. One other thing I must mention is .. I do fear being left alone if my hubby goes first .. that scares me much more than death itself. I do have children who are grown now and I foster children at the moment (they keep u young .. but give u grey hair :D ) ... But I try to convince myself I will adjust to the situation in time. My sister who is 3 years older than me lost her hubby about 4 years ago when he was shot dead. It was a massive shock for her and their children .. and for a time she really battled to move on. But now she has met someone else and even re-married and is happy .. so worrying about the future can be futile as we don't know how it will turn out .. better to try and live one day at a time :cool:

I just found this HealthBoards thing and have been wandering through it at random, and I find I am not unique, we all want to know the same things and have the same fears.As we age I think we all begin to wonder about life and death and the inbetween...
There are probably a variety of religions represented here all with their own beliefs about everything under the sun, I can only speak for what I learned as I was raised, and so I have never doubted that the Bible was God's Word and filled with all the wisdom we needed to find answers to everything.
So I turned to my desk beside my computer and pulled my BIG Bible from under my BIG Webster's Unabridged Dictionary and flipped it open. It opened to the Hebrew Scriptures at ECCLESIASTES...so I began to turn the pages and sentences jumped out at me and I thought,"Wow Kiddo, you ought to read this book more often!' As I picked my way through, I came to Chapter Nine and verse 4 started out this way...
"For as respects whoever is joined to all the living there exixts confidence, because a live dog is better off than a dead lion. 5 For the living are conscious that they will die; but as for the dead, they are conscious of nothing at all...(and I read on down to verse 10 which states,) All that your hand fines to do, do with your very power, for there is no work nor devising nor knowledge nor wisdom in Sheol, the place to which you are going."
Death to me is a place of deepest sleep, where there is no awareness of anything until the time for us to be brought back to a living state,furnished a new fresh body if your lot is an earthly ressurection, or a spiritual body if you are of the ones Jesus said would rule with him in the Heavens as Kings and Priests over the beautiful home that is Earth. Remember God's promise that the Earth will be here forever? Check out Ec.1:4, Ps 37:29, Isa 45: 18, and Matthew 5:5 if you are seeking assurance and comfort...I found them in the Index in the back of my Bible.
I have remembered from my earliest days that God loves us, wants us all to survive and gave his dear Son as a Ranson price so that we have a way to be good enough to stand before him. All we have to do is live by his rules... which are not a burden, and treat one another as we ourselves would want to be treated...How hard is that to do???
There is no pain,fear,loneliness,or floating around through the ether as disembodied spirits and scaring the bejabbers out of relatives and others.
I suspect those who make a business our of saying they have contact with the dead are shrewd business people without conscience or fear of God's judgment...a big mistake.
We want to know that those who pass from life to death are not suffering. They aren't, they are asleep and safe.

Wow! And here I thought I was the only one who was worried about death. I turned 50 this past February and it really hit me hard. I think about death every single day and wonder if I'm already past the halfway point. I'm sure I am. I'm very scared of dying and death. These thoughts with many others have me depressed. At least I can find solace in knowing I won't do anything stupid since I'm afraid of dying. My mother passed away in 1988 but my father is still alive (he's 77). And every year goes a little bit faster. And the yesterdays of long ago almost seem surreal. I try to hold onto the thought that there's some kind of life after death but who knows what it's going to bring. It's just hard for me to imagine that once you're gone there's no awareness of anything. Anyway, I hope all of us who worry about death can find some way of dealing with it and accepting it. Bless you all!

I'm 60 and in good health thankfully, but I am terrified about death. I don't believe in an afterlife and the thought of nothingness freaks me out.

I would suggest reading about out-of-body experiences, and near-death experiences (NDE). Once a person has either of these, death takes on a whole different meaning. The physical body "dies" but the essence of the person, the "who you are in your head", call it a soul if you want, lives forever. Imagine your body flying anywhere you want to go. Then look down and realize there is no "body". That part that is you "thinking" and knowing you are "flying" is your soul. As gruesome as it may sound, most books about near-death experiences are very uplifting and positive. Since no one on this earth really "knows" what will happen "afterward", I choose to have beliefs that bring me comfort. Talking to a lot of NDE'ers helped too. Also, reading about After Death Communications (ADC's) is also very enlightening and uplifting.

Thank goodness God made room in this world for many different "beliefs". You get the opportunity to choose the ones you want to live with.

[QUOTE= "For as respects whoever is joined to all the living there exixts confidence, because a live dog is better off than a dead lion. 5 For the living are conscious that they will die; but as for the dead, they are conscious of nothing at all...(and I read on down to verse 10 which states,) All that your hand fines to do, do with your very power, for there is no work nor devising nor knowledge nor wisdom in Sheol, the place to which you are going."
Death to me is a place of deepest sleep, where there is no awareness of anything until the time for us to be brought back to a living state,furnished a new fresh body if your lot is an earthly ressurection, or a spiritual body if you are of the ones Jesus said would rule with him in the Heavens as Kings and Priests over the beautiful home that is Earth. Remember God's promise that the Earth will be here forever? Check out Ec.1:4, Ps 37:29, Isa 45: 18, and Matthew 5:5 if you are seeking assurance and comfort...I found them in the Index in the back of my Bible.
I have remembered from my earliest days that God loves us, wants us all to survive and gave his dear Son as a Ranson price so that we have a way to be good enough to stand before him. All we have to do is live by his rules... which are not a burden, and treat one another as we ourselves would want to be treated...How hard is that to do???
There is no pain,fear,loneliness,or floating around through the ether as disembodied spirits and scaring the bejabbers out of relatives and others.
I suspect those who make a business our of saying they have contact with the dead are shrewd business people without conscience or fear of God's judgment...a big mistake.
We want to know that those who pass from life to death are not suffering. They aren't, they are asleep and safe.[/QUOTE]


It is amazing to read and understand that God loved us enough to give us the answers that we need at any time on our lives. It is so funny that so many miss this. We die, and wake after armagedon to paradise, with no memory of time passed. what a blessing to not wonder what is going to happen. I find so much piece in knowing this, Death is not to be feared, but takena s a blessing. we need not fear what we did as the wage for sin is death, Thus all fear of Hell pugitory etc is not a worry anymore If you find the truth in the all knowing book, The bible. We can learn so much from it, It's lessons are still current if you are willing to look at it