Courty
05-25-2008, 05:34 PM
Well the boyfriend who gave me herpes dumped me so much for the I want to be with you forever. And the worse part he cheated on me. He said I will never find a relationship because I am so insecure , but now I think there is more then one reason. I feel so depressed not only did I loose who I thought was my soulmate, btu now i'm stuck with herpes. I just don't believe in love anymore.
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Ducky74
05-25-2008, 07:12 PM
Don't give up hope Courty! I know you are hurting right now and that the pain is fresh, but as time goes on you will be able to get over him and realize that if he did this to you, then you will be better off without him. I will tell you what made me feel better after my ex and I split...it was going on with my life and making a better life for myself then when I was with him. I proved to him I didn't need him and that I had everything else to offer someone that deserved it. Sometimes it takes getting dumped to find what you were really meant to have. When you do find the right one, you will look back on this relationship and realize that it was a temporary step into getting you to the one that is right for you.
You will find someone else out there that is able to love you for the person that you are....you know yourself that you are not defined by what you have and you have a lot to offer someone. This condition will only help you take your time before jumping into a relationship to make sure it is right for you.
I know that right now amidst the hurt this can sound way to optimistic and hopeful, but I really have been through it and can say it will all come true for you one day too. You know you always have all of us in our "club" here to vent and cry to. I'm sure many of us can relate in one way or another and share in your hurt. You're not alone, even though you may feel like it. Keep your chin up and keep smiling. Every day wil keep getting better. :D:D
You will find someone else out there that is able to love you for the person that you are....you know yourself that you are not defined by what you have and you have a lot to offer someone. This condition will only help you take your time before jumping into a relationship to make sure it is right for you.
I know that right now amidst the hurt this can sound way to optimistic and hopeful, but I really have been through it and can say it will all come true for you one day too. You know you always have all of us in our "club" here to vent and cry to. I'm sure many of us can relate in one way or another and share in your hurt. You're not alone, even though you may feel like it. Keep your chin up and keep smiling. Every day wil keep getting better. :D:D
qwerty87
05-25-2008, 08:49 PM
Dont worry about finding someone else...if a person is worth being with they can overlook something like H, look how many people post on here from relationships like that. There are tons of dating sites for people who have H to make it easy to find someone as well.
Courty
05-26-2008, 01:27 AM
Thank you it makes me feel better. You are a very kind person and I appeciate it very much. It just hurts cause I took that risk thinking it would be a forever thing cause thats how I felt about him and it turns out he just used me. :( My friends are trying to tell me this happended for a reason cause I can't choose the right guy and htis way the perosn has to be a good person to accept me. I just feel so lost and lonely :(
Lostiefan1
05-28-2008, 01:01 PM
I'm so sorry Courty that this happend to you. But i agee with some of the comments people have said, may be this person wasn't the one for you? And this happend so you'll find 'the one' and trust me, he'll be everything you ever wanted. His gonna love you no matter what. Just don't be down on yourself, things will get better, trust me. Just surround yourself with people that love you and care about you. Go out with you girlfriends and have fun. Well i hope your feeling better! Take care and we'll be here for you or anyone who needs help!
Courty
05-28-2008, 01:06 PM
Thank you so much you all are just kind , amazing people and wish you all nothing but the best! My friedns tell me I am a nice person and people will see past herpes, btu I am just scared no one will. I am only 19 and I took the risk with this guy because he told me that he wanted to marry me we were practically engaged and I had known him forever. I just think guys won't be as understanding. I am on therapy for it now, but I don't think that will make a difference.
And what hurts is my ex is not beign very nice to me he sys I ahd a chocie and its not his fault. Its not but I still wanted compassion. I was moody and insecure about stuff and he says thats what reacked the relationship. its just I went throught a hard time with gettign herpes and my grandma havingbreast cancer, btu I was trying to get help. I don't know I just think if someone does love u they stick with u even when things get tough.
I just feel like at 19 no one my age will take the chance to be with me no matter how great people sya I am.
And what hurts is my ex is not beign very nice to me he sys I ahd a chocie and its not his fault. Its not but I still wanted compassion. I was moody and insecure about stuff and he says thats what reacked the relationship. its just I went throught a hard time with gettign herpes and my grandma havingbreast cancer, btu I was trying to get help. I don't know I just think if someone does love u they stick with u even when things get tough.
I just feel like at 19 no one my age will take the chance to be with me no matter how great people sya I am.
Lostiefan1
05-28-2008, 01:30 PM
Aww courty, don't think like that...you are still very young and maybe right now it's not the correct time to be with someone. Maybe this happend too so you can take care of yourself, and to put yourself first before anyone else. Because i remember i always tend to do that, i always put anyone else i dated first before myself, and in a way it's not good. Sometimes i think it's ok to be a little selfish too. BUt and about your ex, i think you should just ignore him, if he txts you or calls you dont answer him because his just making things worse for you. I think you should separate yourself from him, and like i mentioned just go out with your friends and try to have fun. And one thing for sure it's true is that love will come to you unexpectedly, at least that's what happend to me. I remember i got into an accident and crash my beautiful mustang ( i was sad too) and it was tough time for me not only bc of that but other things that were going on. And then out of no where the love of my life came into my life to rescue me. lol!!! But seriously though, just keep having faith and things will get better, i promise you that. Plus i'm pretty sure you're a great person you just made a mistake just everyone does.This was just a learning experience for you, can you imagine how life would be if it was all perfect? Probably boring right? lol!!! j/k!! But cheer up my friend, things will eventually start to get better and once you know it you'll be happy once again!!
Courty
05-28-2008, 01:43 PM
Thank you. It is just hard. You are right thoguh everyone I talked to told me I am too caring for others and do everythign for them and no one takes care of me back. I just like making people happy. :( . I am just really scared that no one will even tak ethe time to like let alone love me. I am trying to get positive , but right now it sucks. I mean I slept with my ex cause I just really liked him, but I dunno if others would do the same for me.
Lostiefan1
05-28-2008, 03:47 PM
Yeah i know what your saying being caring of other's, i was just like you too well im still kinda like that too. I love making people happy and do things for them, but sometimes you can't because when you do people tend to take advantage of that and it's not good. But i know what your saying about not finding anyone who will accept, but since this just happend to you, you feel lost and confuse. But just give it time, and soon enough you'll feel alot better and get through this rough time. Just keep your head up buddy don't get too down on yourself. I know its easier said than done but you have to keep on going, and you have to prove to yourself that your better off without your ex. Just cheer up!!! Better days will come!
Oasis
05-28-2008, 04:53 PM
me72,
have faith in yourself ........you deserve everything wonderful too !!
If it makes you feel better, there are tons of bipolar ppl who do their treatment which ever one it is, lead normal lives and find someone too..........
so you can as well. Best wishes !
Regards.
have faith in yourself ........you deserve everything wonderful too !!
If it makes you feel better, there are tons of bipolar ppl who do their treatment which ever one it is, lead normal lives and find someone too..........
so you can as well. Best wishes !
Regards.