I was off to visit my mom and dad for my weekly stayover.... arrive monday, stay the night and leave tues. evening...... While I am over there I also do some books for a business... my boss as 4 companys that I look after. In the last 5 months my husband has taken a new job that is serveral hours and a ferry trip away from my parents and the place of business. ( we live on a boat in the vancouver Island area so moving to a job is not hard.) I have done books for this gentleman for 11 years.... I was at a breaking point of spreading myselve to thin and I was starting to feel it. After reading the posts on here and taking a very close look at myselve I finally told my boss that my mom was on top of my list and that I would have to quit. He was very great. He understood my problem as he went through it with his parents... I am feeling so releived that now when I go over I can spend all my time without distractions with my mom and dad.... who know how releived I would feel with this burden off my shoulders.....I still run my own bakery (I run the bakery out of our boat)but I can work around that. So for you out there who are in my situtation of spreading yourselve to thin, think about what you really need to do and act on it. With my mom declining I want to spend as much time as I can with her while she still remembers who I am and we both enjoy it...I know it will get harder in the future but for now I am greatful that I have this forum and support and great advice on just what is and is not important...

Good for you. You have to reorder your priorities for now. When this is all over or your loved one is in a NH, you can take on more work.

Wow, living on a boat near Vancouver sounds like Paradise...

Love,

Martha

Excellent Jags. It's good to take a look at your life and see where you need to make changes for your own well being. Change is never easy but often necessary. Kudo's to you for making the changes you needed to make.

I would so love to live on a boat in the waterways of the NC coast! Lucky you!!

Love, deb

I just want you to know that before I found this place that I was trying to stretch my selve in so many different directions that I needed to read how important it was to keep myselve on the right path, for if I go down then a whole network will suffer....I am still realing a bit on the choice I made... I know in my heart that it was right and I feel soooooooo good about it.....once again it took the insight of many to open my eyes and alert me to the dangers of trying to be superwomen.

Nice job Jags...good for you! Now you're on your way to a better you and a better you for your Mom. And I too am SO envious of your way of life...wow how wonderful and maybe now you'll have more time to enjoy it. That was neat how understanding your boss was about your priorities and I think you'd be surprised how many people we come in contact with that are dealing with the same issues with this horrible disease. I find that every time I reach out to someone it helps me to heal and I find more peace.

You're in my prayers...
Love Janie