littlesadone
06-01-2008, 03:38 PM
I've been in counseling for years....there are things inside me that I WANT to come out...I WANT them to come out....every week I PLAN on saying them, wanting to say them....but words just do not come out......how do you find what it takes to TALK in counseling? Yes, the guy is good..yes he helps...yes, i trust him.....but I can't...yes, I've done all the writing and reading and him reading......but for me, it doesn't take the place of talking, of having said it....and yet...i CAN'T SAY IT...........it just doesn't come.........and i get soo frustrated with it all....
How do you get your deepest things that are killing you inside to come out???
How do you get your deepest things that are killing you inside to come out???
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Phoenix
06-03-2008, 02:54 AM
Hello L,
Could the answer possibly lie in him being male and issues with the opposite sex in the past?
I know that you said that there is trust but on a subconscious level, there may be more to things than meet the eye(so to speak).
If you find that this is not the case, you may not yet be prepared to share, for to do so may give you the appearance of vulnerability.
Take care.
Respectfully,
Phoenix
Could the answer possibly lie in him being male and issues with the opposite sex in the past?
I know that you said that there is trust but on a subconscious level, there may be more to things than meet the eye(so to speak).
If you find that this is not the case, you may not yet be prepared to share, for to do so may give you the appearance of vulnerability.
Take care.
Respectfully,
Phoenix
littlesadone
06-03-2008, 05:29 PM
no..i like women even less...so don't think it's the male issue...but going to counseling for 5 years and not saying anything is pretty useless....
casatonia 1
06-03-2008, 05:35 PM
hey this may sound insensitive and i dont mean it to but why does it hurt, why are you struggling to say whatever it is you want to say...can you say it to anyone else?
Phoenix
06-03-2008, 05:40 PM
no..i like women even less...so don't think it's the male issue...but going to counseling for 5 years and not saying anything is pretty useless....
Hello L,
Some of us are affected more deeply than others when it comes to traumatic situations.
Have you discussed hypnotherapy with your therapist?
Respectfully,
Phoenix
Hello L,
Some of us are affected more deeply than others when it comes to traumatic situations.
Have you discussed hypnotherapy with your therapist?
Respectfully,
Phoenix
littlesadone
06-03-2008, 09:10 PM
i have them inside...every week I say to myself that I'm going to talk about "stuff"...but when it comes time I just can't put words coming out of my mouth..we've mentioned hypno.....but.....talking about something just brings healing sometimes...and i can't get it to ocme out
janewhite1
06-03-2008, 09:16 PM
Maybe you could try writing these things down in a private notebook, or telling them to a tape recorder.
littlesadone
06-03-2008, 09:28 PM
Thanks for the idea....I've written and written and written and written..but writing does not give the relief of talking about things....
janewhite1
06-03-2008, 09:38 PM
Can you show the counselor some of your writing, if you can't bring yourself to actually say it out loud? Or maybe reading it out loud would be easier?
littlesadone
06-04-2008, 09:16 PM
i go tomorrow ..for the first time since february..i do'nt even know what to say..i just know i've hit bottom and dont know what to do.......i'm afraid it will be like times past...i go and end up saying nothing substantial....yes, he's read my writing..yes, i've read my writing aloud....but saying something isn't the same as writing something down (at least I feel like for me it isn't..i'm thinking that must be why all these years of counseling hasn't helped..because i've still not SAID stuff....all that tramatic stuff that you are supposed to TALK about in order to heal.....)
i know...we all hurt...I hope we all find healing....thanks for your ideas
i know...we all hurt...I hope we all find healing....thanks for your ideas
isitme
06-05-2008, 05:27 AM
i go tomorrow ..for the first time since february..i do'nt even know what to say..i just know i've hit bottom and dont know what to do.......i'm afraid it will be like times past...i go and end up saying nothing substantial....yes, he's read my writing..yes, i've read my writing aloud....but saying something isn't the same as writing something down (at least I feel like for me it isn't..i'm thinking that must be why all these years of counseling hasn't helped..because i've still not SAID stuff....all that tramatic stuff that you are supposed to TALK about in order to heal.....)
i know...we all hurt...I hope we all find healing....thanks for your ideas
You've made the first step by questioning that counselling hasn't helped. I believe it isn't for everyone, but that's not to say you are wasting your time going, so don't throw the towel in there. Trauma causes pain and upset. No one wants to revisit any painful event. I avoided issues for years, unable to speak about the past. Maybe it is the same with you? I believe all issues need to be worked through, not avoided. Accepting that the trauma DID happen to you is the next step. I did hurt.........but I don't now. Best of luck.PS - posting here is extremely helpful. :)
i know...we all hurt...I hope we all find healing....thanks for your ideas
You've made the first step by questioning that counselling hasn't helped. I believe it isn't for everyone, but that's not to say you are wasting your time going, so don't throw the towel in there. Trauma causes pain and upset. No one wants to revisit any painful event. I avoided issues for years, unable to speak about the past. Maybe it is the same with you? I believe all issues need to be worked through, not avoided. Accepting that the trauma DID happen to you is the next step. I did hurt.........but I don't now. Best of luck.PS - posting here is extremely helpful. :)
littlesadone
06-06-2008, 12:23 AM
thanks....i just feel sooooo tired....like i can't get out of bed and do anything..guess that's just the depression..
thanks for all your thoughts
thanks for all your thoughts
littlesadone
06-11-2008, 01:23 PM
Now, i have to go to the doctor and i'm stressing over that....i do that...i am so afraid of doctors and now i have all these symptoms that ust started and i cnat' decide if they are real and i should tell the doctor about them or if they are just the anxiety over going ....oh man....i hate going to the doctor........part of the trauma of my life.....it makes me just want to curl up in a hole and hide