Well I just wanted to post a good "telling" experience for all who think every guy will reject you for "H". I have been talking to a guy who expresses alot of interest in me whom I met on a non "H" dating sight. I decided I wanted to get my first "tell" over with and do that with someone who seemed nice (knowing this was no guarantee he wouldn't reject me!!!). We have not been out on a date yet. Okay in the future I won't tell guys until much later but I HAD to conquer this fear since I am newly diagnosed. It felt like jumping off a cliff. I told him I get it on my lower back (cuz I do), about the viral shedding and how you can be contagious without symptoms and the areas and I'm not sure where I shed even thoug I never get sores on my actual genital area and-blah-blah-blah. Guess what? He said, "Well the good news is if you give it to someone you care about then you both have it so who cares. You're still beautiful and funny and intelligent and I want to take you out. It's not fatal and you should definitely date men so they have the pleasure of knowing you, particularly you should date me. " Hoorah for being brave!!!!! Okay I want to say it took truck loads of guts for me to do that with someone for the first time, I wanted to jump out of my skull I was so scared. At least if I get rejected in the future I can look back and say not all men reject you for "H"!!!! I hope Sophia reads this, she has been so down http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/frown.gif I found injecting a little humor helped...I told him, I said "Try not to think of me when you see those people mountain biking and skydiving in the Valtrax commercials, haha." We had a good laugh. Well I know our situations are not to be made fun of or taken lightly but I think a good attitude is helpful wheneveer it can be stirred up. If I get rejected in the future and I post maybe you can all cheer me up and remind me that he's not good enough for me http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif I just wanted to post a bright spot in the day. MF

WOOHOO, MF!! Doing the Happy Dance for ya! http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/dance.gif Both for his wonderful response (this guy sounds like a keeper!) and especially for your courage! I like your "truck loads of guts." LOL Thanks for posting. I love hearing about success stories like this. I need to be reminded too that not everyone will reject us for this thing. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

TheOneInFour

MF

And another WOO HOO!!!! from me too!

Open-minded people jump out of the woodwork at the oddest times, but there are more of them around than we think. Keep us posted; this could be interesting!

I like your attitude about dealing with it using humour. Let's face it, STD experiences sometimes have a certain darkly humorous quality to them; OK, make that very dark indeed... ;-)

Go girl!

Garnet

MF,

one more WOO HOO!!

I hope you let this guy take you out, like they said--he sounds like a keeper indeed! And congrats on gathering the courage, I'm so glad you got thru that!

Wow, MF, I am so proud of you!!! You go girl! This guy does seem great, when are you going out with him?
Gosh, I wish I had some friends "in person" like you because right now i feel so isolated. I'm on the other coast though http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif Good luck with the new guy!

Way to go! Like everyone else, I'm proud of you.

By the way, I have a date this weekend with a guy I might tell. If I do, I'll post the story here.

Karen

Good luck, Karen! I'm rooting for ya. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif

1in4