hello i am a loving husband who loves my wife with all the world she is fighting breast cancer here chemo is makeing here sick she recently got the nulesta shot and she has a high fever does any one have advice on how to work with a fever during chemo please help me.....

my wife found it hard to understand that my love for her wasnt less because she had no hair or was going to have a mastectomy i was much more concerned that she be rid of the cancer i had to convince her that i loved her for her many special qualities not her left breast ....:confused::confused:

Hi lachefjoey....

Am sorry to hear you are going through this emotional turmoil. I am a breast cancer victim, now a survivor, who has gone thru what your wife is going through now.

I do remember those Neulasta shots. If your wife is having high fevers you need to contact her oncologist (cancer doctor). They are the only ones that can really tell you how to care for the fevers. They should also be iformated if they are ongong so they can determine if she is having other problems causing her to run fevers.

How is she doing otherwise? Medicine has advanced so much compared to 20 years ago that chemo is much easier to handle. I was lucky and only had one weekend of nausea.

Do stay in touch and let us know how your wife does and if her fevers are getting any better.

Take care and hugs to you both.

Sincerely,
Linda

As a breast cancer survivor, 2 yrs out, just wanted to add dealing with the dx and treatment is surreal and an emotional roller-coaster for most of us.

There are body issues, side effects from current and ongoing meds related to the breast cancer, not to mention varying degrees of fear, terror, depression, sadness, anger and feelings of loss of the "previous life and health.", all changing day to day or even hour to hour.

So I am just saying, there will probably be alot of ups and downs and you won't always understand why she says or does the things she does. - Most women do associate to some extent their hair and breasts with femininity and attractiveness. It will take time, but you will work together for a "new normal."

The best thing you can do for her is listen to her, be patient and continue to love her. Don't take it personally, if she is angry or sad some days.

Best wishes to you and your wife.
Things will get better in time.:)

Hi lachefjoey,

I just want you to know that I had a fever following each Neulasta shot throughout my chemo treatments. The others on this board are right, you need to communicate each fever to your doctor. If it is like me, she may just have to take tylenol when it occurs, but you must rule everything else out first!

Take Care,
Terry

you sound like a great guy, good luck with everything. my mom survived breast cancer a few years ago