lookinforanswer
06-15-2008, 10:52 PM
Hi,
I am so sad for my friend right now, she just lost her husband almost 2 weeks ago to Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma.
He has been battling with this for 15 years. He was so strong to have survived that long, his last 2 years were not really good, but he could still get around somewhat.
He was a very special person, he loved her so much, and she loved him to the end.
She told my Mom that everywhere she goes she sees him, she sees him in the clouds, the trees, etc.
I haven't emailed her since his death so she can have her closure. Now she says that her family has pretty much gone on with their lives, back to work and her sister went back home to another state.
I feel bad for her and I want to talk to her but I don't know what to say. I was pretty close to her for a couple of years then I haven't seen her in a while being she had to take care of her husband. I have emailed her since I have seen her. I have told her I think about her and she is in my prayers. But now what do I say now that he is gone. I am not good with words and I don't want her to be offended and mad and I don't want to contact her too soon. But I do want to let her know that I am thinking of her. I don't want her to cry, I can't even imagine the pain and hurt she is in right now.
I know that if something happened to my husband tomorrow, I would just die. He and I are inseperable we work together, come home together and go to bed with each other. There is never a time we are apart but for some instances where we have to be away for a couple of hours.
I don't know what to say or do.
Thanks for letting me vent.
I am so sad for my friend right now, she just lost her husband almost 2 weeks ago to Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma.
He has been battling with this for 15 years. He was so strong to have survived that long, his last 2 years were not really good, but he could still get around somewhat.
He was a very special person, he loved her so much, and she loved him to the end.
She told my Mom that everywhere she goes she sees him, she sees him in the clouds, the trees, etc.
I haven't emailed her since his death so she can have her closure. Now she says that her family has pretty much gone on with their lives, back to work and her sister went back home to another state.
I feel bad for her and I want to talk to her but I don't know what to say. I was pretty close to her for a couple of years then I haven't seen her in a while being she had to take care of her husband. I have emailed her since I have seen her. I have told her I think about her and she is in my prayers. But now what do I say now that he is gone. I am not good with words and I don't want her to be offended and mad and I don't want to contact her too soon. But I do want to let her know that I am thinking of her. I don't want her to cry, I can't even imagine the pain and hurt she is in right now.
I know that if something happened to my husband tomorrow, I would just die. He and I are inseperable we work together, come home together and go to bed with each other. There is never a time we are apart but for some instances where we have to be away for a couple of hours.
I don't know what to say or do.
Thanks for letting me vent.
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cardshark
06-16-2008, 02:18 AM
I would suggest letting her know that you are there if she needs someone to talk to or go out and do something with and just let her know that you love her and are there if she needs you. Let her know you're thinking of her. I might would do it through sending her a "Thinking of You" card in the mail. Then she knows if she is ready and needs to talk she is welcome to call or email you but your not pushing that she does too soon. That basically leaves it up to her and how she feels.
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