resel
06-23-2008, 07:34 PM
Hi,
I've only slept with ONE girl in my time (my ex girlfriend) - later in our relationship, about 8 months I would say, something happened to her that her vagina was in a lot of pain, she couldn't pee and had not spots but BIG... (when you burn yourself, after a few days that place becomes bigger and is filled with liquid) well she had those, sorry can't remember what they are called now! :)
So when she went to see a Doctor, she was told she had herpes... and appearantly I gave it to her! Through oral sex?! I have only slept with her and no one else in my life, my only sexual partner and for the first 8 months everything was ok and then bam! she has herpes and I gave them to her?! - Is this possible?
Aperantly - it was explained to me by her Father actually, that sometimes men have this virus on their lips from COLD WEATHER and can past it on to females via oral sex giving them herpes?
And another funny thing is that her Father had the same big 'spots' on his head after she bit him on it?! (he's bold)...
I am very confused by this but anyways... -
Now that I have a different girlfriend, I am worried in case I would pass it on to her as well? Do you guys think I actually do have herpes? And what should I do? :S
Me and my ex ALWAYS used condoms for penetration sex!
Please help, thank you :)
I've only slept with ONE girl in my time (my ex girlfriend) - later in our relationship, about 8 months I would say, something happened to her that her vagina was in a lot of pain, she couldn't pee and had not spots but BIG... (when you burn yourself, after a few days that place becomes bigger and is filled with liquid) well she had those, sorry can't remember what they are called now! :)
So when she went to see a Doctor, she was told she had herpes... and appearantly I gave it to her! Through oral sex?! I have only slept with her and no one else in my life, my only sexual partner and for the first 8 months everything was ok and then bam! she has herpes and I gave them to her?! - Is this possible?
Aperantly - it was explained to me by her Father actually, that sometimes men have this virus on their lips from COLD WEATHER and can past it on to females via oral sex giving them herpes?
And another funny thing is that her Father had the same big 'spots' on his head after she bit him on it?! (he's bold)...
I am very confused by this but anyways... -
Now that I have a different girlfriend, I am worried in case I would pass it on to her as well? Do you guys think I actually do have herpes? And what should I do? :S
Me and my ex ALWAYS used condoms for penetration sex!
Please help, thank you :)
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Thisby
06-24-2008, 12:43 AM
There is absolutely no way you could have gotten the herpes virus from "cold weather". It's a virus, not .... I don't know, something you get from the cold, like a runny nose.
I also wouldn't trust that you're the one who gave it to her. If you've had no other sexual contact, and never had an outbreak, you can't be sure you have it. Do you even have oral herpes? You never actually said in your post.
Also, yes, it's possible to have herpes in other places on your body. I saw a medical photo once of a guy with it on his ear. As for the dad having it on his head, possible. And in fact, if that's what it is, makes it seem far more likely that your ex got it from contact with that (no, I'm not suggesting anything improper), it's just that if it's out there in the open, it's more likely to get touched by either his hands or hers, and then she could transfer it... anyway, just an alternate theory.
You should see if there's a way to get tested even though you don't currently have an outbreak. It's important that you find out for sure. You sure don't want to be spreading it around.
I also wouldn't trust that you're the one who gave it to her. If you've had no other sexual contact, and never had an outbreak, you can't be sure you have it. Do you even have oral herpes? You never actually said in your post.
Also, yes, it's possible to have herpes in other places on your body. I saw a medical photo once of a guy with it on his ear. As for the dad having it on his head, possible. And in fact, if that's what it is, makes it seem far more likely that your ex got it from contact with that (no, I'm not suggesting anything improper), it's just that if it's out there in the open, it's more likely to get touched by either his hands or hers, and then she could transfer it... anyway, just an alternate theory.
You should see if there's a way to get tested even though you don't currently have an outbreak. It's important that you find out for sure. You sure don't want to be spreading it around.
resel
06-24-2008, 09:32 PM
Thank you for your reply :)
Exactly, that's what I'm confused about... :S
Myself, well, I don't think I have oral herpes... :S - how would I know if I had oral herpes? What would be the symptoms because... I have never really noticed anything strange around my mouth or lips... :S how one would know they have oral herpes?
This is confusing me :S
There is absolutely no way you could have gotten the herpes virus from "cold weather". It's a virus, not .... I don't know, something you get from the cold, like a runny nose.
I also wouldn't trust that you're the one who gave it to her. If you've had no other sexual contact, and never had an outbreak, you can't be sure you have it. Do you even have oral herpes? You never actually said in your post.
Also, yes, it's possible to have herpes in other places on your body. I saw a medical photo once of a guy with it on his ear. As for the dad having it on his head, possible. And in fact, if that's what it is, makes it seem far more likely that your ex got it from contact with that (no, I'm not suggesting anything improper), it's just that if it's out there in the open, it's more likely to get touched by either his hands or hers, and then she could transfer it... anyway, just an alternate theory.
You should see if there's a way to get tested even though you don't currently have an outbreak. It's important that you find out for sure. You sure don't want to be spreading it around.
Exactly, that's what I'm confused about... :S
Myself, well, I don't think I have oral herpes... :S - how would I know if I had oral herpes? What would be the symptoms because... I have never really noticed anything strange around my mouth or lips... :S how one would know they have oral herpes?
This is confusing me :S
There is absolutely no way you could have gotten the herpes virus from "cold weather". It's a virus, not .... I don't know, something you get from the cold, like a runny nose.
I also wouldn't trust that you're the one who gave it to her. If you've had no other sexual contact, and never had an outbreak, you can't be sure you have it. Do you even have oral herpes? You never actually said in your post.
Also, yes, it's possible to have herpes in other places on your body. I saw a medical photo once of a guy with it on his ear. As for the dad having it on his head, possible. And in fact, if that's what it is, makes it seem far more likely that your ex got it from contact with that (no, I'm not suggesting anything improper), it's just that if it's out there in the open, it's more likely to get touched by either his hands or hers, and then she could transfer it... anyway, just an alternate theory.
You should see if there's a way to get tested even though you don't currently have an outbreak. It's important that you find out for sure. You sure don't want to be spreading it around.
marvulus
06-25-2008, 12:52 AM
I think they say something like 70-80 percent of the population has oral herpes. You can get it by your grandmother giving you a kiss. Have you ever had a cold soar on your lips? If not then I doubt you gave her herpes in the way shes saying even if you have oral herpes. An open sore on your lips would have been required. Even with that it's rare to transmit it that way. If anything she cheated on you.
o and you can be tested for herpes. more or less they take a cotton swap and stick it in your penis. it's kinda painful. then they send it to the lab. it's not always accurate. It's best to get tested when you have sores.
if she has genital herpes it's quite possible you also have it, especially if you slept with her when you say soars. Generally though you should have had your first outbreak within a week or two from contact. If it's been months you might be in the clear, but I'd still get tested.
my question is why would her father have this talk with you? seems a little suspect. is he a little weird?
o and you can be tested for herpes. more or less they take a cotton swap and stick it in your penis. it's kinda painful. then they send it to the lab. it's not always accurate. It's best to get tested when you have sores.
if she has genital herpes it's quite possible you also have it, especially if you slept with her when you say soars. Generally though you should have had your first outbreak within a week or two from contact. If it's been months you might be in the clear, but I'd still get tested.
my question is why would her father have this talk with you? seems a little suspect. is he a little weird?
resel
06-25-2008, 01:48 PM
You see, I don't know if I've had cold soar on my lips... the only thing I can remember is, when it was winter and cold I had some sortof like white lines/cuts on both sides where bottom and upper lips meet... and it was a bit painful but I'm assuming it's because of a cold? - I don't know what herpes or cold soar would look like... but when I googled for some images of both, I've never had anything like that on my lips or sexual organs from what I saw in the images on google, :S so I really don't know :/ - but that 'cuts' I had I can't remember when I had them, was it before her or how I don't remember. But as I said, they were a little painful when I would open my mouth :S
Her father did not talk to me about it, but he did explaine how she got it to her and that I gave it to her that's why she says I gave it to her... and to answer to your question, if her father is 'weird' - he's not her real father, she's adopted, and she did say that when she was little he would do things to her so there you go :S...
Really confusing, I think I will need to call her up and talk to her about it again, find out how she got infected with this herpes thing. - When she had it, she showed it to me and around her vagina she had a lot of big blister-like things and it hurt her when she had to pee or even move...
:S Strange this is :/
And I'm too scared to have things put into my penis, omg I could not handle the pain! lol very sensitive to things like that, and needles :|
I think they say something like 70-80 percent of the population has oral herpes. You can get it by your grandmother giving you a kiss. Have you ever had a cold soar on your lips? If not then I doubt you gave her herpes in the way shes saying even if you have oral herpes. An open sore on your lips would have been required. Even with that it's rare to transmit it that way. If anything she cheated on you.
o and you can be tested for herpes. more or less they take a cotton swap and stick it in your penis. it's kinda painful. then they send it to the lab. it's not always accurate. It's best to get tested when you have sores.
if she has genital herpes it's quite possible you also have it, especially if you slept with her when you say soars. Generally though you should have had your first outbreak within a week or two from contact. If it's been months you might be in the clear, but I'd still get tested.
my question is why would her father have this talk with you? seems a little suspect. is he a little weird?
Her father did not talk to me about it, but he did explaine how she got it to her and that I gave it to her that's why she says I gave it to her... and to answer to your question, if her father is 'weird' - he's not her real father, she's adopted, and she did say that when she was little he would do things to her so there you go :S...
Really confusing, I think I will need to call her up and talk to her about it again, find out how she got infected with this herpes thing. - When she had it, she showed it to me and around her vagina she had a lot of big blister-like things and it hurt her when she had to pee or even move...
:S Strange this is :/
And I'm too scared to have things put into my penis, omg I could not handle the pain! lol very sensitive to things like that, and needles :|
I think they say something like 70-80 percent of the population has oral herpes. You can get it by your grandmother giving you a kiss. Have you ever had a cold soar on your lips? If not then I doubt you gave her herpes in the way shes saying even if you have oral herpes. An open sore on your lips would have been required. Even with that it's rare to transmit it that way. If anything she cheated on you.
o and you can be tested for herpes. more or less they take a cotton swap and stick it in your penis. it's kinda painful. then they send it to the lab. it's not always accurate. It's best to get tested when you have sores.
if she has genital herpes it's quite possible you also have it, especially if you slept with her when you say soars. Generally though you should have had your first outbreak within a week or two from contact. If it's been months you might be in the clear, but I'd still get tested.
my question is why would her father have this talk with you? seems a little suspect. is he a little weird?
marvulus
06-25-2008, 06:00 PM
most of the time oral herpes just looks like a simple cut on your lips. so what you're describing probably was oral herpes. it has nothing to do with the cold, but they happen the most around winter time because your immune system is weakened.
how long has it been since you slept with her when she had blisters? generally your first outbreak is within a couple weeks of contact.
how long has it been since you slept with her when she had blisters? generally your first outbreak is within a couple weeks of contact.
Thisby
06-26-2008, 12:23 AM
Actually, I've seen cold sores on a couple of co-workers and they didn't look at all like what you described. Again, I'd say you are probably clear. But if you ever do get anything, get it checked asap.
As for your new info about her dad. I am now very suspicious. For him to tell her that she got it from your (supposed) oral herpes (that you got from the cold) is just bizarre.
As for how they test for herpes if you aren't having an outbreak, you really should call a clinic and ask. That's the only way to find out. :)
As for your new info about her dad. I am now very suspicious. For him to tell her that she got it from your (supposed) oral herpes (that you got from the cold) is just bizarre.
As for how they test for herpes if you aren't having an outbreak, you really should call a clinic and ask. That's the only way to find out. :)
jenuine86
07-07-2008, 03:18 PM
yea.. buddy.. I don't think you gave her herpes.. her dad seems to know all too well about herpes and it seems odd to me he'd be so quick to blame you when he's infected with them himself.. you should be able to get tested to see if you have them, but I highly doubt it was you.. has she had sexual partners before you? the fact that her father has them suggests things I'd rather not say.. just make sure you're ok and you can work from there. Good luck!