gorgee
06-27-2008, 10:09 AM
I am trying to lose weight. Yesterday, my husband brought it to my attention that I need to lose weight, and I should look in the mirror. I have gained some weight over the last year, and yesterday I took all the frustration out on the treadmill, and today I am hurting. I would say I have started a flare up, my legs and arms are achey. I guess I would have to say I am a mess, emotionally and physically. I want to be stronger, and I have been trying to work out with weights too for my upper body.
My husband has come out to say he is unhappily married, and he does not want to be around me. All the functions or even being next to me, he cannot stand me. He says he is tired of me talking about my health, how I am feeling, and what I think I have now. I asked him to go to the doctors with me so the doctor can explain fibro, and the other health issues I have, mostly the temporal tendonits and fibro run my life.
How much exercise do you guys do? If you do, do you take it slow and easy, and slowly build yourself up? I need to be strong and build myself up for so many reasons. What is the best way?
Thank you,
Kassandra
My husband has come out to say he is unhappily married, and he does not want to be around me. All the functions or even being next to me, he cannot stand me. He says he is tired of me talking about my health, how I am feeling, and what I think I have now. I asked him to go to the doctors with me so the doctor can explain fibro, and the other health issues I have, mostly the temporal tendonits and fibro run my life.
How much exercise do you guys do? If you do, do you take it slow and easy, and slowly build yourself up? I need to be strong and build myself up for so many reasons. What is the best way?
Thank you,
Kassandra
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sherryrenee0423
06-27-2008, 11:04 AM
Hi Kass,
I'm so sorry your husband isn't trying to understand what you are going through.
Exercise is good for fibro. It hurts like hell when you first start, but it eventually give you more energy, helps your muscles, and reduces depression and stress. Don't take your frustrations out on your treadmill or your body...you will only pay for it later. My rheumy suggested starting with 10 minutes for one week. Walk slowly on your treadmill for 10 minutes each day this week, then bump it up to 15 next week and so on. Walking is good for you...running is not. When my body and pain were really bad, i bought a yoga dvd for pregnant women. I wasn't pregnant, but the exercises were modified for limited range of motion etc. Focus on stretching...that really helped me. I try to stretch several times a day everyday. Yoga will also help you build strength so lifting weights won't be necessary, unless you just want to.
Focus on your mental, physical and spiritual health. Doing that will help you deal with the situation with your husband. Good luck.
I'm so sorry your husband isn't trying to understand what you are going through.
Exercise is good for fibro. It hurts like hell when you first start, but it eventually give you more energy, helps your muscles, and reduces depression and stress. Don't take your frustrations out on your treadmill or your body...you will only pay for it later. My rheumy suggested starting with 10 minutes for one week. Walk slowly on your treadmill for 10 minutes each day this week, then bump it up to 15 next week and so on. Walking is good for you...running is not. When my body and pain were really bad, i bought a yoga dvd for pregnant women. I wasn't pregnant, but the exercises were modified for limited range of motion etc. Focus on stretching...that really helped me. I try to stretch several times a day everyday. Yoga will also help you build strength so lifting weights won't be necessary, unless you just want to.
Focus on your mental, physical and spiritual health. Doing that will help you deal with the situation with your husband. Good luck.
Glojer
06-27-2008, 10:52 PM
Kass, slow and easy is the name of the game. I have been exercising for a very long time and if I miss a few days, I have to start back slow and easy. I of course don't go back to the 10min. thing but I do less time on my treadmill and cut back the reps on my weights and usually the don't do some of the exercises until I can build up again. The key to it is to do something everyday no matter how small. Even if it is just a small stretch exercise that day. Sometimes that is all I can do, the stretches I do every morning when I wake up, they aren't much just a little to get going.
Glojer
Glojer
RigelBee
06-27-2008, 11:40 PM
Hello!
I know this is going to sound odd - but I started doing "Rebound" exercise on a mini-trampoline about 2 weeks ago. It seems to be working wonders for my pain.
I have been in such pain for a year. I did NOT know what to do with myself. I thought there had to be something horribly wrong with me, and I was at a loss as to what to do. I found an article about Rebound exercise and the value of it as related to lymphatic cleansing and cardiovascular health without the stress on joints that comes with running or treadmill work.
Honestly, I started out just bouncing for 3 minutes. I have had a week of NO PAIN. I don't get it, but I am not stopping!
I hope this helps somebody else out there.
aloha:angel:
I know this is going to sound odd - but I started doing "Rebound" exercise on a mini-trampoline about 2 weeks ago. It seems to be working wonders for my pain.
I have been in such pain for a year. I did NOT know what to do with myself. I thought there had to be something horribly wrong with me, and I was at a loss as to what to do. I found an article about Rebound exercise and the value of it as related to lymphatic cleansing and cardiovascular health without the stress on joints that comes with running or treadmill work.
Honestly, I started out just bouncing for 3 minutes. I have had a week of NO PAIN. I don't get it, but I am not stopping!
I hope this helps somebody else out there.
aloha:angel:
Moonlady
06-28-2008, 02:49 AM
Slow and easy is the only way. I have gained weight too since this all started, I think weight loss or gain is really common with fibro.
I probably shouldn't say this but if my husband ever said anything like that to me or treated me that way I would be out the door so fast it would make his head spin... yes, I would leave him. My ex-husband treated me like that and that is the main reason he is my ex. I won't put up with that kind of treatment... I don't have to.
I probably shouldn't say this but if my husband ever said anything like that to me or treated me that way I would be out the door so fast it would make his head spin... yes, I would leave him. My ex-husband treated me like that and that is the main reason he is my ex. I won't put up with that kind of treatment... I don't have to.
Paddy55
06-28-2008, 10:18 AM
Kass - it's great you are trying out exercise - it is really important both for the bod and the mind. Slow and easy of course like everyone else has replied. I was told the treadmill is for short periods only, because it is not a "natural" movement, that walking outdoors when possible is better. Fresh air, Vitamin D, and getting out are all good reasons for walking outdoors too.
Kass, I think I've told you about aquatherapy? I started out with doctor-prescribed physiotherapy in a warm water pool, very slowly. It has been a life saver, because I was permitted to start out very slowly, build a good range of motion for all my joints, without any pressure on the joints because they are under water. (your feet are on the bottom - you don't have to "float"). It is soothing because you feel buoyant. Once I slowly gained a full range of motion for my arms, shoulders, knees etc., then I began very light strenthening exercises in the water, and then later was able to do some of the cardio work. I still do this, 2 to 3 times per week, and it is a godsend. I do just what I can, and sometimes all I can do is float on a noodle, but couldn't survive without it. You should know that I've been doing this for over 20 years, that it takes slow and steady progress, not fast and furious. I love the companionship of my aqua-buddies too - all of us have some issue - replaced joints, lupus, fm, ms, arthritis, and support each other like we do on this board.
I highly recommend this - Can you get a prescription for PT, or even if you can just go privately. Most rheumie's know where you can get this program, if not, your doc should help you find a place. Must be warm water.
Don't give up Kass. Keep us posted.
Wishing you peace and comfort,
Paddy
Kass, I think I've told you about aquatherapy? I started out with doctor-prescribed physiotherapy in a warm water pool, very slowly. It has been a life saver, because I was permitted to start out very slowly, build a good range of motion for all my joints, without any pressure on the joints because they are under water. (your feet are on the bottom - you don't have to "float"). It is soothing because you feel buoyant. Once I slowly gained a full range of motion for my arms, shoulders, knees etc., then I began very light strenthening exercises in the water, and then later was able to do some of the cardio work. I still do this, 2 to 3 times per week, and it is a godsend. I do just what I can, and sometimes all I can do is float on a noodle, but couldn't survive without it. You should know that I've been doing this for over 20 years, that it takes slow and steady progress, not fast and furious. I love the companionship of my aqua-buddies too - all of us have some issue - replaced joints, lupus, fm, ms, arthritis, and support each other like we do on this board.
I highly recommend this - Can you get a prescription for PT, or even if you can just go privately. Most rheumie's know where you can get this program, if not, your doc should help you find a place. Must be warm water.
Don't give up Kass. Keep us posted.
Wishing you peace and comfort,
Paddy
kathy4399
06-28-2008, 10:33 AM
I have found that the best exercise is walking. Go at your own pace and go outside to do it. The fresh air does wonders.
Fibro is not something we chose and putting on a few pounds is something that goes with the territory. With all the meds we take we can't help it. If no one can appreciate who we are inside then that is someone that we don't need in our lives.
Get the exercise to help your body. Don't do it just to please someone else.
Fibro is not something we chose and putting on a few pounds is something that goes with the territory. With all the meds we take we can't help it. If no one can appreciate who we are inside then that is someone that we don't need in our lives.
Get the exercise to help your body. Don't do it just to please someone else.
ana33
07-16-2008, 05:32 AM
[QUOTE=Kass3175;3624754]I am trying to lose weight. Yesterday, my husband brought it to my attention that I need to lose weight, and I should look in the mirror. I have gained some weight over the last year, and yesterday I took all the frustration out on the treadmill, and today I am hurting. I would say I have started a flare up, my legs and arms are achey. I guess I would have to say I am a mess, emotionally and physically. I want to be stronger, and I have been trying to work out with weights too for my upper body.
My husband has come out to say he is unhappily married, and he does not want to be around me. All the functions or even being next to me, he cannot stand me. He says he is tired of me talking about my health, how I am feeling, and what I think I have now. I asked him to go to the doctors with me so the doctor can explain fibro, and the other health issues I have, mostly the temporal tendonits and fibro run my life.
How much exercise do you guys do? If you do, do you take it slow and easy, and slowly build yourself up? I need to be strong and build myself up for so many reasons. What is the best way?
Thank you,
Kassandra
Hi, i have Fibromyalgia and i am like you. I am over weight and i went to the doctor as i can't do much exercise. I asked if i could go on reductial and he said that it would be a good thing. It does cost but its worth it in the long run.
You need to talk to you doctor and he will talk to you about it. You need to have positive support from your family and friends not negitive.
My partner is great hes very supportive and is there for me when i am in pain and is there to help me.
I can only do 20 mins walking if that and have been told i can not go to the gym to lose weight. I am not allowed to work either.
I don't get much support from my family as they of me complaining so i don't talk to them much. Keep your head up and be positive if you can.
Ana
My husband has come out to say he is unhappily married, and he does not want to be around me. All the functions or even being next to me, he cannot stand me. He says he is tired of me talking about my health, how I am feeling, and what I think I have now. I asked him to go to the doctors with me so the doctor can explain fibro, and the other health issues I have, mostly the temporal tendonits and fibro run my life.
How much exercise do you guys do? If you do, do you take it slow and easy, and slowly build yourself up? I need to be strong and build myself up for so many reasons. What is the best way?
Thank you,
Kassandra
Hi, i have Fibromyalgia and i am like you. I am over weight and i went to the doctor as i can't do much exercise. I asked if i could go on reductial and he said that it would be a good thing. It does cost but its worth it in the long run.
You need to talk to you doctor and he will talk to you about it. You need to have positive support from your family and friends not negitive.
My partner is great hes very supportive and is there for me when i am in pain and is there to help me.
I can only do 20 mins walking if that and have been told i can not go to the gym to lose weight. I am not allowed to work either.
I don't get much support from my family as they of me complaining so i don't talk to them much. Keep your head up and be positive if you can.
Ana
shelovescliche
07-25-2008, 05:58 PM
Last summer I had a workout routine that I did, along with walks that I went on almost every day (I went to the local dog park, which is a lot of woodsy trails, some uphill, and I usually went the 2 mile route). The workouts themselves were really low-intensity. One was more of a pilates-type workout, while the other was short enough not to cause immense pain, though there were still days I was too tired to do them.
Unfortunately I relapsed during the fall, and again this spring, so I'm still not up to the energy that I had last summer. I've tried doing a new workout the past few weeks, one that has strength training in it, too, because now that I've lost 40 lbs, I really want to tone up. The first time I did the work out, I did the whole circuit, but I paid for it. I was in such horrible pain for the next five days, I could barely move.
I tried doing only half the workout the next time, and while my abs and legs were only slightly sore two days later, my arms were useless (I almost cried when I couldn't pick up the bathroom mat). I'm going to try it again tomorrow, while lightening up on the arm workouts as much as possible, but it's still really disheartening to realize just how much I can't do in comparison to normal people.
My doctor told me yesterday that the trick is just tot ake it really slow, and to start the workout without any actual weights at first, but it's hard. I like exercising, and it makes me feel better when I'm not overdoing it. I guess the trick is just to figure out how to not overdo it while still reaping the benefits.
Unfortunately I relapsed during the fall, and again this spring, so I'm still not up to the energy that I had last summer. I've tried doing a new workout the past few weeks, one that has strength training in it, too, because now that I've lost 40 lbs, I really want to tone up. The first time I did the work out, I did the whole circuit, but I paid for it. I was in such horrible pain for the next five days, I could barely move.
I tried doing only half the workout the next time, and while my abs and legs were only slightly sore two days later, my arms were useless (I almost cried when I couldn't pick up the bathroom mat). I'm going to try it again tomorrow, while lightening up on the arm workouts as much as possible, but it's still really disheartening to realize just how much I can't do in comparison to normal people.
My doctor told me yesterday that the trick is just tot ake it really slow, and to start the workout without any actual weights at first, but it's hard. I like exercising, and it makes me feel better when I'm not overdoing it. I guess the trick is just to figure out how to not overdo it while still reaping the benefits.
searcher333
07-28-2008, 05:33 PM
Don't be a door mat. Lose weight because it will help you feel better in your joints muscles and self esteem. Husbands and other relatives are usually unhelpful for FMS sufferers; find a rheumatologist that has FMS themselves if possible. Walking as much as you can every day will certainly help, eat smaller portions of whole grains, fresh fruits, and vegetables, meat, fish, poultry, dairy, and take meds that work for you to alleviate pain/depression/insomnia, or any other symptoms. Do what you can, when you can, and refuse to be intimidated by "well meaning" relatives/friends.
julieleaps
08-13-2008, 12:44 AM
I'd have to 2nd the motion to try aquatherapy! I had (notice I said "had"?) been going 3times a week until recently. I am noticing a difference in my flexibility and aches and pains. I stopped a couple weeks ago, since my schedule was crazy right before vacation, last week I was on vacation, and this week we are shorthanded at work due to someone else's vacation. So I am putting my well being on hold. I have to take off work from 10-noon on Mon, Wed & Fri, as that is the only time aquatherapy is offered in our area.
I am going back on my schedule next week. I have realized that this is something I NEED to do; it's not an optional program for me.
I'm fortunate that my boss understands. In fact, he asked me recently why I wasn't going! It's a pain to fit it into my work schedule, but it's also a pain for me to not go.
I am going back on my schedule next week. I have realized that this is something I NEED to do; it's not an optional program for me.
I'm fortunate that my boss understands. In fact, he asked me recently why I wasn't going! It's a pain to fit it into my work schedule, but it's also a pain for me to not go.