I am new to these boards and sure hope someone can help me out. I am too afraid to ask my Doctor at this point, but may have to at some point. I had unprotected sex with a man, who had unprotected sex with another woman about a week or so before he was with me (I didnt find this out til after I had slept with him) What I am wondering is, if this other woman was HIV positive, is it possible for him to be able to pass it on to me seeing that it was only a week between the time that he slept with both of us? I know this may sound confusing but I hope you understand what I am trying to ask. Is there a certain amount of time that needs to pass before a person can transmit the virus I guess is the easiest way to ask---I know i was SO foolish to have unprotected sex, but there was alcohol involved and altho that is not an excuse, it does tend to bring your level of judgement down and now that I think about it I am scared silly. He told me the chances of contracting HIV when you only sleep with someone once is slim..that your risk increases the more often you sleep with an infected person, is this true? I am so naive to all of this and so scared. People on here seem very caring and not judgemental and that is what I need right now. Thanks for any help

For your own peace of mind get tested. If he slept with another woman chances are good that he may have slept with others (even if he claims he has not). If this woman was HIV positive and he got infected from her and then infected you -- well, it is possible but I think the chances are slim. He is very wrong though about having to fooling around with someone more than once. It only takes one time to get infected, true the more often you have sex the higher the chances but one time can do it.

So get tested to relieve your mind and then get a second testing in 6 months just to make certain you are negative.

HI Mark and thank you for the reply..how long should I wait to get the first test? This all just happened this past weekend so should I wait awhile to get tested? I am worried about the fact that he has probably slept with more than one woman and hasnt used protection - my belief is if he did it twice w/o using protection he has probably done it several times, of course he denies that. I cant change the past altho god knows I wish i could, I didnt realize til i sobered up that I gambled with my life and now I just hope the odds arent against me. Thanks again for your help.

Get tested in a couple of months and then get tested again in 6 months, then once a year after that if you continue to be sexually active without protection. I wish you the best and please let us know how your test turns out. Most of all, don't worry yourself sick about it. I know that's hard not to do, but worrying will not help you either way. Best wishes to you on this and please keep us posted.

HI Mark..thanks again for the reply..Ok I will get tested in a couple of months..it is SO hard NOT to worry, but worrying wont change the outcome, so I am trying to relax but I find it consumes almost my every thought. Right now I am feeling fine..have no signs or symptoms so hopefully everything will be OK..I appreciate your support! Thanks!

I remind you (and everyone else) that the morning after is not the time to get worried about STDs. I'm sure it was in the heat of the moment and there was trust and everything else but you have to remember that HIV is out there. I know everyone else has seen the latest info regarding the widespread impact and projections of the disease. And contrary to popular belief, HIV patients do not have green slime leaking out of their heads or any other readily-identifiable appearance so you can tell who's infected and who's not.

If you want 100% peace of mind, be 100% safe and use a condom 100% of the time. It really is that simple.

Very well put YIKES~ trust me I learned a valuable lesson....never again will I have unprotected sex!

very well said yikes! http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif i totally agree. hope everything works out for you beemer. take care of yourself, and God bless! http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif