Ronnied
07-24-2008, 04:03 AM
Hi everyone,
I wonder if someone can tell what happens when you are told you have three tumours one in one lung and two in the other. My mum was told last night that all three tumours are growing and she needs chemotherapy. We are waiting for the oncology department to send for mum to explain what happens from here on in. Has anyone been in the situation waiting, can you tell me if she has to have chemo what actually happens? Is it once a week once a day or once a month, will she be very sick? Will she lose her hair? Her reaction was that she didnt want chemo because she would be sicker than she is now. She feels that with cancer in both lungs she may not live long and is being ill all the time what she wants? We are in limbo at the moment until we hear from the oncologist. Comments appreciated please.
Ronnie
I wonder if someone can tell what happens when you are told you have three tumours one in one lung and two in the other. My mum was told last night that all three tumours are growing and she needs chemotherapy. We are waiting for the oncology department to send for mum to explain what happens from here on in. Has anyone been in the situation waiting, can you tell me if she has to have chemo what actually happens? Is it once a week once a day or once a month, will she be very sick? Will she lose her hair? Her reaction was that she didnt want chemo because she would be sicker than she is now. She feels that with cancer in both lungs she may not live long and is being ill all the time what she wants? We are in limbo at the moment until we hear from the oncologist. Comments appreciated please.
Ronnie
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Joani123
07-25-2008, 02:15 AM
Hi everyone,
I wonder if someone can tell what happens when you are told you have three tumours one in one lung and two in the other. My mum was told last night that all three tumours are growing and she needs chemotherapy. We are waiting for the oncology department to send for mum to explain what happens from here on in. Has anyone been in the situation waiting, can you tell me if she has to have chemo what actually happens? Is it once a week once a day or once a month, will she be very sick? Will she lose her hair? Her reaction was that she didnt want chemo because she would be sicker than she is now. She feels that with cancer in both lungs she may not live long and is being ill all the time what she wants? We are in limbo at the moment until we hear from the oncologist. Comments appreciated please.
Ronnie
My dad had tumors in both lungs, too. If we had to do it again, we would never have had him had chemo. It took away his hair and his health. I am so sorry to be pessimistic, but if you read the data, it is not very good for long term for you mum. If I were you, I would enjoy your mom and have her enjoy her last days. Chemo takes away anything good that they might have had.
I wonder if someone can tell what happens when you are told you have three tumours one in one lung and two in the other. My mum was told last night that all three tumours are growing and she needs chemotherapy. We are waiting for the oncology department to send for mum to explain what happens from here on in. Has anyone been in the situation waiting, can you tell me if she has to have chemo what actually happens? Is it once a week once a day or once a month, will she be very sick? Will she lose her hair? Her reaction was that she didnt want chemo because she would be sicker than she is now. She feels that with cancer in both lungs she may not live long and is being ill all the time what she wants? We are in limbo at the moment until we hear from the oncologist. Comments appreciated please.
Ronnie
My dad had tumors in both lungs, too. If we had to do it again, we would never have had him had chemo. It took away his hair and his health. I am so sorry to be pessimistic, but if you read the data, it is not very good for long term for you mum. If I were you, I would enjoy your mom and have her enjoy her last days. Chemo takes away anything good that they might have had.
Ronnied
07-25-2008, 08:09 AM
Thanks joani
Can I ask, how long did your dad suffer from finding out? I agree with you that she should enjoy her days now before she gets really poorly.
Ronnie
Can I ask, how long did your dad suffer from finding out? I agree with you that she should enjoy her days now before she gets really poorly.
Ronnie
flintrock
07-28-2008, 07:30 PM
I agree also. Mother in law had chemo at 76 and it was worse than the cancer.............love her and be with her as long as you can....
daughter issues
07-28-2008, 08:07 PM
I'm sitting on the fence on this one. With my Mom, she was sick from the chemo but it prolonged her life, and her symptoms from the chemo didn't last long. The chemo gave her quantity, the radiation gave her quality. Without the chemo my Mom would have passed away after 3 weeks rather than the 10 months. I'd definitely talk to the oncologist and decide with him/her as well as your Mom.
Ronnied
07-29-2008, 02:53 AM
Thank u all for your replies, we are seeing the oncologist very soon, we will discuss it with her.
Ronnie
Ronnie
faqeeha
07-30-2008, 03:46 PM
am new at this thread and when i read abt ur mother it really made me cry cause i lose some one very special 4 ma mother and me(ma moms younger brother).I would only say just let ue mother enjoy all these crucial days.All of ur family members should be a great support to her and make her enjoy when she loses her hair,thats wat i did.Do pray to GOd he will help u and ur mother and lessen her fear and pain.
parying 4 ur mother's health
faqeeha
parying 4 ur mother's health
faqeeha