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[This message has been edited by -rusty- (edited 05-28-2003).]

Rusty, Simply put, you can't prepare yourself. Quite frankly, everyone here is or has been in a similar boat. The problem is, we can anly wait for enough time to pass to see if we are positive or negative. 3 weeks is simply not enough. It was enough time for me to get tested though anf get an "indeterminate result" which essentially meant they couldn't prove one way or another. I started to resaerch things on the web and went nuts over it (not quite over yet but getting there). 3 weeks after the first test, I needed a second opinion. I took a "home access" test which resulted in a negative. Still not sure, I took a second one at about 2 weeks later (about 8 weeks in total so far), it too was negative and about 4 days after that, I had a follow up visit with my which also resulted in negative. You would think that I wouldn't be concerned, however, 90 days is what is said to be 99.99% effective for testing. I have about 10 days left. In short, get tested. and to quote others on this board, after 90 days, believe it. I'm not a paranoid individual, in fact, I'm quite the opposite. Don't get cought up in the "symptoms". You don't even know her status.

Rusty, as said before there is no preparing yourself. Just keep reminding yourself if you hear the results are + it doesn't have to change your life. I will be praying that everything is ok. Try to hang in there!!