Hi

For all who don't know, here's my story;

About 5 weeks ago i was at my best friends party. We all got very drunk and i ended up in the same bed as his girlfriend. She had been flirting with me all night and we ended up touching eachother at first. It's the most ridiculous thing i've ever done and you wouldn't believe the amount of regret i feel. Basically, we had foreplay for about 10 mins on and off and i entered her for a matter of seconds - 4 at the most before i'd realised what had happened and withdrew. From what i remember, she was quite wet but i wasn't.

Anyway, i've been in talks with her ever since to find out her history. She's been with her boyfriend now for a year and they both had HIV and Std tests done upon starting their relationship. Both came back clear. Sam (her boyfriend - who is my best friend!!) has recently told me that he hasn't had sex with any women since the test and neither has she. He has however received oral on two occassions. I believe him 100%. She cries as i keep asking her about her history and whether i need to be worried! I feel really bad about this. Sam has had three STD and HIV checks in the past three years - all were clear.

Sam's previous relationship with another girl led to her having a baby, which incidently turned out not to be his - but which he thought was as they were in a long-term relationship and not using protection! Should i presume that, as the baby is healthy and well, that Sam is clean?

Since it happened i have been panicing everyday and have had a sore throat after an initial cold. I've had no fever, night sweats, rash, aching limbs or loss of appetite. I've had a spot of diarreah and stomach ache on occassion but nothing major (sorry about the detail). This is driving me mad and am having to lie to the girlfriend as i have stopped having sex with her since the incident - for obvious reasons!

I know this has been asked before but i really need some advice - now more than ever. Am i at risk and to what degree?

Please help, thankyou

Hi,

Like I have said many times before, coming here and looking for people to tell you that you do not have HIV is not going to help you. Concern warrants testing. You have health anxiety about HIV right now, and nothing any of us are going to say is going to help you in any way. You exposure was TOTALLY low risk. I believe you said you penetrated for like 4 seconds right? Unless you had an open sore on your penis, and she HAS HIV, then you really dont have anything to worry about whatsoever. If you dont believe me, go to AIDSMEDS.com, and post your questions in the Fears of Getting HIV forum. They are experts living with HIV, and will tell you the same thing I just did.

Good Luck

When you say sore, can you define this?
Thanks

Any area where the skin is cut, open, and where blood or vaginal fluid can enter your blood stream. Your penis hole dosrnt count in case you are wondering.

A pimple, wart, cut, scrape, etc.

Youre fine, relax yourself... http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif

Kris...you're fantastic!!!!! Just thought i'd let you know....i don't have any open sores and haven't done for as long as i can remember.

Kris, I'm sorry to disagree with you this once. The opening of the urethra does pose a small risk of transmission. However, the amount of infected body fluid has to be considerably large to be able to transmit. 4 seconds is absolutely nothing.

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Best wishes.

You say 4 seconds is nothing but i know there is still that risk. But i take on board all that has been said and appreciate all the support and advice.

Just to clarify one thing. If you read the first post on this thread, you will notice the bit about the guy being with a girl before his current girlfriend and the baby. Although it turned out not to be his, he was having unprotected sex with the girl. If the baby was clear i'm just presuming that it means he was clear?

Sorry about that. Anyone is right. But, in your instance, I wouldn't even spend another thought on this. I cant stress enough that if you are THAT worried, you should get tested. We are not going to give you the magic answer here. You can ask questions until the cows come home, but, we cannot give you the answer you are looking for.

The only way to determine HIV status is to get tested, period.

I urge you to get tested. You are spending too much time worrying. From the time you spent from your inital post, you could have had the results of a Home Access test already.

Good Luck

It's only been 5 weeks since the incident though. I have to wait surely? Do you think, from what i've said, that i'll be ok?

Different user name, I registered.

You dont have HIV. End of story.. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif

I'm not answering any more of your silly questions buddy!

Wait a week and test. A 6 week result should be accurate.

Alas, I say it again.....YOU DO NOT HAVE HIV... http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif

I agree with Kris. You are worrying too much and should go get tested so you can prove to yourself you are HIV- which you are very very very very very very likely to be.

I COMPLETELY understand your worry! With ANYTHING there is a possibility you could have contracted HIV, but your chances are EXTREMLEY slim. Also, your negative test, especially at 70+ days are very reassuring, and accurate. Wait the few days, retest. I would bet you are negative. Your risk was VERY LOW!! Be safe.