ajsmomx3
08-13-2008, 02:27 AM
As I had previously posted..I had contracte g.h. from a guy I was seeing while separated from my long term ex with whom I have child with..We have been trying to work out our issues and get back together..Today I told him and it is not going well...First he was furious(still is)..Upset cuz we cannot have the same sex life as before(oral mostly and no protection)..and doesn't really want me anymore..Im so unhappy right now..I guess his love for me has conditions..Discourages me to even try to date ever again:(
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curtailed1
08-13-2008, 04:45 AM
Hang in there. Give him some time. It is a HUGE deal for someone who may not have the virus especially when it will restrict what they are used too sexually with you. Your ex also has to deal with the reality that you were with someone else, his anger could be toward the guy who gave you the virus... he has a lot to sort out. Give him some time. If he loves you - I mean really LOVEs you, then the virus is something he will read up on and try to figure out if he can deal with it. If he doesn't put that much effort into it - you need to let it go and stop beating yourself up. It's not your fault you got hit with this, it wasn't intentional. So, let the ex stomp and go through his assortment of emotions and then see where things fall. One day is not enough for him to figure it all out.
I wish you the best and hope the best and right decisions are made for all concerned.
I wish you the best and hope the best and right decisions are made for all concerned.
keepsgoin
08-13-2008, 12:51 PM
Here's a thought...tell him to go and have the blood test done. It is entirely possible that he has the antibodies already and just doesn't have any outbreaks. In which case, you cannot give him what he always has...make sense? Also do you know which type you have hsv 1 or 2 or both?
ajsmomx3
08-14-2008, 10:35 AM
As far as I know of I have type 2. My Doctor never told me which type I had besides genital. I am so crushed right now. He doesn't ever want to speak to me again. So many years together and he is gonna use this as a reason to never be with me again because he can't deal with it. He says he'll just find someone without anything wrong with them.
harley6
08-14-2008, 12:06 PM
Just don't assume you have Type 2 just bec you had an ob on your genitals. I had an ob down below and test results are Type 1 which I more than likely caught from my recent and current boyfriend from him giving me oral sex. I know this is probably recent b/c my bloodwork came back negative but the swab was positive and was my first ob. Never even had a cold sore. When I told him and gave him the stats on how many people have Type 1 and don't know he understood. He has never had an ob but does remember having a cold sore in high school. So, if he had a cold sore, then he more than likely has Type 1 and doesn't see the need to get tested. I did reassure him that he can't get something he already has. We haven't had any problems, aren't sleeping with anyone else, have sex, oral sex, don't use a condom but I am on Acyclovir and have had just the one ob. If I were to have another ob then obviously we would not have sex. I'd tell him to get tested. But if he is acting this way, is he really worth it? And, if you were just recently tested and your bloodwork came back positive, maybe you've had this a while but haven't had an outbreak. I read several posts that people have had herpes for years but never had an ob until later on.
ajsmomx3
08-14-2008, 02:05 PM
my doctor didn't do any bloodwork..just a swab test during my only outbreak..I should prolly request a blood test..
harley6
08-14-2008, 08:41 PM
I would...the quicker the better to see b/c if it's not in your blood yet then I was told it is a recent infection. If it is, then you have no way of know how long you've had it. Someone on here said it could take 3 or up to 6 months to show up in your blood. I plan to get tested again when they draw blood to see what my cholesterol is to see if I test positive for Type 1. We know the swab did. Good luck!!
ajsmomx3
08-14-2008, 11:03 PM
I am getting my blood done tomorrow..I had my first o.b about a month ago..so it may not show up..have you heard anything about taking garlic to help?? My doctor reccommended it..any other vitamins to reccommend to help the immune system that work??
harley6
08-14-2008, 11:49 PM
Before getting my results back, I've always taken a prenatal, triple omega oil, fiber chews, L-Lysine and just added Acyclovir (script from my gyno) and this yogurt drink that can boost your immune system. I already have a strong immune system...rarely get sick but just want to be safe. This is my busy time of year at work and I don't have time for an ob. Haven't had one since the first, but you never know this early in the game as I've read in several posts...everyone is different. I've never heard of taking garlic. Make sure you get the correct blood test done...several posts on here stated herpeselect Igg or something like that. Be sure, bc I could be wrong!
ajsmomx3
08-15-2008, 01:01 AM
I am currently taking valtrex... I don't understand that Igg thing..does it measure the severity of the virus or how well your body can tolorate it??Im still very new to this and waiting for books to come in the mail..I want to be as educated as possible..
harley6
08-15-2008, 08:50 AM
I don't either...Several posts on here said not to spend too much time trying to figure out the numbers. If you're positive, you're positive. If you're negative, you're negative for now but could be too soon to indicate for sure if it's a recent infection.
ajsmomx3
08-15-2008, 10:59 AM
that's pretty much how I though of it too.. Thank you!!
kilgore52
08-15-2008, 05:44 PM
i really believe that sun, heat and stress are the culprits as to why we have an ob. so try not to worry so much and remain happy and positive. i have a friend that has had it for 30 years and the only time she gets an ob is from sun and stress. remember this was called a FEVER blister before, meaning heat or fever caused it no matter where it was located. so that explains it somewhat. it just also happens to be extra contagious:( also when active. now doctors make you take valtrex or acylover(sp)before anything having to do with laser surgery because they feel that the intense can bring out an ob.
islandgirl
08-20-2008, 04:09 PM
Here's a thought...tell him to go and have the blood test done. It is entirely possible that he has the antibodies already and just doesn't have any outbreaks. In which case, you cannot give him what he always has...make sense? Also do you know which type you have hsv 1 or 2 or both?
We may want to rethink the "you can't give him what he always has". When I was 18 I tested positive for types 1 and 2 and got frequent cold sores on my lip. Never had a problem in my genitals. In my late 30's I had sex with someone who has gh and I have been getting genital ob almost twice a month for the past 10 years. Explain that.
We may want to rethink the "you can't give him what he always has". When I was 18 I tested positive for types 1 and 2 and got frequent cold sores on my lip. Never had a problem in my genitals. In my late 30's I had sex with someone who has gh and I have been getting genital ob almost twice a month for the past 10 years. Explain that.