CONFUSEDSTD
08-13-2008, 07:51 PM
Is There A Way That I Can Get Pregnant, Without Passing The Infection On To My Husband?
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kilgore52
08-13-2008, 10:00 PM
my opinion, no but a lot of people have it and their husband does not. i feel that most do have it but do not have symptoms
CONFUSEDSTD
08-13-2008, 10:19 PM
thanks i really needed to know that, so um even if he doesnt put the sperm directly into me , i mean if he puts it like on my private area if i push it in is it a chance of me getting pregnant or does he have to be inside me
kilgore52
08-14-2008, 02:34 AM
herpes is hard to predict when you can have an ob.
kilgore52
08-14-2008, 02:37 AM
i'm sorry but i'm not clear about what you mean? are you trying to get pregnant? why would you not let him have sex with you the old fashion way? he's already been exposed to you before and either didn't get it or it's dormant. you can always have a csection when you have the baby if you have an ob
CONFUSEDSTD
08-14-2008, 05:50 AM
we use condoms and have our whole relationship. we have never had regular sex. do i have to have blisters, because i dont, my breakouts, if and when i have them look more like razor bumps and last maybe a day, 3 at te most. and yes i am trying to get pregnant just havent quiet figured out a safe way for him and i to do that without him getting it too
matter of time
08-14-2008, 06:27 PM
You just have to take your chances. If you're not having an outbreak and take meds, the odds of him getting it are very small. Condoms do not prevent the spread of herpes so he has been exposed already. He may have it already without symptoms. Ninty percent of the people with herpes do not know they have it. It might be good to have him tested so you don't have to spend the rest of your life worrying about. Him getting herpes is a small price to pay to have children. He should get over the fear of getting it.
My friend was married 16 years with herpes and has 2 kids. As far as they know, her husband does not have it. Then again he may and not know it.
Herpes is not spread through sex (ejaculating inside), it is spread by skin to skin touching so his leaving sperm on the outside does not prevent spread of herpes.
My friend was married 16 years with herpes and has 2 kids. As far as they know, her husband does not have it. Then again he may and not know it.
Herpes is not spread through sex (ejaculating inside), it is spread by skin to skin touching so his leaving sperm on the outside does not prevent spread of herpes.
CONFUSEDSTD
08-14-2008, 09:14 PM
okay so there is no way that him going inside me without a condom could be worse than still using it? does our postions make a difference on being more likely to contract it or is sex just sex and its gonna happen reguardless.
matter of time
08-15-2008, 05:06 PM
They say wearing a condom helps prevent the spread but it depends on where your outbreak is and where you are shedding the virus. It is skin to skin rubbing that spreads the virus.
I think if the man has outbreaks only on his penis wearing a condom could prevent him from spreading it to you. But if YOU have it anywhere on the outside of your vagina then any of his exposed genital skin rubbing against it would spread the virus to him.
There is no 100% way to assure he won't get it but best bet is to avoid sex during outbreaks. Many couples get a away with that for years.
I think if the man has outbreaks only on his penis wearing a condom could prevent him from spreading it to you. But if YOU have it anywhere on the outside of your vagina then any of his exposed genital skin rubbing against it would spread the virus to him.
There is no 100% way to assure he won't get it but best bet is to avoid sex during outbreaks. Many couples get a away with that for years.
CONFUSEDSTD
08-17-2008, 12:53 AM
okay well i also have another question, if your having sex with a person who has herpes as well as yourself is it possible that they can case you to have an outbreak
kilgore52
08-17-2008, 10:08 AM
i say yes because some say the friction and force of having sex can cause an outbreak. also, the virus is spread by the mucus membrains through a break in the skin. it's not just skin to skin like hpv. you need a break in the skin and everyone has this in their vagina and a man's penis. the vagina is soft, moist tissue. how to not get it or spread it? all that is available out there? meds, condoms, abstainance, no oral and good hygiene plus being able to trust your partner saying that they don't have it. that's hard because a lot of people don't have symptoms. it's just risky when you don't really know your partner enough to discuss this and it's also a huge turn off to talk about.
harley6
08-17-2008, 05:43 PM
I've had the one outbreak back in June (Type 1 Genital) and we've had sex no stop (after the sores were gone) since then and oral sex too and I haven't had another outbreak. We don't use condoms but this is a serious relationship so neither of us are sleeping with anyone else (we are practically married). He's the one I got Type 1 from (just assuming since my bloodwork came back negative/swab positive and he has Type 1 oral and maybe get's 1 cold sore a year) I did read somewhere on here that people have outbreaks after sex b/c of the friction and I was nervous at first, but not anymore. Life goes on. Not sure if this helps, but I do take Acyclovir daily along with prenatal and other vitamins, but I've been taking vitamins forever. I also have a strong immune system. I might get really sick once a year. The rest is just allergy junk.
CONFUSEDSTD
08-17-2008, 06:06 PM
okay well i just go sick recently, i had my first outbreak in a long time is this because my immune system as been lowered or did i get sick because i was having an outbreak. he is still skeptical about having unprotected sex because he has yet to have any signs of herpes is there a point in us using condoms
kilgore52
08-17-2008, 07:11 PM
really no one knows the answer to any questions regarding when or when not or why we have an ob. it just happens when it wants. the most important thing is to live a normal life and an ob is just that. we just wait for it to heal and move on. it can make you feel like you have the flu and then some really have no pain. look up herpes and read about it. there are pics too. its just a matter of our own immune system and stress or a cold maybe even run down with not enough sleep. its the same family as the fever blister. it doesn't kill you it is just annoying to all. plus it happens to be contagious and passed through a break in the skin so condoms help and meds. also washing hands and being careful about obs. but you can't live like you need to be in a bubble. just relax and not worry. it lessons with time and if you get an outbreak once a year then it's not that bad to put up with. it's also just luck if your partner doesn't get it. some people don't, some are carriers and some can get exposed and never have a symptom.
Nicole2222
08-21-2008, 01:11 AM
I am sorry I am new to this website and dont know how to post for myself. I was just wondering..... I just got diagnosed with herpes simplex 2 and my partner has been tested and are waiting for the results but I was wondering how we can go about having a child (not pregnant yet but want to try) if I have it and he doesn't? Oh and if someone can let me know how to post on here that would be good too. Sorry again for taking up your space. :confused: :o
CONFUSEDSTD
08-21-2008, 02:48 AM
im asking the same question
kilgore52
08-25-2008, 01:38 AM
you are going to have to have sex with your partner in order to become pg but you can take meds to delay obs and remember the worst case scenerio is you can have a c section at the time of delivery