I have had sex with my partner 3 times without a condom, but I have not informed him that I am HIV+. He made it clear that are relationship would be sexual only. I always bring the condoms and beg him to wear them, but he refuses. I'm scared that if I tell him he will hurt me. I remember how I felt when I found out my partner was infected and had been keeping it from me. I recently found out that he lied to me about his first and last name but he doesn't know that I have this information. Should I just walk away from the relationship or do I inform him? Please help!

jesus christ what is wrong with some people ..

Regardless of wheather or not the relationship is strictly sexual, you have a duty to tell someone you are hiv positive. That is not only wrong, but downright selfish! In some states, if you willingly have sex with someone and you know you're hiv positive and don't protect yourself, thats attempted murder.

tyra

You should not have sex with anyone without telling them your hiv status. At this point, I think you should stop having sex with him, and if you don't want to tell him your status, then contact the health department in your area to alert him anonymously through partner notification services. You can't help what other people choose to do, but you do have a responsiblity to protect others since you are aware of your hiv status.

He may already be hiv poz himself, did you think of that? Someone who insists on having unprotected sex is at high risk. In that case, you're putting yourself at risk for hiv superinfection. Only you can deciede what to do, however. You can get through this if you do what is right. Good luck to you and God Bless.

You should ALWAYS inform your status and practice safe sex to protect yourself as well as your partner even when your partner doesn't want to have protection.
"I did it because I was told me to do so" is never a valid argument.

It is ILLEGAL to have unprotected sex with someone without letting them know of your positive status in most states (not to mention it is morally wrong and a horrible thing to do to someone). You can be jailed for this.

Wouldnt YOU have liked to have the option of CHOOSING to have sex and possibly be infected by someone who was HIV+? I dont know how you were infected, but if it was through unprotected sex, wouldnt you have liked your partner to tell you FIRST and have given YOU the option? you should have told BEFORE it all started, but better late than never. If he is infected, you never know who HE could pass it on to without knowing.

You need to be honest. You owe it to that person, morally & legally. If they had known you are positive then they may have opted for protection or not to have sex. The decision was theirs to make. Do yout think counseling for your feelings about your status might help? People fear rejection for being positive.

I can really see this issue from both sides here..

1) it is your responsibility to inform potential partners of your status. Since you had contracted HIV in a similiar situation it blows my mind that you would do it to someone else. But there sadly are people, who upon finding their status are angry at the world and intentionally spread the virus to others. Because hey--if they're positive everyone else should be too!

2) Since there are people like this out there it is really the individual's responsibility to protect themselves. You should never trust anyone about their status...particularly if you don't know them well. People tend to say they're negative, but they may have never even been tested! People always assume that they are negative until they learn otherwise. Therefore it is truly up to the individual to ensure that they take proper precautions, rather than put their life into someone elses hands.

My point is really that there are no innocents in this situation. The damage is already done however, but it would be even more devasting if you let this man go on with his life, not knowing he was exposed to HIV and allowing him to potentially be spreading the disease to others. I think rather than informing this man that you have known you were positive for some time now (because he may very well kill you as I would probably do as well), you can let him know that you have just been tested positive. Therefore, he can't blame you for knowing your status beforehand and (god forbid if he does turn out to be +), he may think that he was the one who transmitted it to you. Either way you need to let him know. I believe this would be the safest way to do so. And I PRAY TO GOD (even though I am an atheist!) that you will think twice about doing something like this again in the future. There is truly nothing more devastating than someone putting their own pleasure before the life of another human being. I really think you need to come to terms with some of your anger, because it's dangerous to all of us.

I'm sorry, there is no excuse for having unprotected sex with someone if you know you are HIV positive. Angry at the world or not, there is just no excuse. His partner is very foolish to be having unprotected sex. I am sure he never dreamed that someone who is aware of their HIV status would willingly transmit it to him though. He really has no one to blame but himself for this, but,as for the original poster, HOW ON EARTH COULD YOU WILLINGLY PASS THIS ON TO SOMEONE? The man gave you an alias name and made it clear it was only a physical relationship. I'm willing to bet the farm its because he has a wife and kids at home. His wife probably has a death sentence now too, because you are so selfish. Do you think you can trap someone in relationship with you or force them to love you because they too would now have the disease and therefore can't be with anyone else? How many people have you done this to? how many bi sexual men have slept with you and then proceeded to go home to their wives and girfriends? exactly how many people in your area are wealking around with this virus and spreading it to others because they don't know they have it because YOU DECIDED TO PRETEND YOU DON'T AND GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS IF YOU DON'T. I know that people need to take responsibility and using protection is their choice, but, YOU ARE INTENTIONALLY SPREADING A DEADLY DISEASE. I really hope this post is a prank, because it scares me to think its not.

Amen KAYSMOM ....