I am at the end of my rope. Here is my story:
I met a guy and we began to become intimate. I am 18 and he is 24. I am a male by the way. we began by him performing oral sex on me. the next time I met him he tried to enter my rectum with his penis, but I didn't let him. He then inserted my penis into his rectum for about 10 seconds. I pulled it out when I realized what was going on and didn't continue. We then masturbated to ejaculation. All of this was unprotected. I don't know his status but wanting to have unprotected sex isn't a good sign and I am really to the point that I don't know what to do. I know that there is of course a chance that I could be infected, but should this be ruining every aspect of my life. I truly have no one to talk to and I am hoping that you will take the time to answer me. I am very scared that I am positive or what I might do before I find out. I asked his status and he told me that he was negative, but he couldn't tell me when he tested. He also told me that he usually doesn't use condoms. He told me allof this afterward, my GOD what if he were positive?

Relax...I understand this could be an issue that could affect your entire life, but you don't even know yet. I agree that you shouldn't have unprotected sex with this man, at least until both of you are tested. If he doesn't agree to this, then you don't have to sleep with him. If he has any respect for you and both of your guys' health then he'll get tested. I hope this helped a little.

I just don't know the true risks with the experience I had. I can try to think logically that it was a very brief time, but I still think that if it is going to happen to someone, it will be me. Is there a chance I will be ok? I have already begun thinking about how I will end my life when I get the results.

Let me just say, you know you are at risk, however, that is no reason to already be giving up. You said it yourself...you don't know his status. Don't assume the worse. Get tested at the appropriate times, being as this is the only way to know for sure.

Also, even if he or you for that matter, ended up positive it is far from the end of the world. That is no reason to give in to the disease. If you think about it HIV is like a heart condition or cancer. You have to take meds probably for the rest of your life and live a more cautious life, but you can do it if you have the will power. Just ask my best friend...she's been positive for almost 7 years, has 2 beautiful children, works full time and goes to school full time. She's happier than she's ever been. The only way you lose to HIV is if you give up. Remember...you are your only strength. If you remember that you can concur all.

Please keep us posted on your status and know that people really do care!!!!

I just need to know the risks. I know there is a risk, but it was only about 10 seconds. Is it likely that I could be infected. I just want real advice.

the guy says that he is negative, but told me that he has made an appointment to be tested. I left a message for him telling him that I would go to, but he never responded. He did say that he has had unprotected sex a few times before. What should I do. What if he is infected, is it likely I am too after such a brief time?

I don't know how to go on with life. I have been trying, but I just can't get happy, my birthday is coming up and I don't care, I don't think I will make it 3 months

don't start thinking your positive yet. the odds are always on your side when it comes to a brief one time incident.
if things are really getting to you break the tests up.
buy a couple home access tests and if you have a free clinic by you you can go there.
I don't care when or how you test but if your gonna go crazy testing these are the tests you should do.
PCR and Blood test at 28 days
Blood test at 6 weeks
Blood test at 13 weeks

I can certainly understand why you are worried. Obviously, the partner (your friend)when he has sex.. is accustomed to penetrating the body cavity that releases body waste, the most risky act if someone was HIV positive. However, you do not know if this person was HIV positive, and therefore you should be tested. Also, keep in mind, there is other bacteria that can affect you when coming in contact with the back door. The back door is for waste to exit our bodies. For example, if a man slides the penis by the back door of a woman, and then inserts into the vagina, it can carry bacteria and cause tricanomous.(Not sure of the spelling) and other troubles. Many women do not even know they have the mentioned as it is often non-symptomatic except a fishie smell.
But getting back to you, you should be checked out regardles. Bacteria can lead to other problems later on in the urinary track and more. If this is your sexual preference, then you must wear protection. Otherwise, stay away from the back door. You are probably okay, but you will never know until you see a doctor and test for all possible bacteria the doctor might feel is necessary. It sounds to me that you are more depressed about the act itself. If so, just never do it again. Be strong, and good luck.

Thank you all for responding. One last favor to ask, can you guys give me some perspective. I just know I am HIV + in my mind. If the guy was hiv+ what would be the chances of me being infected? I am scared beyond belief!

Honestly- if the guy was in you for 10 seconds and didn't even ejaculate in you I don't think you have too much too worry about. I'm not going to tell you there is zero chance, but it's probably unlikely. Plus even if he is HIV+ it doesn't mean you will definitly catch it. Don't take his word for it that he's negative though... get tested and find out for yourself.

I am in a similar worried state as "help me please." I am a female and a few days ago I had a drunken encounter with a guy I have known for years. He is more of an acquaintance than a friend, so I idiotically did not ask him what his status was. I feel that he has enough respect for me that if he knew he had anything contractable, he would tell me. But there of course is a chance is just isn't aware of any problems he may have. Anyway, we started having unprotected sex, but once I came to my senses I stopped the interlude. The act lasted maybe 2 minutes. He did not ejaculate and frankly wasn't even close. I realize that I could have been infected with STDs by pre-ejaculatory fluid...everything I've read online says there's a chance. I scheduled a test for tomorrow night, and then after 3 months, I will have another one. I just want someone to tell me that chances of becoming infected from precum alone are UNLIKELY. I want some kind of percentage or comparison to precum vs. full ejaculation. Thanks.

There are MANY people who would like an answer to that question, including myself, as my risk was VERY similar to yours. Maybe try the AIDS hotline, and ask them. I havent found any numbers on the internet. If you find out, do let me know.

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Good Luck and Be Safe