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kiehn
01-01-2003, 09:06 AM
Hello and Happy New Years to all,

I done research on weight loss surgery and found the Lap-Band surgery is the safest and least dangerous plus it's easily reversible. Anyone heard of any pro's or con's inregards to this procedure?

I'm interested in hearing from all those who've
had or know of anyone who's had any type of weight loss surgery. Regrets, delights, or just OK/content.

How do you feel emotionally? Does anyone feel like
the surgery was a last resort that meant trading or
giving up freedom of eating, for a healthier slimmer
body?

Can you eat junk food or do you even have the cravings?If not do you feel deprived that you can't eat the junk food or even a plate full of a delious turkey dinner?

What about emotional eating, such as depression, anxiety, boredom, etc. How do you deal with it now
after the surgery?

How about taking large amounts of med's or supplements
is there a problem keep them down or digesting them?

What about fast eaters, they eat so fast that they end up eating too much. As I've read after surgery that usually means it all comes right back up.

Or how about those of us that don't have any back teeth to chew with which makes it harder to digest.
I've also read especially with the lap-band if the
food isn't chewed thoroughly it comes back up.

What kind of medical problems did you have before the
surgery? Did losing weight from the surgery resolve or help relieve any of those medical conditions?

Anything else that caused a change in your life style
good or bad?

Thanks to All, Susie

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Lindarella
01-01-2003, 10:32 AM
Two of my very best friends have had weight loss surgery. Their takes are very different.

Friend #1 isn't sorry at all. She had it nearly a year ago. She weighed 375 and has lost 110lbs in the last year. She didn't have many problems with the surgery.

Friend #2 on the other hand, is not pleased at all. She had surgery complications that landed her in the hospital 3 more times after the surgery. She had it in July and has lost 80lbs. She weighed 325.

Both of them complain of the same basic point. That at first you're all gung-ho so you do well. As time passes, they started to cheat. You still have to monitor every single thing you eat for life, just as you should have before the surgery. They have to make good food choices, exercise etc.

Neither had the problem of throwing up and both still want to and do eat junk. Friend #1 did throw up at first, but now she just eats less but more often and it has went away. She said she picks at food all day long.

Friend #2 is very disappointed in the fact that her doctor didn't mention to her the statistic that more than 40% of people who have this, gain it back. She is very sorry she had this surgery. She told me that if she had only eaten the 900-1200 calories a day that she has to eat now, that she could do it without the life altering surgery and complications. Her basic take is that it was a very extreme way to limit the food she sticks in her mouth. She thinks that a good food addicts program or counseling would have helped her more. One thing on the plus side is that she was diabetic and taking shots. Losing the 80lbs has helped her with this as now she's down to just taking the pills for it.

My take on seeing them both do this is NO WAY! Friend #2 is right. She eats 900-1200 calories a day and could have did that without the $70,000 surgery/complicaions. It definately wasn't a quick fix for either of them. I'd say, over time, friend #2 will gain all this weight back. Friend #1, I don't know.

It's all about control of what you eat isn't it? If you could gain that control now, no need for the surgery. You may think "but I can't control how much eat or I wouldn't be in this shape." This is true but the surgery isn't all it's cracked up to be as you STILL have control what you eat. Food controls my friends. It's very very sad to see.

Good luck to you.

kiehn
01-02-2003, 12:42 AM
Thanks Lindarella
That's exactly the kind of things I want to hear
about. Ya it's all the hype in the beginning but
how does a person feel 1yr-5yrs-10yrs down the road.
All my life I've always gain weight extremely easily and I've had to literally straved myself to stay slim, but when I hit my 40's I got tired of watching
every one else eat 3 meals a day as well as eat yummy junk foods. So I joined them and over the last 5 yrs in addition to gaining a 150lbs I've now have a list of medical problems longer than I'm tall. I know I need to do something, but I don't have the stamina to deprive and stave myself again each day for the rest of my life to be slimmer. I'm well aware Thyroid problems can cause weight gain, but I only developed a mild thyroid problem after I stated gainning weight which I take med for. I'm sure my situation is very common and my story is basically the same as many others just a different variation. My New Years wish is that those who are truely looking for answers/help inregards to their health issues will not only find them but in addition their health issue will be cured.
Happy New Year, Susie

Lindarella
01-02-2003, 02:14 PM
I agree it's the biggest bummer to have to concern yourself every minute of the day with food. I gained 30lbs about 3 years ago when I got a computer as I sat and ate way too much junk. Last April I went on a restricted calorie diet. I ate 1200 a day, everyday, zero cheating and lost all the weight in about 12 weeks. So far I've kept it off but it's only been since April.

I'm disappointed that to this day and every day from now on that I have to concern myself with calories. I thought hitting the goal was going to be the end all and be all of the diet but it never ends.....

I think I've had it easy always being thin. These friends of mine have had a hard life and have always been heavy. We all started kindergarten at the same time and they were heavy children. We've had many many many heart to heart discussions over the years as to how some people stay thin and others don't. The thing that I see that's happened with my friends and me is the importance they put on food. I think people who are always thin, don't think food is as important to their mental wellbeing. My friends never seemed to learned the mindset that thin people have. They use food for comfort. This is the main reason why friend #2 thinks counseling would help her. She needs to relearn ways to comfort herself.

There is no easy way to lose weight. And even once you get to your goal it still sucks to have to think about these calories every darn day of your life. I can see now why so many people are overweight and fail at dieting. I used to think if my friends would just quit eating so much it would all be ok. Food and how and why and what you eat is just so much more complex than this idea I had....

I have to do this forever and believe me I understand where you're coming from that you just get sick of it.

I hope you find some motivation to get yourself thin for your health. Good luck to you.

Jabber
01-07-2003, 06:51 AM
I had it 11/28/02 and Im down 220lbs was suppose to be down 288lbs per BMI index but what am I gonna do? Would I recomend the surgey? Only for people that were in my shape (300lbs over) try every other option, I have been hospitzied once for my gallblader but I am doing things again at 42, Im ice skating playing football with my kids etc yes I have about another 100 to go but I will take it as it comes, I make love to my wife almost every night like we were 17 again but yes the complacations suck but I was dead one way or the other and yeas I can see putting it back on even with a golf ball sized gut! Good Luck and GOD bless

P.S. I keep my life insurance paid up! LOL

REN33
01-26-2003, 06:55 PM
To interested parties;
I'm 33 years old and had decided to have the open roux n y bypass done due to the fact that I weighed 420lbs. I must tell you it was the best decision of my life http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/dance.gif . I am still amazed at the new found energy I possess. I was only in the hospital for 3 days and off all of the equipment in one day. I am a registered nurse and knew how important it was to get up and get moving. I went from liquids to soft to pureed to regular foods in 7 weeks time. mind you I do get dumping syndrome if I eat sugar or high fat content foods, but why would you want to eat those foods anyways if you are going to put yourself through this type of surgery. The only food that I have a hard time with is eggs!!! I can eat everything else. I wont lie to you I did have a very minor complication with my incision line but it healed quickly. I have never felt better in my entire life, I am pain free!!!. I suggest that if anyone is thinking of surgery that you educate yourself well. I had to wait an entire year befor I could have surgery and I researched it like crazy. It is not something to take lightly, I had tried everything else for years and when the doctor told me I would be dead in ten years if I didnt do something I figured time was of the essence. The surgery has not only impacted my life for the better, but my childrens as well. The change in eating habits have helped my two kids lose weight as well, it helped my sons behaviour in school due to NO MORE SUGAR!!!, he actually gets awards now at school. I had surgery in the middle of November,2002 and as of 11 weeks I have lost 67lbs. I have recently just joined a gym too. So for all who are contemplating surgery think long and hard and educate yourself on the risks and benefits and for those who do it the old fashioned way I wish you the best of luck!!!! and always keep your head held high.
GOODLUCK TO ALL, RENEE

[This message has been edited by REN33 (edited 02-02-2003).]

tessatessa
03-09-2003, 11:15 PM
Hi there: Well I had a Verticle Banded Gastropasty done on May 9, 2002 and I've lost 128 lbs. so far with hopefully about another 30 to go (I'm 175 lbs. now) and I'm extremely pleased with the way things have worked out, I would do it again in a minute. But it is an option of last resort, if it is at all possible to loss it another way then by all means that should be done before surgery. In answer to your questions:

I'm interested in hearing from all those who've
had or know of anyone who's had any type of weight loss surgery. Regrets, delights, or just OK/content.

Well, as I said I'm delighted with the results.

How do you feel emotionally? Does anyone feel like
the surgery was a last resort that meant trading or
giving up freedom of eating, for a healthier slimmer
body?

I happily traded the so called "freedom" to eat for what I have now, health. I never felt like I was free to eat, I felt like I was in chain or bondage to food, I was driven to eat all the time I was awake, it was the first thing on my mind when I woke up in the morning and I could stop it or control it. This surgery has been a wonderful tool for me.

Can you eat junk food or do you even have the cravings?If not do you feel deprived that you can't eat the junk food or even a plate full of a delious turkey dinner?

I can eat junk food if I want to, I can eat anything I want to, unlike people that have the RNY procedure, I don't have "dumping" if I eat sugar or fat. But I don't CHOOSE to eat bad stuff very often. I certainly do still have cravings, especially if I indulge in the wrong kind of foods (anything with sugar/flour/msg/aspartame). I don't feel deprived at all because I know I CAN eat it if I really want to. Actually, I feel I have freedom now because I'm not driven to eat all that terrible stuff and I don't spend every waking moment eating or thinking about eating or preparing food or buying it, etc., etc.

What about emotional eating, such as depression, anxiety, boredom, etc. How do you deal with it now
after the surgery?

This was a tough one for me for a while, still is at time. I have to find ways to cope with my emotions without drowning them with food. At first my days seemed very empty with food and eating crowding up the day but it's a way of life thing that I have gotten used to. If I really want to kind of graze I nibble on sunflower seeds just to satisfy my need to snack or graze and keep my mouth busy.

How about taking large amounts of med's or supplements
is there a problem keep them down or digesting them?

I feel kind of full in the morning after taking my supplements but that's okay. I don't have any trouble digesting them or absorbing them. I drink A LOT of water and that helps.

What about fast eaters, they eat so fast that they end up eating too much. As I've read after surgery that usually means it all comes right back up.

After gastric bypass surgery you simply can't be a fast eater, if you eat too fast or too much or you don't chew enough, it simply comes back up. After that happens a few times you learn to slow down and chew your food.

Or how about those of us that don't have any back teeth to chew with which makes it harder to digest.
I've also read especially with the lap-band if the
food isn't chewed thoroughly it comes back up.

If a person wasn't able to chew their food adequately and had this surgery I'm not sure how it would work out. You could be on a soft diet or just blend all your food but that would get pretty tedious.

What kind of medical problems did you have before the
surgery? Did losing weight from the surgery resolve or help relieve any of those medical conditions?

My medical conditions besides being "Super Obese" (BMI of 50.6 - now it's 29.6 and I'm classified as merely "Overweight" YEE-HAW!!!) were severe pain in legs, feet and back, migraine headaches, severe and chronic depression, severe cystic acne, sleep apnea, skin rashes, yeast infections and thrush, pre-diabetic. Now all those problems are completely resolved with the exception of the depression which is much MUCH better.

Anything else that caused a change in your life style
good or bad?

I'm able to play with my kids again, do my housework, shop for groceries, wash myself, drive a car, make love with my husband, walk for miles, all of which I got to the point where I could do them at all because of my physical limitations and pain. I'm very very grateful for the surgery.

I hope that helps in your decision. If you have any questions, feel free to ask me.

Jabber
03-24-2003, 06:51 PM
Yeah I feel I gave up freedom and infact started abusing prescrtion drugs and drinking alot of wine,just got out of a 10 day detox and have to deal with "ALL" my addictions once and for all

krtylerwisconsin
04-17-2004, 12:04 AM
I don't know if you still read mesages on this website...but I'd be curious to see your opinion of the surgery now - a year or more later from when this was written. I had the surgery (Roux En Y) 9/10/01. I fall under the very disappointed - it was very painful, I had a hard recovery, I now have servere migraines which I attribute to the surgery, due to the meds (25 or more pills a day) and chronic daily migraines, I'm gaining weight - which frightens me...I have FINALLY - after searching for more than a year - found a surgeon who knows of a connection between migraines and gastric bypass, so my theory of a connection is possible. My headache specialist still does not believe it, so in her mind, I'm just gonna be in pain forever. I don't want that. Anyway, I'm curious how you're doing. Thanks

sSsHhHh
04-20-2004, 10:05 PM
Hi there: Well I had a Verticle Banded Gastropasty done on May 9, 2002 and I've lost 128 lbs. so far with hopefully about another 30 to go (I'm 175 lbs. now) and I'm extremely pleased with the way things have worked out, I would do it again in a minute. But it is an option of last resort, if it is at all possible to loss it another way then by all means that should be done before surgery. In answer to your questions:

I'm interested in hearing from all those who've
had or know of anyone who's had any type of weight loss surgery. Regrets, delights, or just OK/content.

Well, as I said I'm delighted with the results.

How do you feel emotionally? Does anyone feel like
the surgery was a last resort that meant trading or
giving up freedom of eating, for a healthier slimmer
body?

I happily traded the so called "freedom" to eat for what I have now, health. I never felt like I was free to eat, I felt like I was in chain or bondage to food, I was driven to eat all the time I was awake, it was the first thing on my mind when I woke up in the morning and I could stop it or control it. This surgery has been a wonderful tool for me.

Can you eat junk food or do you even have the cravings?If not do you feel deprived that you can't eat the junk food or even a plate full of a delious turkey dinner?

I can eat junk food if I want to, I can eat anything I want to, unlike people that have the RNY procedure, I don't have "dumping" if I eat sugar or fat. But I don't CHOOSE to eat bad stuff very often. I certainly do still have cravings, especially if I indulge in the wrong kind of foods (anything with sugar/flour/msg/aspartame). I don't feel deprived at all because I know I CAN eat it if I really want to. Actually, I feel I have freedom now because I'm not driven to eat all that terrible stuff and I don't spend every waking moment eating or thinking about eating or preparing food or buying it, etc., etc.

What about emotional eating, such as depression, anxiety, boredom, etc. How do you deal with it now
after the surgery?

This was a tough one for me for a while, still is at time. I have to find ways to cope with my emotions without drowning them with food. At first my days seemed very empty with food and eating crowding up the day but it's a way of life thing that I have gotten used to. If I really want to kind of graze I nibble on sunflower seeds just to satisfy my need to snack or graze and keep my mouth busy.

How about taking large amounts of med's or supplements
is there a problem keep them down or digesting them?

I feel kind of full in the morning after taking my supplements but that's okay. I don't have any trouble digesting them or absorbing them. I drink A LOT of water and that helps.

What about fast eaters, they eat so fast that they end up eating too much. As I've read after surgery that usually means it all comes right back up.

After gastric bypass surgery you simply can't be a fast eater, if you eat too fast or too much or you don't chew enough, it simply comes back up. After that happens a few times you learn to slow down and chew your food.

Or how about those of us that don't have any back teeth to chew with which makes it harder to digest.
I've also read especially with the lap-band if the
food isn't chewed thoroughly it comes back up.

If a person wasn't able to chew their food adequately and had this surgery I'm not sure how it would work out. You could be on a soft diet or just blend all your food but that would get pretty tedious.

What kind of medical problems did you have before the
surgery? Did losing weight from the surgery resolve or help relieve any of those medical conditions?

My medical conditions besides being "Super Obese" (BMI of 50.6 - now it's 29.6 and I'm classified as merely "Overweight" YEE-HAW!!!) were severe pain in legs, feet and back, migraine headaches, severe and chronic depression, severe cystic acne, sleep apnea, skin rashes, yeast infections and thrush, pre-diabetic. Now all those problems are completely resolved with the exception of the depression which is much MUCH better.

Anything else that caused a change in your life style
good or bad?

I'm able to play with my kids again, do my housework, shop for groceries, wash myself, drive a car, make love with my husband, walk for miles, all of which I got to the point where I could do them at all because of my physical limitations and pain. I'm very very grateful for the surgery.

I hope that helps in your decision. If you have any questions, feel free to ask me.
i wanted to ask what were the affects after the surgery and right after the surgery





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