Cornholio
01-31-2003, 11:18 AM
Dear Friends,
I am a 28 year old man with OCD, depression, and anxiety. I find that I am in a very isolated state at this time in life. How did I reach a place so high and desolate?
Well, clearly having OCD is a difficult barrier to pass through. I have severe phobias of garbage and other things. It doesn't help trying to meet people when you're living in continual fear.
But I suspect that some people prejudge me because of my weight/ appearance. I am five foot ten, and weigh close to 300 pounds. I think that a some folks make snap judgments about me before they give me a chance.
It is ironic. One of the revolting myths is that overweight people smell bad. In my case, nothing could be farther from the truth. I take at least two baths everyday. I also wash my hands apx 50 times a day.
In any event, I feel that our society has aggrandized thinness, and thin people. What is so wrong about being fat, anyway? There is nothing wrong with it. God created me as I am, and I will not apologize for it. I am proud to be who I am- and if other people can't accept me, then so be it. I refuse to conform. I like being who I am. If society refuses to accept me, it is because society is obtuse and myopic. I will not be judged. Only God has the right to judge me. Thats all I have to say. God bless you all.
Sincerely,
Mr. Cornholio
I am a 28 year old man with OCD, depression, and anxiety. I find that I am in a very isolated state at this time in life. How did I reach a place so high and desolate?
Well, clearly having OCD is a difficult barrier to pass through. I have severe phobias of garbage and other things. It doesn't help trying to meet people when you're living in continual fear.
But I suspect that some people prejudge me because of my weight/ appearance. I am five foot ten, and weigh close to 300 pounds. I think that a some folks make snap judgments about me before they give me a chance.
It is ironic. One of the revolting myths is that overweight people smell bad. In my case, nothing could be farther from the truth. I take at least two baths everyday. I also wash my hands apx 50 times a day.
In any event, I feel that our society has aggrandized thinness, and thin people. What is so wrong about being fat, anyway? There is nothing wrong with it. God created me as I am, and I will not apologize for it. I am proud to be who I am- and if other people can't accept me, then so be it. I refuse to conform. I like being who I am. If society refuses to accept me, it is because society is obtuse and myopic. I will not be judged. Only God has the right to judge me. Thats all I have to say. God bless you all.
Sincerely,
Mr. Cornholio
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Lady^
01-31-2003, 03:18 PM
There is something wrong with being overweight....your health. You have a higher risk of heart disease, diabetes and all sorts of other health problems. The extra weight puts stress on all your organs, your bones and joints, etc. So while I agree that society shouldn't judge you by your weight, saying that there is nothing wrong with it isn't true.
Pinkroses
01-31-2003, 05:13 PM
Lady is right. Being overweight can put you at a higher risk for health problems.
Cornholio
02-03-2003, 02:15 PM
Dear Lady and Pink Roses,
Thank you for your responses. I have also heard before that being overweight causes or can lead to heart disease, health risks, et cetera. But have you ever seen proof? What if we are being deceived by those whom tell us that we are at risk by having weight problems?
I am incredulous. I really don't know where the truth lies. Ostensibly, Diet companies would have good reason to make us believe that being fat is a mortal sin. They will profit from such assertions. But is it the truth?
Well, I just thought I would state my case. Again, I have heard these caveats before...that being heavy is a health risk... and so on. Be that as it may, I think that we should approach such claims with circumspect.
It would appear that so long as people are in shape, and exercise, that being fat is not such a bad thing after all. The main thing is to be active, it would seem. I am cognizant that this, too, might be mythological in nature. But it seems to have the ring of truth. Again- thanks for your responses!
Yours truly,
Cornholio
Thank you for your responses. I have also heard before that being overweight causes or can lead to heart disease, health risks, et cetera. But have you ever seen proof? What if we are being deceived by those whom tell us that we are at risk by having weight problems?
I am incredulous. I really don't know where the truth lies. Ostensibly, Diet companies would have good reason to make us believe that being fat is a mortal sin. They will profit from such assertions. But is it the truth?
Well, I just thought I would state my case. Again, I have heard these caveats before...that being heavy is a health risk... and so on. Be that as it may, I think that we should approach such claims with circumspect.
It would appear that so long as people are in shape, and exercise, that being fat is not such a bad thing after all. The main thing is to be active, it would seem. I am cognizant that this, too, might be mythological in nature. But it seems to have the ring of truth. Again- thanks for your responses!
Yours truly,
Cornholio
The Borg
02-03-2003, 04:11 PM
I've seen too many family members die because they didn't lose the weight. That's all the proof i need.
Pinkroses
02-03-2003, 04:29 PM
Hi Cornholio,
There is so much medical research done on the health risks of being over weight. Do a web search on "health risks being over weight." So much information comes up. Ask a doctor. They will tell you about the health risks.
There is so much medical research done on the health risks of being over weight. Do a web search on "health risks being over weight." So much information comes up. Ask a doctor. They will tell you about the health risks.
Lady^
02-03-2003, 05:27 PM
I weighed over 200 pounds 1 year ago and was diagnosed with diabetes. I've now lost over 50 pounds and my sugar levels, without medication, are back in a normal range. For me that is proof that the excess weight and overeating contributed to the diabetes. I also now have more energy and I don't huff & puff all the time. My flexibility has increased as well. And my skin has pretty much cleared up too. That's all the proof I need. If YOU need more, then do some reasearch.
Pinkroses
02-03-2003, 07:49 PM
Also, a higher weight causes your blood pressure to go higher, therefore increasing your risk for a heart attack or stroke.
FutureStud
02-04-2003, 03:04 AM
I for one can vouch that being overweight is a health problem for me but mine is not with organs, it is with my back. I am 17 years old and can barely stay still because my back is in CONSTANT pain from being overweight. My lower back in particular is getting the blunt end of the crap stick persay.
Why do you feel as though you want to stay original by not conforming to a "thin" society when you stated that people make snap judgements about you? Wouldnt that create the passion enough to be willing to change and have people not judge you for your weight?
I would rather be judged on my character then to have a person just see me from 100 feet away and say I am fat and never speak to me.
I am sure that being overweight has affected your way with women too? Wouldnt you wanna date a girl that is beautiful and every guy does a double take on? I am sorry and I may sound like a "dumb fat guy" but I wanna date a beautiful girl and "conform" to the "thin" america.
Why do you feel as though you want to stay original by not conforming to a "thin" society when you stated that people make snap judgements about you? Wouldnt that create the passion enough to be willing to change and have people not judge you for your weight?
I would rather be judged on my character then to have a person just see me from 100 feet away and say I am fat and never speak to me.
I am sure that being overweight has affected your way with women too? Wouldnt you wanna date a girl that is beautiful and every guy does a double take on? I am sorry and I may sound like a "dumb fat guy" but I wanna date a beautiful girl and "conform" to the "thin" america.
Cornholio
02-04-2003, 08:11 AM
Dear Everyone whom has responded,
I am sorry if I came across as insensitive...I am sorry that some of you have lost loved ones because of obesity. I will not question your sincerity about such terrible losses.
I guess that I have come to the realization that I really don't care what other people think about me.
My Mother is a diabetic- and I will be so blessed and fortunate in the event that I do not have diabetes now or in the future. I have high blood pressure and back pains, too.
So, is beauty in the eye of the beholder? Well, I guess that I would rather have a pretty girlfriend than an ugly one- but it would not matter to me (I would not judge her) if she were "fat".
People need more compassion. People who are different than the majority should not be ostracized. Wouldn't you agree?
This world frowns upon fat people, without justification. I mean, I can't help it that I am fat. Just like I can't help it that I have OCD. It is due to my metabolism, dude.
I gotta go- see you guys later on.
Much Love,
Cornholio
I am sorry if I came across as insensitive...I am sorry that some of you have lost loved ones because of obesity. I will not question your sincerity about such terrible losses.
I guess that I have come to the realization that I really don't care what other people think about me.
My Mother is a diabetic- and I will be so blessed and fortunate in the event that I do not have diabetes now or in the future. I have high blood pressure and back pains, too.
So, is beauty in the eye of the beholder? Well, I guess that I would rather have a pretty girlfriend than an ugly one- but it would not matter to me (I would not judge her) if she were "fat".
People need more compassion. People who are different than the majority should not be ostracized. Wouldn't you agree?
This world frowns upon fat people, without justification. I mean, I can't help it that I am fat. Just like I can't help it that I have OCD. It is due to my metabolism, dude.
I gotta go- see you guys later on.
Much Love,
Cornholio
Lady^
02-04-2003, 10:36 AM
You can rev up your metabolism with excercise. Too many people blame other factors for their weight. I realize that there are some medical conditions that can contribute to obesity, but the majority of overweight people simply eat too much and excercise too little. If it is truly a medical condition then your doctor will be able to help you. Excuses don't cut it with me.
Cornholio
02-04-2003, 10:51 AM
I guess that I like to eat more than other people, because I am lonely.
bloodtears
03-02-2003, 01:49 AM
You are beautiful to me Cornholio
Deb47
03-05-2003, 11:56 PM
Hi there. Your posts really touched my heart. I was teased all through grade school; through 12th grade. I was this gangly, knock kneed kid...a kid with acrooked heair cut...no one cared enough about me to make me be able to "blend in" more with the other kids. The reason you need to loose weight is for your own benefit, period. Screw what society thinks. Its a plain fact that being normal weight is healthier. I have been losing weight the past few months, which has been difficult; for I developed a long standing lung problem, which didn't allow me to exercise. Even so, I have lost close to 20 pounds already. Here's how you do it: throw out the junk food. Start reading food labels...buy leaner cuts of meat. We buy these 1 pound pre-packaged salads...put fat free salad dressig on it (it really helps take a bite out of hunger). I buy/love fat free cottage cheese...then we eat lots of different veggies; whatever is on sale, or canned. I eat two slices of bread a day...
I basically eat good. We buy pleny of fruits...they fill an empty void. All in all, it hasn't been bad at all. Since my lung problem has improved somewhat, I go out walking now...exercise is important.
My main message to you is to lose weight for yourself. I used to have a problem with going numb when I'd lay too long on one side (in bed). I haven't had that problem in a while now. Plus; I am able to get into clothes better. I know; losing weight isn't easy; but its good for you. I have decided to start taking care of myself...stuffing my face doesn't seem so fun anymore. Every month my hubby and I go out and eat; and we don't worry about what we order....when I get real hungry for a snack, I'll eat some pretzels or a few saltines with cheese on top (not too many). Its amazing how a person can adjust to this diet...and not feel bad or deprived. Good luck to you. When you decide to lose weight, do it for YOU. You're so worth it...Deb
I basically eat good. We buy pleny of fruits...they fill an empty void. All in all, it hasn't been bad at all. Since my lung problem has improved somewhat, I go out walking now...exercise is important.
My main message to you is to lose weight for yourself. I used to have a problem with going numb when I'd lay too long on one side (in bed). I haven't had that problem in a while now. Plus; I am able to get into clothes better. I know; losing weight isn't easy; but its good for you. I have decided to start taking care of myself...stuffing my face doesn't seem so fun anymore. Every month my hubby and I go out and eat; and we don't worry about what we order....when I get real hungry for a snack, I'll eat some pretzels or a few saltines with cheese on top (not too many). Its amazing how a person can adjust to this diet...and not feel bad or deprived. Good luck to you. When you decide to lose weight, do it for YOU. You're so worth it...Deb
openseason
03-07-2003, 10:06 AM
Future stud: The best way to get a beautiful woman if thats what you want, it to have lots of money, talent or brains. Then it dosent matter what you look like. In fact if you are too nice looking a beautiful woman will feel you are competing with her.
Saphire
03-10-2003, 12:03 PM
Cornholio, one thing I've noticed is that most men in little rascals (electric wheelchairs) are obese. That would scare me more than health threats. To think of having to need someone to load me and my little rascal up into a car , unload it for me, leave, then for me to have to navigate around corners in public (to say nothing of having a house to accomodate one)is so scary to me. See, the weight often breaks down the knees, Cornholio. I am at the point that I'm nervous; the weight piles on but doesn't pile off.
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Love, Saphire
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Love, Saphire
Deltalawgirl
05-19-2003, 12:37 AM
Cornholio,
You are correct in your observation that a person's weight should not matter when assessing a person's character, but quite often it does. It is sad and unfortunate, but true. But what everyone else is saying about weight affecting your health is true, and is much more important than whether or not a person is physically attractive or not. I've been a lot larger than I am now, and I've been a lot smaller. What I've learned is this; people often seem to revel in another person's weight gain because it makes them feel better about themselves. You have to learn to love yourself; big or small, huge or tiny.
You are correct in your observation that a person's weight should not matter when assessing a person's character, but quite often it does. It is sad and unfortunate, but true. But what everyone else is saying about weight affecting your health is true, and is much more important than whether or not a person is physically attractive or not. I've been a lot larger than I am now, and I've been a lot smaller. What I've learned is this; people often seem to revel in another person's weight gain because it makes them feel better about themselves. You have to learn to love yourself; big or small, huge or tiny.
Rixtar
05-27-2003, 07:06 PM
Any attempt to disguise the circumstances the lead an individual to obesity compound the problem. Whether you are diagnosed with 2 or 20 conditions that can be considered psychological is irrelevant. The majority of obese men and women got fat as a result of not dealing with some behavior that was initiated due to a pre-existing psychological condition. The most common being post-traumatic stress.
If I were cornholio I would be extremely frightened about losing my fat since I would be losing my identity. I would reason with myself and others as to the inevitiability of my condition. I would convince myself that I have done everything within my capabilities to loose the fat, find the love of another and live happily everafter. Having done all this I would either settle for a single life or find someone who was as equally beseiged with maladies with whom I could comiserate.
That being said, now what cornholio needs to do is very simple. You, sir, need to stop making excuses, hiding behind conditions and face full-on the real reasons why you have reached this point in your life. After you have done that you will be free to live a life worth living.
I have posted my story numerous times on this board and will not go into detail here. In brief I was a fat child, lost weight as a teen, kept it off till I was 27, started eating all the bad things, and by the time I was 37 I weighed 412 pounds. I had some strokes was told to make final arrangements and deemed hopeless by several people. I met a doctor and a dietican and went on a medical fast (800 calories a day liquid supplement) for nine months. I lost 180+ pounds in as many days, started eating again joined a gym and I maintain my weight through careful food choices. I am now 45 look much younger and have at my side the love of my life. If I can do it anyone can.
If I were cornholio I would be extremely frightened about losing my fat since I would be losing my identity. I would reason with myself and others as to the inevitiability of my condition. I would convince myself that I have done everything within my capabilities to loose the fat, find the love of another and live happily everafter. Having done all this I would either settle for a single life or find someone who was as equally beseiged with maladies with whom I could comiserate.
That being said, now what cornholio needs to do is very simple. You, sir, need to stop making excuses, hiding behind conditions and face full-on the real reasons why you have reached this point in your life. After you have done that you will be free to live a life worth living.
I have posted my story numerous times on this board and will not go into detail here. In brief I was a fat child, lost weight as a teen, kept it off till I was 27, started eating all the bad things, and by the time I was 37 I weighed 412 pounds. I had some strokes was told to make final arrangements and deemed hopeless by several people. I met a doctor and a dietican and went on a medical fast (800 calories a day liquid supplement) for nine months. I lost 180+ pounds in as many days, started eating again joined a gym and I maintain my weight through careful food choices. I am now 45 look much younger and have at my side the love of my life. If I can do it anyone can.
jdog
05-29-2003, 03:23 PM
Cornholio -
You are right. Unless we do business over the telephone, people will judge us by our looks. I'm twice the man I should be and would love to weigh 180. If you are happy with your weight, then that is fine, but what the others say is also true, obesity is a booster jet to the grave.
I've seen people look at me and their thoughts on me are FAT=STUPID SOUTHERN REDNECK. Well, this fattie has 3 degrees, including one masters in engineering, any questions? :) Oh, and always remember this proverb: All things being equal, fat people use more soap.
An EMERGENCY SHOUT OUT TO **Rixtar** (I'll be posting in a new thread, too). I'd like to hear your story. I need help badly. Will elaborate in new thread.
jdog
You are right. Unless we do business over the telephone, people will judge us by our looks. I'm twice the man I should be and would love to weigh 180. If you are happy with your weight, then that is fine, but what the others say is also true, obesity is a booster jet to the grave.
I've seen people look at me and their thoughts on me are FAT=STUPID SOUTHERN REDNECK. Well, this fattie has 3 degrees, including one masters in engineering, any questions? :) Oh, and always remember this proverb: All things being equal, fat people use more soap.
An EMERGENCY SHOUT OUT TO **Rixtar** (I'll be posting in a new thread, too). I'd like to hear your story. I need help badly. Will elaborate in new thread.
jdog
bmxryan
05-30-2003, 06:19 PM
Society is totally retarded.
Magazines, movies, brainwash people on what beauty is.
200 years ago if you were overweight , and very pale with a white wigg like Goerge Washington you were considered attractive.
If everyone in movies, magazines, model runways became a little over weight it would brain wash people into thinking thats the attractive way, even though its not healthy. Over exposure to the sun is suppose to be bad, but Magazines and Movies, and Models show that "A GOOD TAN IS SEXY" ... whatever
Just the way the world is, and its stupid. But oh well.
Magazines, movies, brainwash people on what beauty is.
200 years ago if you were overweight , and very pale with a white wigg like Goerge Washington you were considered attractive.
If everyone in movies, magazines, model runways became a little over weight it would brain wash people into thinking thats the attractive way, even though its not healthy. Over exposure to the sun is suppose to be bad, but Magazines and Movies, and Models show that "A GOOD TAN IS SEXY" ... whatever
Just the way the world is, and its stupid. But oh well.
Cornholio
06-01-2003, 03:59 PM
Dear Everyone,
First of all, thanks to those of you whom have read and responded to this post. I appreciate your honesty, and all of the suggestions as well. Please read my new post...."Gravitationally Challenged"...bon appetit! Adios.....
Cornholio
First of all, thanks to those of you whom have read and responded to this post. I appreciate your honesty, and all of the suggestions as well. Please read my new post...."Gravitationally Challenged"...bon appetit! Adios.....
Cornholio