When I posted to you on that other thread, I truly meant every word I said. I was very sad to hear about you losing your baby in 1997. I miscarried in July 2002 myself. I am 43 and ttc again (I think you have posted to me before on the pregnancy board), so I expect that I will be lucky if it happens for me as well.

I was afraid you were feeling guilty and when you said that I felt I had to write. Sometimes genetics work in truly mysterious ways. You had no way of knowing that this was a possibility for your children. How would this have affected a boy baby? Your daughter is a beautiful and wonderful person and despite her abnormality, she is truly a gift and a blessing from God. I know you know this and I am definitely NOT admonishing you or reminding you to "look on the bright side." I guess what I am aiming to do is to remind you that sometimes we cannot control certain things and I don't want you to feel guilty. I can also say that I know how you feel though. We just love our children so much and we hurt for them and with them.

What is an ablation? Again, I know this was out of your hands. It is so wonderful that you wanted to carry this child for your daughter when the time is right. How awesome that another of your daughters wish to give this most precious of gifts to her sister.

You are truly an inspiration to me. I thank you for your experience and wisdom that you show to all of the women here and sometimes on the pregnancy board as well. It sounds like you have done an amazing job with your daughters, too. I am very proud of you and them for the huge hearts http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/heart.gif that you all have. Please try not to worry about your youngest daughter. God will take care of her, no matter what. I wish you the best of health and luck and happiness. You truly deserve it.

Hello Autumn...nice name by the way http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif An ablasion is the burning of the uterine lining to stop excessive bleeding. After my miscarriage I bled for 4 months my hemaglobin went down to a dangerous 91. After 4 months of BC pills..Iron pills and shots and 2 months of lupron depo to throw my body into temporary menopause to stop the bleeding I was finally strong enough for the ablasion its kinda like a cauterization and it makes you infertile because the uterine lining stops growing and yes I stopped my periods afterwards so I could still concieve but just not carry. But after 3 years of "dry periods" all the pain, PMS and other things just minus the bleeding the OBGYN suggested a hysterectomy to get rid of the terrible monthly pain so in May 2002 I had a total abdominal hysterectomy. They took my uterus and cervix and left my ovaries in because I was only 41 at the time. I lurk on all boards here lol, I originlly joined for the "Pain Management" and "TMJD" boards but then I saw alot of questions and comments on other boards that I could help with and that I had experience in. I love to help others and myself and my girls have had enough medical conditions to stop a train. So I hope some people will benifit from what we have been through. You have been very kind to me both here and on the other boards and I pray that you have the baby you so much desire being the sweet person you are I bet you are a wonderful mother and a loving wife. Take care of yourself my friend and keep in touch ok?
Your friend
Autumn.