I am really nervous of starting to take stim. drugs. I am about to start taking something called Poregon(?).We have done 1 IUI & 1 ICSI, both natural cycles,(with no stim. just my natural egg. There is nothing wrong with me.)neither worked. I so desperatly wanted any children to be concieved naturally. I have been tearing myself apart for 2 years trying to avoid doing something so wierd & unatural to my body as stimulating my ovaries. Let alone the guilt of producing a child that would not otherwise be there when there are so many kids that need parents in the world.
However, we are now at the point where I'm going to try the drugs. I'm really scared of the side affects and messing about with the natural course of things.Did anyone else feel like this?

Hi there! I'm in a similar situation, just haven't gotten to any drug treatment yet. We've been trying for 2 years and everything seems fine after the tests, so our next step,if we don't conceive naturally, would be IUI.
I just wanted to address the guilt factor you mentioned . Here is a quote:
".... Let alone the guilt of producing a child that would not otherwise be there when there are so many kids that need parents in the world."

I really believe medical science had advanced so much in the past 200 years that a lot of people who are here today would have died many years before if we hadn't had the benefit of technology. Just think, do you feel guilty about taking cough medicine? Or getting vaccinations to prevent polio, etc...why should assissted reproduction be any different? I don't quite see the logic there, sorry!

Please try to relax about this and know that medicine is there for you , at your service, so to speak..there is enough guilt in this world about unnecessary things, let's not add to it!

Having said that, I do feel your pain, as I'm sure we all do, and I really hope and pray it all works out for you.
http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/heart.gif Nela.

Thankyou, Nela for your reassuring words.
I know you are right about the technology thing, but I have wondered if the increase in infertility is natures way of balancing the ever increasing population.
I think that all these thoughts are just inevitable when you have to think about conception and the lack of it. Sometimes it's hard to know if you're doing the right thing, and worry is never helpful to logical thought!
Good luck, somehow it helps to be praying for someone else too. Thanks.

Hi again http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif Try not to worry so much about things you can't change! Having said that, I do mean about nature and its mysterious ways. We can drive ourselves right around the bend trying to second guess nature and also, as many people do too, God's will!
What will be will be...all we can do really is focus on what is at hand for us: going through the tests and treatment, for example, and being as healthy as possible for when we DO finally get pregnant!

Please know that the "right" thing to do, as hard as it may sometimes be to know, is whatever is right for YOU! For your situation, regardless of what others may say. You know deep in your heart what you have to do. So don't worry, sweetie!
Thanks for your prayers, I will send you some as well. Anytime you want to talk, I'm usually over on the ttc thread on the pregnancy board.
http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/heart.gif Nela.

Dode--
I have been on meds for the past several months, and am trying yet a new one for me this month. I struggle all the time--wondering if I'm messing around with what is really "God's will". I mean, if I truly believe in thepower of God and His goodness, and that He takes care of all things, should I be doing what I am? Think very carefully about what you want to do and what is right for you. I pray that we all will find our way through this, one way or another.