Toohotforme
10-15-2008, 10:32 PM
Just wondering how many of you have left employment, quit your jobs, or maybe even gone to part-time hours because you just couldn't handle working while dealing with all the symptoms of perimenopause? I finally had to resign from my position in August because I didn't think I could do even one more day of working. If so, what are you doing now? Staying home? Volunteering? Me- I'm a full time housewife now and taking time to take care of me for a while and while I understand not everyone can just up and quit their jobs these days I had to do what was right for me and my hubby. Anyone?
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Tracey2205
10-16-2008, 09:35 AM
Hi there
Idid some temporary work and gave it up, I now do voluntary work, some days I feel so down and depressed it's hard enough to get out of bed.
It's like my confidence has been completely knocked and I don't think I could handle a job at the moment.
The excessive sweating is embarrassing and anxiety attacks make me feel like I want to stay holed up at home all the time.
Idid some temporary work and gave it up, I now do voluntary work, some days I feel so down and depressed it's hard enough to get out of bed.
It's like my confidence has been completely knocked and I don't think I could handle a job at the moment.
The excessive sweating is embarrassing and anxiety attacks make me feel like I want to stay holed up at home all the time.
Toohotforme
10-16-2008, 09:59 AM
Hi Tracey,
Thanks for replying. I'm sorry it's the depression and anxiety that keeps you at home. Peri is definitely one thing that seems to make our confidence plummet. I use to manage an office of women, years ago before all this peri nonsense hit. Once the symptoms started coming on more and more I felt less confident in myself and I reduced my hours to part time at a school. It wasn't until this past year when the symptoms REALLY became bothersome (fatigue, jelly like feeling in arms and legs, hot flashes,dizziness) that I finally gave in and called it quits. I also found I didn't have the patience with the students anymore and wanted to be ANYWHERE but at work. I've heard this is all common in peri, but I still wonder how "normal" it is. Hang in there and I hope you feel better soon.
Thanks for replying. I'm sorry it's the depression and anxiety that keeps you at home. Peri is definitely one thing that seems to make our confidence plummet. I use to manage an office of women, years ago before all this peri nonsense hit. Once the symptoms started coming on more and more I felt less confident in myself and I reduced my hours to part time at a school. It wasn't until this past year when the symptoms REALLY became bothersome (fatigue, jelly like feeling in arms and legs, hot flashes,dizziness) that I finally gave in and called it quits. I also found I didn't have the patience with the students anymore and wanted to be ANYWHERE but at work. I've heard this is all common in peri, but I still wonder how "normal" it is. Hang in there and I hope you feel better soon.
Tracey2205
10-17-2008, 12:33 PM
Thanks for your post too, I thought it was just me but I have no patience at all - I feel like I'm the female version of grumpy old men at the moment.
It's like all this anger from deep within is emerging and I feel like a volcano waiting to explode - work - to be honest I think I'd probably last 2 days and end up with the sack.
It's like all this anger from deep within is emerging and I feel like a volcano waiting to explode - work - to be honest I think I'd probably last 2 days and end up with the sack.
Chantal231
10-18-2008, 03:25 AM
Hi,
I'm unemployed because my boss passed away.
However, I'm not sure I could handle a job right now. I'm having lots of stomach/digestive issues and just dealing with the fatigue is difficult. I really do not believe I'd have the energy to deal with a job right now.
That said, I'm looking for suitable employment as my family needs the income.
Chantal
I'm unemployed because my boss passed away.
However, I'm not sure I could handle a job right now. I'm having lots of stomach/digestive issues and just dealing with the fatigue is difficult. I really do not believe I'd have the energy to deal with a job right now.
That said, I'm looking for suitable employment as my family needs the income.
Chantal
lovecanada
10-20-2008, 12:58 PM
Oct. 16, last Thursday, was my last day at work! The last year has been difficult with having migraines, irregular periods lasting for 10 -15 days, mid-cycle spotting, palpitations. I just couldn't handle it anymore and quit my job. I plan to take up a part-time postition after taking a break for a month or so. It's been 6-years since I started going through this whole thing and I am hoping it comes to an end soon!
GBug
10-20-2008, 02:22 PM
It's been almost three years since I began having stron peri symptoms. I'm still working full-time but my productivity is probably down at least 50%. I can't seem to stay focused on my work. My mind skips from one thought to the next. I certainly don't want to quit, or heaven forbid get fired, because I know this will pass in time. I've been at this company over 15 years and I hope to make it at least 5 more.
It is very tough to come in most days. I'll be glad when all of us are through this.
Wishing you all the best!:)
It is very tough to come in most days. I'll be glad when all of us are through this.
Wishing you all the best!:)
TEdds83
10-20-2008, 11:29 PM
WOW I am right there with ya ladies. I am having mild symptoms but I wonder if things get any worse I just need to for sure work from home. I have major anixety moments and sometimes I feel like I am losing it. This is just no fun and people don't understand unless they are going through this. Hang in the battle ladies! :)
Toohotforme
10-21-2008, 01:25 PM
WOW I am right there with ya ladies. I am having mild symptoms but I wonder if things get any worse I just need to for sure work from home. I have major anixety moments and sometimes I feel like I am losing it. This is just no fun and people don't understand unless they are going through this. Hang in the battle ladies! :)
You're right, unless people go through this they don't understand. And it affects every one differently on different levels. I use to be so energetic and HEALTHY! But this has really knocked me down quite a bit in just the last year. I'm ready for it to end!!! I see we both live in Iowa!
You're right, unless people go through this they don't understand. And it affects every one differently on different levels. I use to be so energetic and HEALTHY! But this has really knocked me down quite a bit in just the last year. I'm ready for it to end!!! I see we both live in Iowa!
Wink
10-22-2008, 10:40 AM
Hi,
I am actually through the worst of menopause (it does get better!), but a few years ago I really began to worry about how I was going to be able to continue to work full time. I was going through a divorce, and peri at the same time. Leaving my full time job was just not an option. I had a house payment, and car payment, and I was suddenly my only financial support. I am fortunate in that I had a lot of sick leave and vacation time, so I spoke with my boss (a woman) and took a few weeks off. I was able to rest, but most of all I began to understand that what was happening to my body was not going to kill me, that I did not have a horrible disease, and that these "episodes" of being off balance, and nauseous, and tired, and sweaty, and anxious would pass, if I could just relax and sort of ride it out for about 15-20 minutes. Once I got my anxiety under control, the rest of it just seemed to ease up. I had an extremely hard time for about a year, then I slowly began to feel better. I still do not feel as great as I did before menopause, but I do feel a lot better.
Hang in there and be good to yourselves!
Wink.
I am actually through the worst of menopause (it does get better!), but a few years ago I really began to worry about how I was going to be able to continue to work full time. I was going through a divorce, and peri at the same time. Leaving my full time job was just not an option. I had a house payment, and car payment, and I was suddenly my only financial support. I am fortunate in that I had a lot of sick leave and vacation time, so I spoke with my boss (a woman) and took a few weeks off. I was able to rest, but most of all I began to understand that what was happening to my body was not going to kill me, that I did not have a horrible disease, and that these "episodes" of being off balance, and nauseous, and tired, and sweaty, and anxious would pass, if I could just relax and sort of ride it out for about 15-20 minutes. Once I got my anxiety under control, the rest of it just seemed to ease up. I had an extremely hard time for about a year, then I slowly began to feel better. I still do not feel as great as I did before menopause, but I do feel a lot better.
Hang in there and be good to yourselves!
Wink.
skbrmom
10-22-2008, 03:35 PM
I am so glad I read this thread! I have been having lots of dizzy spells, or vertigo, the past 6 months or so. I can't stay asleep at night even though I am dead tired. I feel like a faded version of who I used to be. I am 45. I guess I am just at "that time" in my life. I think I even have some mild anxiety issues. I will wake up in the night with my heart racing, be sweating wet, and feeling all uptight. I hope this passes quickly. The good news is that I can set the house thermostat lower and be totally comfortable! ;)
I only do volunteer work. I would like to work part-time, but maybe I am too cranky to get a job right now. Some days I prefer to just stay home and chill.
Thanks for the posts!
I only do volunteer work. I would like to work part-time, but maybe I am too cranky to get a job right now. Some days I prefer to just stay home and chill.
Thanks for the posts!
zparis66
11-05-2008, 03:51 PM
I am going through something like that right now. I have a great job, which had me working late nights and running around doing a millions things at once, and then I am also active in my kids schools and my church, I rest very seldom. I had to leave work a week ago last week I was h9ome for a week after a bad panic attack where everything went totally black. I went back to work on Monday and I was fine foe the morning part of the day and at about 1:00 pm my heart was racing uncontrollably and my pressure went sky high. I am going back to work tomorrow with GOD's will. I am trying to prepare myself for tomorrow, I would hate to lose my job over this. My anxiety (nervousness) is extreme when it comes on, I guess I have to work on learning how to let it pass and not take over me. I am working on it and hope to get it under control soon.