jnnfr0447
10-20-2008, 12:51 AM
I had my tubes tied at 27 and now I have gained about 50 pounds, and worst of all no sex drive. I feel like I've been robbed of my previously great sex life. My spouse is grumpy all the time because I have absolutely no urge to have sex at all! Are my hormones out of whack or what needs to be done so that I can get back to normal? I used to be 135lbs now I'm 176! is there some sort of injection to get me normal again? stressed in CA
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10-20-2008, 03:09 AM
Please note that this thread is moved to the Menopause Board.
rheanna
10-28-2008, 12:30 PM
jnnfr0447,
I started the symptoms of peri when I was 39, without any "help" from surgery. Other women on this board have reported that they started peri in their 30's.
My suggestion is to discuss HRT (hormone replacement therapy) with your gynocologist. There are losts of forms available (pills, creams, patches) and lots of different dosages. There may be something that will work for you to replace the hormones that your body is no longer producing. The risk factors that may make it inadvisable to take HRT are a family history of heart problems or cancer.
Even if you have these risk factors, and you decide that HRT is not for you, another possibility is the use of estrogen cream in your vagina. Lack of estrogen makes the vagina very dry, resulting in painful intercourse. My understanding is that the vaginal cream gives estrogen only to the local tissues, and therefore can be used by women who should not take hormones otherwise.
As to what to do about the lack of interest in sex -- that is certainly more difficult. Our poor men-folk are surprised and clueless about why we suddenly become less than lovey-dovey when our hormones drop due to perimenopause. Not to mention our own surprise as well! :cool: Other than substitute hormones, I don't have an answer for this.
However, many women use this time of hormonal chaos to re-examine their lives and make some changes. It ain't easy and I'm not in any way making light of it. But it may be possible to open up some channels of communication with your husband to find some new ways to relate with each other (more cuddling and conversation and less sex?). Many women find that they are less tolerant of the demands that other people have been putting on them, and they start thinking of ways to meet their own needs.
I don't have any answers. But I can sympathise. Perhaps some other ladies have some other words of wisdom to share.
--Rheanna
I started the symptoms of peri when I was 39, without any "help" from surgery. Other women on this board have reported that they started peri in their 30's.
My suggestion is to discuss HRT (hormone replacement therapy) with your gynocologist. There are losts of forms available (pills, creams, patches) and lots of different dosages. There may be something that will work for you to replace the hormones that your body is no longer producing. The risk factors that may make it inadvisable to take HRT are a family history of heart problems or cancer.
Even if you have these risk factors, and you decide that HRT is not for you, another possibility is the use of estrogen cream in your vagina. Lack of estrogen makes the vagina very dry, resulting in painful intercourse. My understanding is that the vaginal cream gives estrogen only to the local tissues, and therefore can be used by women who should not take hormones otherwise.
As to what to do about the lack of interest in sex -- that is certainly more difficult. Our poor men-folk are surprised and clueless about why we suddenly become less than lovey-dovey when our hormones drop due to perimenopause. Not to mention our own surprise as well! :cool: Other than substitute hormones, I don't have an answer for this.
However, many women use this time of hormonal chaos to re-examine their lives and make some changes. It ain't easy and I'm not in any way making light of it. But it may be possible to open up some channels of communication with your husband to find some new ways to relate with each other (more cuddling and conversation and less sex?). Many women find that they are less tolerant of the demands that other people have been putting on them, and they start thinking of ways to meet their own needs.
I don't have any answers. But I can sympathise. Perhaps some other ladies have some other words of wisdom to share.
--Rheanna
AnnD
10-28-2008, 01:22 PM
Having your tubes tied has nothing to do with sex drive and neither would it be a cause for your weight gain. If you are on any type of daily medications check the side effects...If you haven't had a complete medical workup with blood work along with a pelvic exam then you should start there. <removed> Good luck.
Jess75
11-17-2008, 08:14 PM
Yes having your tubes tied has everything to do with it. It's called post tubal ligation syndrome.