Hi everyone,

I found out that my cousin is pregnant. I am happy for her because she has been trying for awhile and both of us have been frustrated that we have been unable to get pregnant. She recently found out that she is pregnant and although I am very excited for her, I am also sad that I am not the one that has been able to share the news that I am pregnant. I am just wondering how you all deal with being happy for someone else getting pregnant when you want it to be you so badly.

Hi Denny, I know how you feel hearing PG news from your friends or nearones when you are struggling to get PG for long time. It is ok to feel sad and then get mad thinking why you are not the one to share this news. I have lot of my friends and cousins getting PG and some who already have one and they are trying for second. I always keep thinking why not me but then think may be God is having some special plans for me.
Be strong, one day you will get the chance to share your news ! Are you trying naturally or taking any treatment ?

Jeena

Hi Denny - I'm sorry you're sad, but this is completely normal to feel this way. I've had lots of friends/family pop up pregnant and after the initial pain and hurt that comes along with me questioning myself is over, the happiness just naturally consumes me for them. We all know that it is not that person, its just the ache that you have in your heart that won't go away.

Give it time, you'll feel better about things in a bit.
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DennyLou - sorry that you are having a hard time w/ this. I wish both of you were pg at the same time. I think we deal with it just b/c we have too, not b/c we want too. Don't feel guilty about being sad or even a little mad.

I will send you lots of baby dust and hopefully you will be pg soon too http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif

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Amy

DennyLou,
First, welcome to the boards!
Second, we all understand what you are feeling, and your emotions are normal when you hear this news. Unfortunately, it doesn't get easier, but that is where this board comes into play. Everyone here is so incredibly supportive and understanding. And it is awesome to come here and vent, vent, vent...away!

Good luck to you. I hope you can join your cousin very soon!
MrsR

Thank you so much for all of your encouragement and comments.

Jeena - We are trying naturally right now. We had one IUI done in January and had a terrible time with it. There was a blizzard here that day and so we were first of all stressed out about the road conditions and then we were late for our appointment. Then, my DH couldn't get a very good sample and the little fellows had a very low mobility rate. Things just did not go well at all. We have been trying for two years and I think that after the IUI, I realized how much pressure I was putting on DH. We have not done anything else in terms of IUI or anything but we are still having fun trying. Thank you for reminding me that God has something special in mind for me. I know in my heart that is so true and I am trying really hard to trust in Him with this situation but I keep getting in the way of what He might want to do! Anyway, we will continue to have fun doing the BD. My husband and I have both been doing the Atkins diet and he has lost over 100 pounds and I have lost 30. More importantly, my cycles are very regular now and so I am hoping that maybe that will help things out a little bit.

Again, thanks for all the encouragement.

Dennylou

PS Momma - I hope all goes well for you on Sunday!

Thanks Denny!

Congrats to you and DH for doing so well on your diet! http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif That's great news!!

Hi - my heart goes out to you - I know just how you feel. Like evry-one has said it is soooo normal what you are feeling. I think it would be easier if you had a crystal ball and you knew for sure that at some stage you would have a precious bundle of your own.

My husband and I after losing our 1st baby late in pregnancy struggled to get pregnant for another 4 years

During that time every one and their uncle was having a baby. I would cry at night and feel so mad - like you all. But I now have two kids (4 & 6 yrs) and after a recent miscarriage am preg with another - now 30 weeks.

So god has a plan even if it does seem rather long winded and cruel.

I too send you baby dust - don't give up!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can relate BIG time to that sista!My SIL got pregnant easily. When she got pg the first time, my DH and I had been trying for 5 years. Then just last month she announced she was pregnant again! http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/mad.gif OK, has anyone of you gals had a friend or relative try to be TOO careful around you? Makes me wanna puke! It was SUCH a BIG deal for the family to tell me that she was pregnant again, "oh, poor MaryAnn, will she be able to handle it?" After she tells me, of course I wish it were happening to me, but please, give a gal a break. I hate the sympathy tactic! Now all she does is talk about her being pregnant this pregnant that. AARGH!!!!! http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/mad.gif

Hi MaryAnn - I have had that happen to me - despite how much I initially assured them tp please not suppress their joys of pregnancy when they are around me, not a word regarding the pregnancy has been shared, unless I ask. I know they mean well by not talking about it, but its really very hurtful because it makes me feel as though they don't want to share their pregnancy with me.

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Dennylou.

I think alot of us have been there. Its hard especially when people you truly care about are pregnant all around you ! I try so hard to keep my longing + jealousy under control

Just hang in there!! I know how hard it is! We have 5 women at work and 2 had babies the end of last year and one is 6 mo. pregnant. Not to mention that the big boss at the head office just had a baby on 5/1/03.
Believe me I know how hard it is. Especially since we lost a baby in Oct. of 2002. Went in for our us at 8 weeks-no heartbeat. But look on the bright side. Your day WILL come and you will appreciate it even more because you know your baby is truly a gift from GOD!