agl1962
10-24-2008, 06:53 AM
My 73-year-old father was just diagnosed with lung cancer that has already spread to his brain. Needle biopsy done this week, along with bone scan. Results on Monday. Already did the brain MRI, the chest Xray, the chest MRI, and the lab work. Met with an oncologist a week ago who ordered radiation to brain to start immediately and as of now he has had 2 treatments. (10 ordered). Until this--my dad was active, athletic man. I need to know what to expect in months ahead as far as how much help he will need. He lives alone and right now I just stop over every day and check on him. I have 2 small children and need to make preparations if I am going to need to move in with him to take care of him. Any info would be appreciated.
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ebrena
10-24-2008, 02:18 PM
hello ang1962 I rarely come on this site anymore but just thought I would check in. I saw your post and it took me back 3 years ago when my 73 year old mom was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer and by that time it had metastasized to her brain, she had began radiation almost right away. My mom was a very youthful 73 she was having the time of her life, traveling, decorating her place and lots of shopping and then it all stopped and very quickly. I am being honest here about my mom, does not mean it will be the same with your dad-my mom lived exactly 4 months to the day of diagnosis. She had 6 treatments of radiation to her head and one to the chest. It was maybe 2 treatments in and mom could no longer walk, she needed a walker, then they put her on steroids and it opened a whole variety of other issues. My mom lived on her own, but she could not be on her own-ever. I stayed with her through the week in her home and on the weekend someone else took over. Then I had to bring her to my home to look after her for 6 weeks before she passed away, She went down pretty fast once they began treatments-not to scare but you most likely want some honest input. The brain controls everything so once the treatments start you have no idea what part it will effect. Also mom's lesions were pretty large and she was having seizures which is another reason not to leave her alone. She had her first seizure at my house and this is how it all began. From that seizure and her eyesight they did scan and found the problem. If you have other family maybe everyone can take a turn and be there with your dad, my siblings never helped me but if you are lucky yours will and you can designate days and times. he will also need to go for his treatments and can't drive himself so he will need to get there somehow. Lung cancer is a hideous disease and changes occur pretty rapidly especially once it gets to your brain.
I know my reply is a "downer" but it is exactly what happened to my mom and I will always remember what it took from both of us and her especially.
I know my reply is a "downer" but it is exactly what happened to my mom and I will always remember what it took from both of us and her especially.
agl1962
10-24-2008, 02:21 PM
Yes I wanted honest answers and thank you so much for telling me your experience. Even though it is very depressing, at least I know what I have to prepare for. Thanks.