megss
11-08-2008, 01:05 AM
I just wanted to share with everyone how wonderful my life has become since having my daughter, Grace. Becoming a mother has been the best and most fulfilling thing that I have ever done with my life. I always knew I eventually wanted to become a mother, but I love her more than I ever thought possible. She is also the most beautiful thing I have ever laid my eyes on. My favorite thing to talk about with people is what Grace did last night that was funny or cute. I know this is annoying to people on so many levels, but I don't care.
I remember, "back in the day:)", when my idea of fun was going out to bars, smoking cigarettes, and drinking beer! LOL! Boy have my priorities changed. Now my idea of a great Friday night is spending time with my family.
I have been dealing with some health issues, and after 7 or so months of this, Grace is the only thing that puts a smile on my face, and I know this won't change. Once I get better I can't wait to have another baby. I Just can't imagine my life any other way.
Yes there are tough days, and I get frusterated and exhausted (I am only human!), but all the work involved of caring for an infant is sooooo worth it! I have a bachelors degree, and a good job that pays well, but suddenly my career means nothing to me, at least not the way it used to. I still need my job to pay the bills! If I had it my way, I would forget about my job and college degree and stay home to raise Grace and my future children.
Even pregnancy was so tough for me. I never really felt great. Up until 14 weeks I was horribly nauseas and throwing up -which lead to depression, then came the headache/ migraine phase, followed my anemia, and then of course the uncomforts of the third trimester as well as the return of my occassional morning sickness. Recovery was difficult. I needed surgery immediately following her birth for a intra-uterine hematoma. I was in bad pain (worse than labor) for 6 weeks. But guess what! I will do it over again in a heart beat!
Tonight DH is working late, so Grace and I had a girls night out. We had such a fun time, just the two of us, and for those couple of hours I forgot about all of my health problems. This is what prompted me to write this post!
Anyway, I know all the rest of you feel exactly the same way about your children, but I just felt like sharing with the group!
I remember, "back in the day:)", when my idea of fun was going out to bars, smoking cigarettes, and drinking beer! LOL! Boy have my priorities changed. Now my idea of a great Friday night is spending time with my family.
I have been dealing with some health issues, and after 7 or so months of this, Grace is the only thing that puts a smile on my face, and I know this won't change. Once I get better I can't wait to have another baby. I Just can't imagine my life any other way.
Yes there are tough days, and I get frusterated and exhausted (I am only human!), but all the work involved of caring for an infant is sooooo worth it! I have a bachelors degree, and a good job that pays well, but suddenly my career means nothing to me, at least not the way it used to. I still need my job to pay the bills! If I had it my way, I would forget about my job and college degree and stay home to raise Grace and my future children.
Even pregnancy was so tough for me. I never really felt great. Up until 14 weeks I was horribly nauseas and throwing up -which lead to depression, then came the headache/ migraine phase, followed my anemia, and then of course the uncomforts of the third trimester as well as the return of my occassional morning sickness. Recovery was difficult. I needed surgery immediately following her birth for a intra-uterine hematoma. I was in bad pain (worse than labor) for 6 weeks. But guess what! I will do it over again in a heart beat!
Tonight DH is working late, so Grace and I had a girls night out. We had such a fun time, just the two of us, and for those couple of hours I forgot about all of my health problems. This is what prompted me to write this post!
Anyway, I know all the rest of you feel exactly the same way about your children, but I just felt like sharing with the group!
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LauraLu
11-08-2008, 02:11 PM
Megss ~ What a lovely post. Pure and simple, you summed up my life with Madeline to a tee. I think there's nothing sweeter in life than being your baby and living in the moment. I too have begun thinking about having another one to add to our family; however, it's still just a thought at this point. SO much to consider...like money and career and the fact that I am completely selfish with my Madeline. I just love, love, love her and don't know how I would add another to the mix.
Anyway, I just wanted to respond and tell you that I'm with you all the way that family comes first always. My little girl is the most beautiful thing to me and I just cannot believe where the time has gone. And yes, girls' nights are the best! :D
P.S. So much for those days at the bar! I know exactly what you mean!
Anyway, I just wanted to respond and tell you that I'm with you all the way that family comes first always. My little girl is the most beautiful thing to me and I just cannot believe where the time has gone. And yes, girls' nights are the best! :D
P.S. So much for those days at the bar! I know exactly what you mean!
Delia79
11-08-2008, 06:00 PM
I have to chime in and agree as well Meggs. Being a mom is the most awesome experience I've ever had. I love my girls more than anything in this world. It was hard and scary adding a second baby to the picture because I thought I wouldn't get to spend as much time with Ella, but honestly, it's even better. Now I have two to love! It is hard having to work and do all of the other things in life that you HAVE to do. It would be so much fun just being a stay at home mom. I have been on maternity leave now for seven weeks and have about five more to go until I have to go back to work and I am already dreading it. :( I could just spend every waking moment with my girls and do nothing else, and that would be fine by me. Oh, and I can't remember the last time I had went to a bar, or even had a beer for that matter. Seems like ages, but I don't miss it. This is so much better. So, anyway, I agree. Your post mirrored my exact thoughts!
megss
11-08-2008, 11:45 PM
Thanks Laura and Delia for responding!
Laura- I am worried too about not loving another baby as much as I love Grace. What if the next baby isn't as cute? LOL! All my friends that have more than one child (all have 2 at most), say they worried about the same thing, but that is just not the case. I quote one of my friends after she had her second: "The flood gates [of love] are open." That makes me feel a little better.
Delia- How have things been going to DD #2? (I'm sorry I don't know her name.) Has Ella been jealous at all. That is another thing I am worried about. Grace is very spoiled and gets 100% of my attention right now. That will obviously change once we have another.
We were planning to TTC again this spring, but I have to wait a year after my surgery before pregnancy is safe. I probably won't have surgery until this spring (hopefully I can last that long), because I won't get disability benefits with my job until then (also my 1 year anniversary with the company). It's really a bummer but you gotta do what you gotta do I guess! That will make Grace and the new baby 3.5-4 years apart. That's okay I guess.
Laura- I am worried too about not loving another baby as much as I love Grace. What if the next baby isn't as cute? LOL! All my friends that have more than one child (all have 2 at most), say they worried about the same thing, but that is just not the case. I quote one of my friends after she had her second: "The flood gates [of love] are open." That makes me feel a little better.
Delia- How have things been going to DD #2? (I'm sorry I don't know her name.) Has Ella been jealous at all. That is another thing I am worried about. Grace is very spoiled and gets 100% of my attention right now. That will obviously change once we have another.
We were planning to TTC again this spring, but I have to wait a year after my surgery before pregnancy is safe. I probably won't have surgery until this spring (hopefully I can last that long), because I won't get disability benefits with my job until then (also my 1 year anniversary with the company). It's really a bummer but you gotta do what you gotta do I guess! That will make Grace and the new baby 3.5-4 years apart. That's okay I guess.
Brooke85
11-09-2008, 02:32 AM
Megss...you're friends are right about the second baby:) When I found out I was pg again my DD was 16 months old. I was a bit shocked to say the least and felt like it was happening all too soon. Once my DS was born I was quite amazed at how well my DD handled it all. I was also amazed at how quickly I became attached to him and all those worries went out the window! Their birthdays were only a few days apart so I joke with my family that my daughter got a brother for her birthday:)
One thing that's nice about waiting until Grace is around 4 is that she will be able to help out more when the new baby comes.
One thing that's nice about waiting until Grace is around 4 is that she will be able to help out more when the new baby comes.
Delia79
11-11-2008, 09:36 AM
Meggs,
Yeah, don't worry about not having that connection with a new baby. I think those feelings are normal, but even before Madilyn was born, I was totally in love with her. Ella hasn't been too bad about getting jealous. The only thing she has really done so far is whenever I sit down to feed Madi, she immediately brings a book over and wants me to read it to her. It's not easy, but I hate to say no or tell her she has to wait....I feel bad. :( Other than that, she has been super and pretty much just goes about her own buisiness. Ella's mind set is, if it's not about her, then she doesn't care. :D And honestly, like Brooke said, if yours will be 3.5-4 years apart, it should be even easier because Grace can be your little helper and she won't require as much work as Ella does at 16 months, so it will probably make things easier on you! It's hard sometimes with Ella and Madi being so close together, but I wouldn't have it any other way. It's crazy around my house, but so much fun!
Yeah, don't worry about not having that connection with a new baby. I think those feelings are normal, but even before Madilyn was born, I was totally in love with her. Ella hasn't been too bad about getting jealous. The only thing she has really done so far is whenever I sit down to feed Madi, she immediately brings a book over and wants me to read it to her. It's not easy, but I hate to say no or tell her she has to wait....I feel bad. :( Other than that, she has been super and pretty much just goes about her own buisiness. Ella's mind set is, if it's not about her, then she doesn't care. :D And honestly, like Brooke said, if yours will be 3.5-4 years apart, it should be even easier because Grace can be your little helper and she won't require as much work as Ella does at 16 months, so it will probably make things easier on you! It's hard sometimes with Ella and Madi being so close together, but I wouldn't have it any other way. It's crazy around my house, but so much fun!
megss
11-12-2008, 12:01 AM
Oh I just can't wait to have another baby! It will even be nice for Grace to have a playmate, even if they are 4 years apart. She isn't in day care, but my friends and I try to get our kids together as much as possible. Grace just loves other children, and has never had a problem with another child sitting on my lap, or what have you. Hopefully that is a good sign!
I still don't have my surgery scheduled, but I am waiting for my appointment with the surgeon, which is when it will get scheduled. It won't happen until after the holidays, but from then it should be a year before we can TTC. I am having spinal fusion surgery, so it really would be idiotic of me to get pregnant! Ouch!
I still don't have my surgery scheduled, but I am waiting for my appointment with the surgeon, which is when it will get scheduled. It won't happen until after the holidays, but from then it should be a year before we can TTC. I am having spinal fusion surgery, so it really would be idiotic of me to get pregnant! Ouch!
Brooke85
11-12-2008, 03:57 AM
Hopefully you can get in for your surgery as soon as possible after the holidays:) Not that you're in a hurry for surgery...but I'm sure you want it out of the way so you can TTC:)
I agree with you Delia about it being a lot of work having 2 so close together, but I love it as well! My son is getting more mobile by the day and my daughter just loves to play with him! She's 2.5 and the past couple of weeks she's been getting so bossy over him. If he makes a peep she demands that I go pick him up. If I lift him out of his jumperoo she sternly tells me that he doesn't want to get out of his toy. She tells me WHEN to fix him a bottle and she tells me where to put him, etc. It's kinda funny because she's so posessive over him:)
I agree with you Delia about it being a lot of work having 2 so close together, but I love it as well! My son is getting more mobile by the day and my daughter just loves to play with him! She's 2.5 and the past couple of weeks she's been getting so bossy over him. If he makes a peep she demands that I go pick him up. If I lift him out of his jumperoo she sternly tells me that he doesn't want to get out of his toy. She tells me WHEN to fix him a bottle and she tells me where to put him, etc. It's kinda funny because she's so posessive over him:)