camp61
11-17-2008, 04:06 PM
Hello,my husband has PTSD, from being on submarine, he has been on Temp disab from his work for a yr,He used to work at a womens prison.
It seems like when we talk all we seem to do is argue,suppose that's from being together 24-7,he goes to all doc. appt,but when something goes wrong,he'll say i didn't do it.
I have just signed up on here so it's going to take me a while to say everything,we r 47 yrs old,
he has a pychiatrist,therapist RAdoc,regular doc,vocational rehabilation worker,good with his friends.
yes i do go to some doc with him ,i have been to the head doc,before with him.
somedays i think he's going to drive me crazy
anyone have something simular to this
It seems like when we talk all we seem to do is argue,suppose that's from being together 24-7,he goes to all doc. appt,but when something goes wrong,he'll say i didn't do it.
I have just signed up on here so it's going to take me a while to say everything,we r 47 yrs old,
he has a pychiatrist,therapist RAdoc,regular doc,vocational rehabilation worker,good with his friends.
yes i do go to some doc with him ,i have been to the head doc,before with him.
somedays i think he's going to drive me crazy
anyone have something simular to this
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maybecrazy
11-19-2008, 07:38 PM
HI Camp61 and welcome,
It sounds like he is gettng help - are you? living with someone with PTSD can be very stressful - and a psych could help you understand what is happening to him and help you with what is happening to you and you relationship - and give you coping techniques for stress - i expect that is also a big change for you having him home 24/7 and for him as well - maybe when he has done something wrong he is too embarrassed to admit it - or he may be doing things without thinking - I do that a lot - anyway I hope you find the answers you seek - take care MBC
It sounds like he is gettng help - are you? living with someone with PTSD can be very stressful - and a psych could help you understand what is happening to him and help you with what is happening to you and you relationship - and give you coping techniques for stress - i expect that is also a big change for you having him home 24/7 and for him as well - maybe when he has done something wrong he is too embarrassed to admit it - or he may be doing things without thinking - I do that a lot - anyway I hope you find the answers you seek - take care MBC
camp61
11-20-2008, 11:00 AM
Hello,Boy i'm new at this,r u married, talking to u will hopefully understand.he mostly sleeps days and up all nite.now he hasn't in 7 days,took a shower or been with his friends. when we do talk we argue,he'll say why r u arguing with me,so i don't say anything at all.one day he seems to be fine and the next he's down again.no i'm not seeing anyone, my doc told me to go to church.i now that i can't tell u everthing on oneboard but as things come to me.thanks-you
maybecrazy
11-21-2008, 03:02 AM
no im not married, so i can only tell you how it affects me and those close to me not a partner - which i think would be much harder to bear - living with them 24/7
depression can make you not want to do anything - and lack of sleep can make you angry and short tempered - I used to be afraid to sleep - the nightmares i had were horrible - reliving the event is draining - so I would stay up all night and fall into bed the next day and sleep fitfully for a few hours - i went onto anti-depressants and for a time, sleeping tablets - which my dr was wise to only prescribe a few at a time - i had to try 2 different types of antidepressants before i got the one that worked for me - but they have made a huge difference - once i was sleeping again and seeing a psychologist (3rd one was the one that helped me) things started to drop into place - I kept away from people because i didnt want to be seen as whinging and didnt want to admit i had a problem - if i didnt see anyone i could kid myself i was handling it - yeah right! :(
I know the times i wanted space my friends misread it for wanting company which only made me cranky because i couldnt join in - i just wanted to be alone - having said that being alone was probably the worst thing at some times for me as i became isolated and depression feeds on isolation.
If you are religious then as suggested see your church person but personally i think it helps to seek help from a psychologist - thats only my opinion - but you must be under tremendous stress and they would help you deal with that and give you strategies to help you with your husband - maybe when its time you could have joint sessions - i hope you find some relief for both of you soon MBC
depression can make you not want to do anything - and lack of sleep can make you angry and short tempered - I used to be afraid to sleep - the nightmares i had were horrible - reliving the event is draining - so I would stay up all night and fall into bed the next day and sleep fitfully for a few hours - i went onto anti-depressants and for a time, sleeping tablets - which my dr was wise to only prescribe a few at a time - i had to try 2 different types of antidepressants before i got the one that worked for me - but they have made a huge difference - once i was sleeping again and seeing a psychologist (3rd one was the one that helped me) things started to drop into place - I kept away from people because i didnt want to be seen as whinging and didnt want to admit i had a problem - if i didnt see anyone i could kid myself i was handling it - yeah right! :(
I know the times i wanted space my friends misread it for wanting company which only made me cranky because i couldnt join in - i just wanted to be alone - having said that being alone was probably the worst thing at some times for me as i became isolated and depression feeds on isolation.
If you are religious then as suggested see your church person but personally i think it helps to seek help from a psychologist - thats only my opinion - but you must be under tremendous stress and they would help you deal with that and give you strategies to help you with your husband - maybe when its time you could have joint sessions - i hope you find some relief for both of you soon MBC
camp61
11-21-2008, 12:35 PM
no im not married, so i can only tell you how it affects me and those close to me not a partner - which i think would be much harder to bear - living with them 24/7
depression can make you not want to do anything - and lack of sleep can make you angry and short tempered - I used to be afraid to sleep - the nightmares i had were horrible - reliving the event is draining - so I would stay up all night and fall into bed the next day and sleep fitfully for a few hours - i went onto anti-depressants and for a time, sleeping tablets - which my dr was wise to only prescribe a few at a time - i had to try 2 different types of antidepressants before i got the one that worked for me - but they have made a huge difference - once i was sleeping again and seeing a psychologist (3rd one was the one that helped me) things started to drop into place - I kept away from people because i didnt want to be seen as whinging and didnt want to admit i had a problem - if i didnt see anyone i could kid myself i was handling it - yeah right! :(
I know the times i wanted space my friends misread it for wanting company which only made me cranky because i couldnt join in - i just wanted to be alone - having said that being alone was probably the worst thing at some times for me as i became isolated and depression feeds on isolation.
If you are religious then as suggested see your church person but personally i think it helps to seek help from a psychologist - thats only my opinion - but you must be under tremendous stress and they would help you deal with that and give you strategies to help you with your husband - maybe when its time you could have joint sessions - i hope you find some relief for both of you soon MBC
depression can make you not want to do anything - and lack of sleep can make you angry and short tempered - I used to be afraid to sleep - the nightmares i had were horrible - reliving the event is draining - so I would stay up all night and fall into bed the next day and sleep fitfully for a few hours - i went onto anti-depressants and for a time, sleeping tablets - which my dr was wise to only prescribe a few at a time - i had to try 2 different types of antidepressants before i got the one that worked for me - but they have made a huge difference - once i was sleeping again and seeing a psychologist (3rd one was the one that helped me) things started to drop into place - I kept away from people because i didnt want to be seen as whinging and didnt want to admit i had a problem - if i didnt see anyone i could kid myself i was handling it - yeah right! :(
I know the times i wanted space my friends misread it for wanting company which only made me cranky because i couldnt join in - i just wanted to be alone - having said that being alone was probably the worst thing at some times for me as i became isolated and depression feeds on isolation.
If you are religious then as suggested see your church person but personally i think it helps to seek help from a psychologist - thats only my opinion - but you must be under tremendous stress and they would help you deal with that and give you strategies to help you with your husband - maybe when its time you could have joint sessions - i hope you find some relief for both of you soon MBC
camp61
11-21-2008, 12:49 PM
Hello,no i'm far from religious.but i will next time go to his pych doc.last nite he got annoyed i guess i'd call it.i was in the kitchen making cookies,when our son came home from school,and usually our dog and him have grawling time and sometimes dennis joins right in and plays along,but when it's enough it's enough well yesterday.d didn't want to hear at all well. so that was a big deal. then the phone rang and d had told our son once before that when u answer the phone ask who it is.well i said ask ur dad to see who it is,anyway,took my phone call and went to give him the phone back and he started getting agravated at me for bringing him the phone.so i told him to calm down that made him mad.so he got up and came in the kitchen and went off on our son and me.do things set u off? sorry that was so long sometimes i feel like he's thinking no one should get in his way, or talk back to him,i want to say what i feel but he makes it hard.camp61
maybecrazy
11-21-2008, 06:02 PM
i would spark up for no reason - or very little reason - there would be times when it was all i could do to exist and anything over that was too much so if people talked to me i couldnt handle it - noises would make me jump and i would feel like an idiot so i tried to keep things quiet - not always easy to do -you didnt mention if your husband was on any meds - they can help along with the psyche help - I am so sorry for what you and your son are going through _ it must almost be like living with a stranger - I know i felt/feel that i am someone else now - that the old me is dead and there is this new me that i have to get used to - i dont like her much most of the time - but i can sometimes see bits of the old me there - i think PTSD makes you a bit insular - you are so busy trying to keep everything in control and not lose it that you lose touch with what you are doing to others - maybe you could get a group session first with you and your husband and then with all three of you - and as kids often think that they have caused the problem even when they havnt its a good idea to have a chat with your son and let him know whats going on and that it is not his fault in any way(you've probably done that so please excuse me for repeating it) - councilling may help him too - its a hard thing for your husband and you and your son to bear alone - i hope things improve for you soon - take care - MBC ps if there are any quiet times when things are ok - try talking calmly to him about it (i expect youve done that too - take care)