May75
01-14-2009, 07:42 PM
Since I just started dating someone new and want to tell him about my high risk hpv,... what kind of reactions did you guys get from your significant other? Did they bail, were they understanding??? Are they sticking around and risking it? I really like this guy and avoided him for the past year. My friend introduced us a year ago and through his persistance I finally decided to go out with him. I really like him but am afraid of telling him and him bailing on me and others finding out? I'm so afraid of telling him that I just want to call "us" off to avoid that conversation. No one knows (except my dr.) that I have high risk hpv and since there is still new information coming out about this virus, just curious as to how it went for some of you guys and how you approached the conversation
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Drafly
01-14-2009, 09:08 PM
May
I am divorced and have had HPV since 1987. I made a conscious choice for the last 7 years not to be in a relationship. Not because of HPV, but for other reasons, like becoming my own person for once.
Now with my son graduated from college and my daughter to graduate HS in June last year I began contemplating getting into a relationship. Unfortunately I have now been diagnosed with AIN3 and also squamous cell carcinoma of the rectum from HPV. I am now consulting with a radiation oncologist and medical oncologist (chemo) as to just what course we are going to pursue. Many are suggesting a colostomy (surgical closure of the anus with a permanent bag attached to your abdomen instead).
My thoughts of how to tell someone have evaporated at this point because not only do I have hrHPV but now I've got all of these significant medical issues to boot. I feel like damanged goods and find it hard to imagine anyone wanting to hang around and risk this. The only idea I have come up with is to find someone who also HAS HPV. At least they would understand, alhtough for men it is so so different. They are far less likely to experience ANY of the horrific consequences that women do.
I know this has not really answered your question but since you put it out there, I guess I just needed to vent my own frustrations with that issue.
I am divorced and have had HPV since 1987. I made a conscious choice for the last 7 years not to be in a relationship. Not because of HPV, but for other reasons, like becoming my own person for once.
Now with my son graduated from college and my daughter to graduate HS in June last year I began contemplating getting into a relationship. Unfortunately I have now been diagnosed with AIN3 and also squamous cell carcinoma of the rectum from HPV. I am now consulting with a radiation oncologist and medical oncologist (chemo) as to just what course we are going to pursue. Many are suggesting a colostomy (surgical closure of the anus with a permanent bag attached to your abdomen instead).
My thoughts of how to tell someone have evaporated at this point because not only do I have hrHPV but now I've got all of these significant medical issues to boot. I feel like damanged goods and find it hard to imagine anyone wanting to hang around and risk this. The only idea I have come up with is to find someone who also HAS HPV. At least they would understand, alhtough for men it is so so different. They are far less likely to experience ANY of the horrific consequences that women do.
I know this has not really answered your question but since you put it out there, I guess I just needed to vent my own frustrations with that issue.