I think my past maybe haunting me,.
as some of you know I'm in a realtionship with a very nice beautiful woman, things are going pretty good with the excepion she is getting jettery or jelous....she is always asking me why I take so long to go to the store or if I'm gone to long she lets me know about it, I have had past g/f and some of them just can't let sleeping dogs lie....my current g/f knows of this and she brings it up...she says how do I know you was nout out with jennifer?Jennifer and I were dateing for a while but never did have that connection so we parted ways and still remain good friends ..I do talk to her from time to time we we see each other we both still care about each other but just as friends and only in a platonic way.
I can't make my current g/f see this...I don't know what to do...I Love this girl and its bothering me the way she is about my past and my past g/f.

Is it ok to be friends with your ex? and still be a in a loving realtionship with another.
I've talk to my current g/f about all this and she still acusses me and assumming things that I'm out with jennifer when I'm not with her or stay gone to long...just because jenifer and I remain good friends.
what should I do?
I don't want to break-up so I just don't know what to do??

Your past is haunting you...chevyman?

She sounds like she has past demons in the trust department herself. It's almost as if she expects it to be happening, and she is going to make sure she catches you, because her experience may be that "all men do it".

I am another kind of woman, who's experience with men have been positive, and like you...I wouldn't consider these men anything less than old friends whom I still value.

I hate to tell you this, but I would call this a little red flag on a long term relationship.

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You can have all the Exes you want calling you all day/night long...just don't expect a woman to be OK with that! Personally I don't like baggage! I want a relationship with a man that want to be with me...not some other woman/women! And what are you doing when you time cannot be accounted for? If you are talking and going on with your EX GFs and then your are mysteriously MIA for a couple hours...what's she supposed to think? I mean if she has a brain and thinks for herself? Personally I think people deserve better than deception and sneaking! Like I said, you're business is your business but don't expect a woman to be OK with it! And if you find one...goody for you! Better hang on to that one in a million woman!

Another question...have you been sneaking around(with Exes) and got caught? Is that really why she's not trusting you? I used to trust my husband 110% until I caught him sneaking around...needless to say that trust is totally gone right now!!!!!

Just reverse the situatuon. I remember that you posted that she'd come home one night late before you were dating, and, in all honesty, you were jealous and concerned. How would you feel if she were talking to and spending time with an ex? I think you mentioned that it bothers you when she talks about her husband who passed away...so you have to expect that if those things bother you, then you spending time with a lady you used to date will bother her.

Try to see it from her point of view, and maybe that will help.

I may be out of line, but-

I don't think chevyman ever mentioned "all the exes""calling you all day and nite long".

My understanding is that he is accused of having contact with one ex, everytime he runs out to store. That seems like a rediculous claim by a man-hater (for lack of a better term).

I have followed your posts over the last few months chevyman, and I have posted a few positive replys on your relationship. My perspective certainly never included the image of you running off for quickies with an ex!

Stay true to your heart.

Different women (humans), different attitudes towards partner's friendships with exes. I am one of those who would be uncomfortable with my partner's friendships - even if I know for sure it is just friendships. I'm sure other women would be more open-minded and accept partner's friendships - as well as expecting him to accept her friendships with her exes.

I wonder if you would be OK with her disappearing for a couple of hours now and then with her exes?

Oh No I'am not seeing my ex's or ex...not at all.

what I think happen was I seen my ex ''jenifer'' in the grocery store, and yes we talked but just briefly, we had'nt seen each other in a few months and we was glad to see each other, she was telling me about her realtionship with this guy and I was telling her about mine, we just want each other to be happy thats all it was...anyway a friend of my current g/f see us talking and now Thats why all the 3rd degree.

I am true to my current g/f I don't want anyone else but her....jenifer is a model and looks really fine all the time but I don't care about that kind of woman anymore..ii HAVE TOLD MY CURRENT G/F THIS ,I lOVE THE ONE I'M WITH NOW, ALTHO SHE IS NOT A MODEL BUT SHE LOOKS FINE TO ME...SHE MAKES ME FEEL WANTED AND VERY COMFORTABLE...WELL SHE DID?

my current g/f she different from any other woman I ever been with and I love how she makes me feel if it wasn't from her not trusting me...I have not did a thing wrong on my part.
should I just stay at my place and not go over to my g/f place for a few days until she calls me or comes by? ..I need the rest thats forsure ha!

Chevyman,

Like I said, this sounds like a very tender spot for her, and she is jumping to some unfound conclusions. You have been clear about your intentions in this relationship, and have taken some time to get this far your relationship (as far as my understanding goes).

She may have some un-resolved issues with infidelity in her past, that may cause her to inadvertantly sabotage this realtionship with you.

It maybe past infildelity on her part? not her late hubby... she told me he did not satifsy her...but I don't think thats the reason...I need to fine out tho if I keep this realtionship going.

chevy like I told you before, the door swings both ways.....when you mentioned to her about her being out late, all she said was "oh is THAT how it is?" She avoided the question, and turned it around like you were wrong for even asking it.....
if she wants to know all the details of your free time, she has to give you the same consideration, not a smart alek defensive response like she did.....
do you have a cell phone? if so tell her she is free to call anytime.....that may put her mind at ease. I think she's a little out of line, and this is a red flag.

I understnad what you guys are saying and I do realize the door swings both ways.
It's just that she is so hard to talk to about things like this, when Friday Night I sit her down and wanted to have a heart to heart, actually she just listens and don't say much or just says things like ''I never knew there was a problem?'' or just says ''whatever'' or ''ever what you want'', ''you do what you want to do''..and that just pisses me off more.

Its kinda like she is the miss-treated one and has not did anything wrong and she is making me look like the bad guy here.
I told her I'm not begging her for her love, she either loves and trust me or she don't and right now were not talking to each other she thinks I left after that visit in a huffy and its my fault for bringing it up with her...''the untrust she has for me or respect or how she treats me about my whereabouts''.

TO ME IF A WOMAN TRULLY LOVES A PERSON THEN THERES NO DOUBTS OR UNTRUST AND I'M NOT GETTING THAT...THATS WHY I FEEL SHE IS ONLY USEING ME FOR THE BEDROOM.
Altho she is a very beautiful woman when she is all fixed up she could get a guy with no problem what so ever...if it was that?

Anyway thanks guys for all your replys I appreciate them...I will be gone about a week on my job so if I don't post I'll be working.
Thanks Again.