I contacted Herpes four years ago from someone that I had been involved with, off and on for 10 years. He has Herpes but never told me. The relationship is over, but now there's a new man in my life and of course he wants sex. I've held him off because I don't want to spread this disease to him.

My question is... is it safe to have sex with me with just a condom on? Would he become infected by his testicles touching my vaginal area.

How do you tell someone that you have a disease?