azototh
03-03-2009, 10:54 AM
I read that 75% of sexually active people will have contacts with the HPV. If that is so, is it so bad not telling your partners that you have HPV?
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LilyL21
03-03-2009, 12:12 PM
With other STDs, I really think you have to tell. But with HPV . . . I don't know. I feel it's your personal decision.
I know I would feel crappy if I couldn't tell my partner. Not guilty for keeping it, but I wouldn't want a relationship where I couldn't be honest about what's going on in my life.
HPV will remain with you, but often it "clears" your system and becomes inactive. It's not actually known whether it can be passed while it's inactive. Compare it to the chicken pox virus: we all still have it in our bodies, but we don't go around spreading it, do we? Years ago, I had a wart on my hand, and I don't hestitate to shake hands with people.
And what is the result if you tell you partner? You would say to you partner, "I could give you HPV." That is the exact same as telling your partner, "I have had sex before."
It's been a major life lesson for me that HPV is unavoidable. The only way to deal with it is to make sure you keep getting checked to make sure the HPV you probably have isn't causing you problems.
I know I would feel crappy if I couldn't tell my partner. Not guilty for keeping it, but I wouldn't want a relationship where I couldn't be honest about what's going on in my life.
HPV will remain with you, but often it "clears" your system and becomes inactive. It's not actually known whether it can be passed while it's inactive. Compare it to the chicken pox virus: we all still have it in our bodies, but we don't go around spreading it, do we? Years ago, I had a wart on my hand, and I don't hestitate to shake hands with people.
And what is the result if you tell you partner? You would say to you partner, "I could give you HPV." That is the exact same as telling your partner, "I have had sex before."
It's been a major life lesson for me that HPV is unavoidable. The only way to deal with it is to make sure you keep getting checked to make sure the HPV you probably have isn't causing you problems.
Pickle Eyes
03-03-2009, 10:04 PM
Since you are asking my opinion, I will tell you.
I think any new partner needs to know your HPV status. I personally think that one should be comfortable and familiar enough with ones future sex partner to be able to discuss this. I know that now everyone thinks the way I do.
And if you are asking specifically about genital warts (low risk HPV), I'd be livid if someone knew they had them, exposed me to them, and didn't tell me prior to the skin-to-skin exchange!
I think any new partner needs to know your HPV status. I personally think that one should be comfortable and familiar enough with ones future sex partner to be able to discuss this. I know that now everyone thinks the way I do.
And if you are asking specifically about genital warts (low risk HPV), I'd be livid if someone knew they had them, exposed me to them, and didn't tell me prior to the skin-to-skin exchange!
LilyL21
03-04-2009, 03:50 PM
I personally think that one should be comfortable and familiar enough with ones future sex partner to be able to discuss this.
I totally agree Pickle Eyes. If you aren't comfortable enough to discuss issues like this with someone, you probably shouldn't have sex with them.
I totally agree Pickle Eyes. If you aren't comfortable enough to discuss issues like this with someone, you probably shouldn't have sex with them.