tcp307
03-22-2009, 02:25 PM
What does it mean to be anxious and nervous around others (more than 2 or 3)? :confused:
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fossilapostle
03-22-2009, 05:15 PM
That you're shy?
What do you mean by "nervous and anxious" though? That you break out in a sweat and can't speak, or that you're kind of self-conscious and feel a bit uncomfortable?
What do you mean by "nervous and anxious" though? That you break out in a sweat and can't speak, or that you're kind of self-conscious and feel a bit uncomfortable?
tcp307
03-22-2009, 09:49 PM
I'm really self-conscious and feel a bit uncomfortable.......actually A LOT uncomfortable. Almost paranoid..really nervous when I'm looked at or talked to, I guess almost like I'm standing with no clothing on. I don't like people to directly talk to me or ask me questions. Especially men. It's really freaked me out. Went to a kids bday party yesterday and found all this out real quick. I couldn't wait to leave there....then I got to thinking about the last time I've been around a lot of people and I can't really remember. I don't go to malls....they make me extremely nervous. Constantly watching over my shoulder. Almost like too much is going on for me to take it all in. Am I losing my mind or what?
fossilapostle
03-23-2009, 07:31 PM
I guess that does sound like a little more than shyness. I won't ask how old you are, but if you're a teenager, this could just be a particularly self-conscious phase, though it still sounds a bit severe.
If you're older though, you may have some social anxiety or maybe just fear of crowds or something. It's hard to say. If it doesn't just go away on it's own after a while, I would consider telling your doctor about it to see if a mental heath referral could be helpful.
If you're older though, you may have some social anxiety or maybe just fear of crowds or something. It's hard to say. If it doesn't just go away on it's own after a while, I would consider telling your doctor about it to see if a mental heath referral could be helpful.
tcp307
03-23-2009, 08:21 PM
I guess that does sound like a little more than shyness. I won't ask how old you are, but if you're a teenager, this could just be a particularly self-conscious phase, though it still sounds a bit severe.
If you're older though, you may have some social anxiety or maybe just fear of crowds or something. It's hard to say. If it doesn't just go away on it's own after a while, I would consider telling your doctor about it to see if a mental heath referral could be helpful.
I will offer my age (I'm 35), and I have a therapist and have been on Prozac for over 2 years. I suffer from depression and anxiety, but the Prozac seems to calm me down (sometimes too down). It's strange, but I will bring it up at my next session. I've been making excuses not to go see my therapist lately. Sometimes I hate bringing stuff out in the open about things I'm going through. I appreciate the response though :)
If you're older though, you may have some social anxiety or maybe just fear of crowds or something. It's hard to say. If it doesn't just go away on it's own after a while, I would consider telling your doctor about it to see if a mental heath referral could be helpful.
I will offer my age (I'm 35), and I have a therapist and have been on Prozac for over 2 years. I suffer from depression and anxiety, but the Prozac seems to calm me down (sometimes too down). It's strange, but I will bring it up at my next session. I've been making excuses not to go see my therapist lately. Sometimes I hate bringing stuff out in the open about things I'm going through. I appreciate the response though :)
fossilapostle
03-24-2009, 05:09 PM
I will offer my age (I'm 35), and I have a therapist and have been on Prozac for over 2 years. I suffer from depression and anxiety, but the Prozac seems to calm me down (sometimes too down). It's strange, but I will bring it up at my next session. I've been making excuses not to go see my therapist lately. Sometimes I hate bringing stuff out in the open about things I'm going through. I appreciate the response though :)
Not much point in going to a therapist if you're not going to tell him/her your problems.
Not that I don't understand how you feel. That's why I stopped therapy.
Not much point in going to a therapist if you're not going to tell him/her your problems.
Not that I don't understand how you feel. That's why I stopped therapy.
Seymour93
03-24-2009, 05:28 PM
I will offer my age (I'm 35), and I have a therapist and have been on Prozac for over 2 years. I suffer from depression and anxiety, but the Prozac seems to calm me down (sometimes too down). It's strange, but I will bring it up at my next session. I've been making excuses not to go see my therapist lately. Sometimes I hate bringing stuff out in the open about things I'm going through. I appreciate the response though :)
Sounds like you have social anxiety..... What you are experiencing in therapy is perfectly natural. You may be getting at the tough stuff now which has to be dealt with. Hang in there and you can get through this.
Sounds like you have social anxiety..... What you are experiencing in therapy is perfectly natural. You may be getting at the tough stuff now which has to be dealt with. Hang in there and you can get through this.
tcp307
03-24-2009, 09:14 PM
Fossilapostle:
You did? Glad I'm not alone in making excuses. At first it was 'I will call you and make an appt', then 'I don't have time this week', now 'I guess I'm doing ok, so I don't need to go'. My therapist called me last week and told me she even had an afternoon appt open (knowing that's always been the best for me), and I lied and told her I had to work late. I just don't know what's up with me lately. It's been going on a few weeks now (maybe longer). I just want to crawl into a hole and let it swallow me up. It's harder and harder to find things to keep me going all day.
You did? Glad I'm not alone in making excuses. At first it was 'I will call you and make an appt', then 'I don't have time this week', now 'I guess I'm doing ok, so I don't need to go'. My therapist called me last week and told me she even had an afternoon appt open (knowing that's always been the best for me), and I lied and told her I had to work late. I just don't know what's up with me lately. It's been going on a few weeks now (maybe longer). I just want to crawl into a hole and let it swallow me up. It's harder and harder to find things to keep me going all day.
tcp307
03-24-2009, 09:23 PM
Sounds like you have social anxiety..... What you are experiencing in therapy is perfectly natural. You may be getting at the tough stuff now which has to be dealt with. Hang in there and you can get through this.
Thx for the response...do you think social anxiety would just all of a sudden come up? I used to be very outgoing and social. I just don't know where it came from. Would my Prozac not be effective for something like that? :confused:
Thx for the response...do you think social anxiety would just all of a sudden come up? I used to be very outgoing and social. I just don't know where it came from. Would my Prozac not be effective for something like that? :confused:
fossilapostle
03-25-2009, 05:31 AM
Fossilapostle:
You did? Glad I'm not alone in making excuses. At first it was 'I will call you and make an appt', then 'I don't have time this week', now 'I guess I'm doing ok, so I don't need to go'. My therapist called me last week and told me she even had an afternoon appt open (knowing that's always been the best for me), and I lied and told her I had to work late. I just don't know what's up with me lately. It's been going on a few weeks now (maybe longer). I just want to crawl into a hole and let it swallow me up. It's harder and harder to find things to keep me going all day.
Yeah, I did. Don't misunderstand me though, I'm not reccomending it for you. I'm just saying that if you are going to go to therapy, you have to commit to it and that means telling them stuff like this. It'd be like going to a doctor and not telling them your physicaly symptoms. How can they treat you?
IN fact, it's worse than that, b/c at least MD's can run tests, etc, whereas mental health professionals are much more reliant on your description of your symptoms and problems.
I quit b/c I realized that in the end, I was never going to trust any stranger enough to tell them stuff about myself that I didn't want to. So it was just a waste of my time and money to go if I couldn't be totally honest. I'm not saying it was a good or bad idea, just that I finally realized that I was never going to be able to tell someone I didn't know personally about the skeletons in my closet...so to speak. :)
I'm a very secretive person and have trouble trusting others. Or at least that's how I've been described by others. I admit the secretive part, but I think the not being trusting of others is a fairly reasonable reaction if you konw much about human nature. Plus I just have a thing for secrets. :) It's just who I am and I've accepted it.
You did? Glad I'm not alone in making excuses. At first it was 'I will call you and make an appt', then 'I don't have time this week', now 'I guess I'm doing ok, so I don't need to go'. My therapist called me last week and told me she even had an afternoon appt open (knowing that's always been the best for me), and I lied and told her I had to work late. I just don't know what's up with me lately. It's been going on a few weeks now (maybe longer). I just want to crawl into a hole and let it swallow me up. It's harder and harder to find things to keep me going all day.
Yeah, I did. Don't misunderstand me though, I'm not reccomending it for you. I'm just saying that if you are going to go to therapy, you have to commit to it and that means telling them stuff like this. It'd be like going to a doctor and not telling them your physicaly symptoms. How can they treat you?
IN fact, it's worse than that, b/c at least MD's can run tests, etc, whereas mental health professionals are much more reliant on your description of your symptoms and problems.
I quit b/c I realized that in the end, I was never going to trust any stranger enough to tell them stuff about myself that I didn't want to. So it was just a waste of my time and money to go if I couldn't be totally honest. I'm not saying it was a good or bad idea, just that I finally realized that I was never going to be able to tell someone I didn't know personally about the skeletons in my closet...so to speak. :)
I'm a very secretive person and have trouble trusting others. Or at least that's how I've been described by others. I admit the secretive part, but I think the not being trusting of others is a fairly reasonable reaction if you konw much about human nature. Plus I just have a thing for secrets. :) It's just who I am and I've accepted it.