plc4
04-09-2009, 11:00 PM
At least once a week, I will get extremely angry, to the point where all I want to do is scream, but all I end up doing is sitting there fuming. Then even the smallest thing will make me cry, and then I'll just want to scream but again, I won't do it. Then the next step is almost always punching or kicking something until my hand or foot hurts. I never hit people or animals, only inanimate things that obviously can't feel pain. Once I was horrified by a vision that I hurt my cat, so I'm especially careful that I don't hit him. I usually just give him a hug (pick him up and pet him and he purrs) when I'm angry, that helps. If not, I just start crying like a baby and then eventually just lose all my energy after a few hours like this, and then I just fall asleep.
What is this and how do I stop it? Thank you.
What is this and how do I stop it? Thank you.
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Van Drake
04-10-2009, 04:58 AM
Any idea what triggers these bouts of anger? what will you be doing when these feelings start? are there any patterns?
reg12
04-10-2009, 02:14 PM
Hello plc4,
It is a release of energy, which is caused by the same reason as the other issue.
It is a release of energy, which is caused by the same reason as the other issue.
plc4
04-10-2009, 02:53 PM
Any idea what triggers these bouts of anger? what will you be doing when these feelings start? are there any patterns?
Usually someone will say something illogical or unreasonable and it will trigger something like this. Or they will make an assumption or jump to a conclusion based on no evidence. I suppose that's just illogical anyways, so I guess what triggers this is any illogical behaviour of others.
It is a release of energy, which is caused by the same reason as the other issue.
Obviously, that is the case. What else would it be? :)
Usually someone will say something illogical or unreasonable and it will trigger something like this. Or they will make an assumption or jump to a conclusion based on no evidence. I suppose that's just illogical anyways, so I guess what triggers this is any illogical behaviour of others.
It is a release of energy, which is caused by the same reason as the other issue.
Obviously, that is the case. What else would it be? :)
Van Drake
04-10-2009, 03:17 PM
How do you yourself try to rationlize these feelings? what do you say to yourself?
plc4
04-10-2009, 03:33 PM
How do you yourself try to rationlize these feelings? what do you say to yourself?
I pretty much just get angry at the person who was illogical, but as stated, I don't hit other living things. So I will not physically or verbally (or in any other way) carry out my anger towards the illogical person. So I take it out on myself with hitting things. I think that's it, anyways.
I pretty much just get angry at the person who was illogical, but as stated, I don't hit other living things. So I will not physically or verbally (or in any other way) carry out my anger towards the illogical person. So I take it out on myself with hitting things. I think that's it, anyways.
Van Drake
04-11-2009, 04:41 AM
What would your definition of illogical behaviour be? can you give an example of this behaviour in particular the ones that trigger your anger?
dreams in neon
04-11-2009, 03:40 PM
I experience extreme anger/irritability towards the middle of a manic episode and the only way I've found to cope is to take Clonazepam whenever I feel myself start to rapid cycle into agitation.
If I'm at home when I feel extremely upset, I take a nap in order to calm down. Most of the time I end up feeling better by the time I wake up.
If I'm at home when I feel extremely upset, I take a nap in order to calm down. Most of the time I end up feeling better by the time I wake up.
AnnD
04-11-2009, 03:45 PM
I think you are going to need help with this and would advise you seek a mental health counselor that understands anger management techniques. Good luck.
plc4
04-12-2009, 10:36 PM
What would your definition of illogical behaviour be? can you give an example of this behaviour in particular the ones that trigger your anger?
I'd say the biggest one is people jumping to conclusions or making generalizations, and the less information/data it's based on, the angrier it makes me.
Also, if they say something that is illogical and their points can be easily refuted, I try and refute them..not angrily, just as a discussion. However, if they're not the type of person who takes well to refutation, no matter how calm, rational, or valid, then I don't bother discussing things with them. Keeping that inside instead of letting them know, causes me to react badly (like what I described) when I'm alone again.
I'd say the biggest one is people jumping to conclusions or making generalizations, and the less information/data it's based on, the angrier it makes me.
Also, if they say something that is illogical and their points can be easily refuted, I try and refute them..not angrily, just as a discussion. However, if they're not the type of person who takes well to refutation, no matter how calm, rational, or valid, then I don't bother discussing things with them. Keeping that inside instead of letting them know, causes me to react badly (like what I described) when I'm alone again.
typeing
04-12-2009, 10:44 PM
I'd say the biggest one is people jumping to conclusions or making generalizations, and the less information/data it's based on, the angrier it makes me.
Also, if they say something that is illogical and their points can be easily refuted, I try and refute them..not angrily, just as a discussion. However, if they're not the type of person who takes well to refutation, no matter how calm, rational, or valid, then I don't bother discussing things with them. Keeping that inside instead of letting them know, causes me to react badly (like what I described) when I'm alone again.
I agree with a previous poster that you might need some help... but in the meantime there is always a squeeze ball?
Also, if they say something that is illogical and their points can be easily refuted, I try and refute them..not angrily, just as a discussion. However, if they're not the type of person who takes well to refutation, no matter how calm, rational, or valid, then I don't bother discussing things with them. Keeping that inside instead of letting them know, causes me to react badly (like what I described) when I'm alone again.
I agree with a previous poster that you might need some help... but in the meantime there is always a squeeze ball?
plc4
04-13-2009, 08:22 PM
I agree with a previous poster that you might need some help... but in the meantime there is always a squeeze ball?
I really don't see the point of spending loads of money to get "some help" for something so trivial. As for the squeeze ball, excuse my ignorance, but what is that? I do pushups and it calms me down, it's just an excess of energy. As I said, I don't hurt people, though I'm sure they would like to medicate me for this and get $$$ even from people who aren't actually in need of medication.
Edit: Just now (about 3 hours after I posted this, maybe?) I had an adverse reaction like the one I described above and went through and just trolled the hell out of this sports forum and got myself banned intentionally. I won't regret it, I know, but this is also something that happens.
I really don't see the point of spending loads of money to get "some help" for something so trivial. As for the squeeze ball, excuse my ignorance, but what is that? I do pushups and it calms me down, it's just an excess of energy. As I said, I don't hurt people, though I'm sure they would like to medicate me for this and get $$$ even from people who aren't actually in need of medication.
Edit: Just now (about 3 hours after I posted this, maybe?) I had an adverse reaction like the one I described above and went through and just trolled the hell out of this sports forum and got myself banned intentionally. I won't regret it, I know, but this is also something that happens.
Van Drake
04-14-2009, 03:47 AM
this isnt trivial. this is something that can be a gateway to other problems and potentially land you in alot of trouble. getting help isnt for anyone elses benefit but your own. and you need to see it that way. something like an anger management class or even speaking to a therapist. You cant say something is trivial but it forces you to cry yourself to sleep or hurt yourself. It isnt. You need to speak to someone professional who can help. please.
otherwise you may find yourself in an anger situation that you cant control. despite you thinking you're in control now it can and will slip away. You need the right tools to deal with this.
otherwise you may find yourself in an anger situation that you cant control. despite you thinking you're in control now it can and will slip away. You need the right tools to deal with this.
plc4
04-14-2009, 12:08 PM
If someone on here were to send me the $100 I'd need to talk to someone about this, I'll go. I don't have that money right now.
getting help isnt for anyone elses benefit but your own
It's exam time right now, so if I were to get help, it would just waste my own time and not benefit me in the least! Of course it's for the sake of others! That way they can label me, diagnose me, medicate me, and take all my money. That's always the end goal.
You cant say something is trivial but it forces you to cry yourself to sleep or hurt yourself
It doesn't force me to do anything. I do it willfully. I could just stop if I wanted to. I have, already, once since my last post. I just stopped being angry, it worked.
My thinking whenever I get angry is: Do I care enough about the person/people who is/are seeing me like this, to stop so they don't have to see me like this anymore? For example, if I'm talking to someone and feel anger at either them or someone / something else that happened (and I just remembered it at that particular time), I just think of that, and the anger melts. I suppose, if it were someone I didn't care about, then I would still stop since I wouldn't want to embarrass myself in front of them.
getting help isnt for anyone elses benefit but your own
It's exam time right now, so if I were to get help, it would just waste my own time and not benefit me in the least! Of course it's for the sake of others! That way they can label me, diagnose me, medicate me, and take all my money. That's always the end goal.
You cant say something is trivial but it forces you to cry yourself to sleep or hurt yourself
It doesn't force me to do anything. I do it willfully. I could just stop if I wanted to. I have, already, once since my last post. I just stopped being angry, it worked.
My thinking whenever I get angry is: Do I care enough about the person/people who is/are seeing me like this, to stop so they don't have to see me like this anymore? For example, if I'm talking to someone and feel anger at either them or someone / something else that happened (and I just remembered it at that particular time), I just think of that, and the anger melts. I suppose, if it were someone I didn't care about, then I would still stop since I wouldn't want to embarrass myself in front of them.
plc4
04-15-2009, 10:38 PM
I stopped being angry again today.