NLJ0275
04-25-2009, 03:45 PM
How do I tell my partner I have HPV
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Pickle Eyes
04-25-2009, 06:27 PM
Do you have low risk or high risk HPV? How long have you been together?
NLJ0275
04-25-2009, 11:38 PM
Lol, well I actually thought that was a search line......geez shows where my head is at. :confused:
I was going to get a feel for what was going before posting but since I stuck my foot in my mouth already here goes.
Im 30 and I have had low risk HPV complete with genital warts for about 8 years now. I dated a few people after I knew that I had the virus courtesy of one of the STD sites because I cant stand to give this to someone else. Noting really ever happened long term though.
So about 3 months ago by sheer chance I met this woman that I am madly in love with and she feels the same about me. Of course I have not let it escalate to a sexual level which really sucks but I know better. The one saving grace right now is that she lives out of state....... She is a total sweetheart and I am terrified of breaking her heart.
I feel horrible for even falling in love with someone who doesnt have HPV but to be honest it just happened. Its tearing me apart inside because I want it to work so badly.
Anyway she is a bit older than me and I am in my 30s, what options does she have?
Thanks a ton for any advise, I really need it. :eek:
I was going to get a feel for what was going before posting but since I stuck my foot in my mouth already here goes.
Im 30 and I have had low risk HPV complete with genital warts for about 8 years now. I dated a few people after I knew that I had the virus courtesy of one of the STD sites because I cant stand to give this to someone else. Noting really ever happened long term though.
So about 3 months ago by sheer chance I met this woman that I am madly in love with and she feels the same about me. Of course I have not let it escalate to a sexual level which really sucks but I know better. The one saving grace right now is that she lives out of state....... She is a total sweetheart and I am terrified of breaking her heart.
I feel horrible for even falling in love with someone who doesnt have HPV but to be honest it just happened. Its tearing me apart inside because I want it to work so badly.
Anyway she is a bit older than me and I am in my 30s, what options does she have?
Thanks a ton for any advise, I really need it. :eek:
blueskies7
04-26-2009, 07:18 AM
I think that if you and your girlfriend are serious about each other, then you should be comfortable enough to tell her the truth. If she is as serious about her as you are about her, then I think she should be able to deal with HPV. I told my boyfriend before we even started dating, and he has been so supportive of me, even knowing that he might get it. Turns out that he has gotten it from me, but he has still stuck by me and loves me regardless of HPV. If you are up front with your gf, and equip her with information about the virus and how your low-risk strain is not life-threatening (just more of a nuisance), then I'm sure she will be understanding.
BTW, your post said you have been dealing with HPV (genital warts) for 8 years now. Do you mean you've had symptoms of genital warts on and off for 8 years? Because if you have been treated and have not had an outbreak in several years, the chances of you transmitting enough HPV viral particles to her to cause her to show symptoms of genital warts herself is a lot lower.
BTW, your post said you have been dealing with HPV (genital warts) for 8 years now. Do you mean you've had symptoms of genital warts on and off for 8 years? Because if you have been treated and have not had an outbreak in several years, the chances of you transmitting enough HPV viral particles to her to cause her to show symptoms of genital warts herself is a lot lower.
NLJ0275
04-26-2009, 09:45 AM
Mornin Blueskies,
Thanks for the reply, the problem is, is that besides folks who are in the same situation as I am I haven't told anyone about my HPV. My Genital Warts have come and gone, right now I am ok and havent had any signs for a while now but I want to go get checked out again just cuz. Of course with this wonderful economy I recently lost my great job with benefits and now am working my butt off for no benefits.....arrrrgh so out of pocket!
What about Gardasil for older women? I have read several accounts on here and elsewhere but can you actually get it from a doctor if you are over 26?
And thanks to all you women (and you dudes) for telling your partners and being honest, its great that there are people like us out there.
:angel:
Thanks for the reply, the problem is, is that besides folks who are in the same situation as I am I haven't told anyone about my HPV. My Genital Warts have come and gone, right now I am ok and havent had any signs for a while now but I want to go get checked out again just cuz. Of course with this wonderful economy I recently lost my great job with benefits and now am working my butt off for no benefits.....arrrrgh so out of pocket!
What about Gardasil for older women? I have read several accounts on here and elsewhere but can you actually get it from a doctor if you are over 26?
And thanks to all you women (and you dudes) for telling your partners and being honest, its great that there are people like us out there.
:angel:
Pickle Eyes
04-26-2009, 12:09 PM
I don't know a lot about genital warts. So I can't be of any assistance there, except to say go to the doctor and tell the new lady friend.
When it comes to Gardasil for women over 26, I've read that some doctors will let a woman who is older than that get the vaccine series, but it is out of pocket and not covered by insurance. I don't know that there is research to support its efficacy for women over 26.
I hope that helps.
When it comes to Gardasil for women over 26, I've read that some doctors will let a woman who is older than that get the vaccine series, but it is out of pocket and not covered by insurance. I don't know that there is research to support its efficacy for women over 26.
I hope that helps.
blueskies7
04-26-2009, 02:15 PM
Mornin Blueskies,
Thanks for the reply, the problem is, is that besides folks who are in the same situation as I am I haven't told anyone about my HPV. My Genital Warts have come and gone, right now I am ok and havent had any signs for a while now but I want to go get checked out again just cuz. Of course with this wonderful economy I recently lost my great job with benefits and now am working my butt off for no benefits.....arrrrgh so out of pocket!
What about Gardasil for older women? I have read several accounts on here and elsewhere but can you actually get it from a doctor if you are over 26?
And thanks to all you women (and you dudes) for telling your partners and being honest, its great that there are people like us out there.
:angel:
You may still get the Gardasil vaccine if you are over 26. It's called getting it "off-label." You're still getting exactly the same dosages of the vaccine as would be administered to females between 9 to 26, but it's just called an "off-label" use because the FDA has not approved it for women outside of that age category. Your gf would have to sign a waiver saying that she understands that she is getting a vaccine that has not yet been approved for women over age 26. I actually got the full vaccine and I am over age 26. I had to pay out of pocket; it's very expensive, and cost me about $450 in total. Keep in mind, though, that the full series of shots is administered over a 6 month period, which means that you shouldn't have any sexual skin-to-skin contact with your gf while she's getting the vaccination, because you may still transmit the virus to her if she hasn't been fully vaccinated. That's what happened with my bf, as he started the Gardasil vaccine shortly after we started dating. He still ended up getting genital warts from me, because even though we hadn't had intercourse, there was some skin-to-skin contact (as much as I tried to prevent contact in that area).
Thanks for the reply, the problem is, is that besides folks who are in the same situation as I am I haven't told anyone about my HPV. My Genital Warts have come and gone, right now I am ok and havent had any signs for a while now but I want to go get checked out again just cuz. Of course with this wonderful economy I recently lost my great job with benefits and now am working my butt off for no benefits.....arrrrgh so out of pocket!
What about Gardasil for older women? I have read several accounts on here and elsewhere but can you actually get it from a doctor if you are over 26?
And thanks to all you women (and you dudes) for telling your partners and being honest, its great that there are people like us out there.
:angel:
You may still get the Gardasil vaccine if you are over 26. It's called getting it "off-label." You're still getting exactly the same dosages of the vaccine as would be administered to females between 9 to 26, but it's just called an "off-label" use because the FDA has not approved it for women outside of that age category. Your gf would have to sign a waiver saying that she understands that she is getting a vaccine that has not yet been approved for women over age 26. I actually got the full vaccine and I am over age 26. I had to pay out of pocket; it's very expensive, and cost me about $450 in total. Keep in mind, though, that the full series of shots is administered over a 6 month period, which means that you shouldn't have any sexual skin-to-skin contact with your gf while she's getting the vaccination, because you may still transmit the virus to her if she hasn't been fully vaccinated. That's what happened with my bf, as he started the Gardasil vaccine shortly after we started dating. He still ended up getting genital warts from me, because even though we hadn't had intercourse, there was some skin-to-skin contact (as much as I tried to prevent contact in that area).