i just recently discovered that i have a hemorrhoid. it's usually about the size of a pea. sometimes it is uncomfortable, but it doesn't hurt much anymore (at first it was really painful and the size of a blueberry). anyway.... so can hemorrhoids cause lower back pain? what is the best way to deal with a hemorrhoid? do i have to see a doctor or is home treatment usually effective? (i have three kids and no family where i am, and nobody to watch my kids, and my husband just deployed.... so unless it's bad, i try to avoid the doctor!)

thanks for any help you can give!