after 3 months of dating my partner told me he had herpes. we have never had actual sexual intercourse but have come close a couple of times. we came down to our underclothes and he rub up against my vaginal area, so would that contact cause me to get it if he was in a state of shedding or having sores. Could it of gone through my panties. I have been having symptoms of frequent urination for the past 5 weeks and that would be a month after this occurence. He also performed oral sex on me but he didn't have any sores in his mouth.