Hi, my name is Ryan, and I am 17. Ever since my first patch of hair under my arms grew, my mom and sisters always had stuff to say about it. My sister would run around telling everyone that I had hair under my arms, and things like that. I don't want to grow any hair on my face because of that, but I know that it is unavoidable. I recently wore shorts for the first time this summer, and again my sister said "eww he has black hairs on his legs" and that pisses me off. I am at the point that I refuse to remove my shirt or go swimming with family, and I feel very uncomfortable in shorts around them too. But I need to wear shorts because the heat is sometimes unbearable. I really want to get over this fetish, so please someone that can help, please do so!

First of all, hair is genetic and other than removing it by shaving or some other means is the only way to temporarily remove it. Second, it's part of who you are as a man, it sets us apart from girls/women who usually shave their underarms, legs etc. Sure, many men choose to remove some of it for various reasons, but most men don't. I'm really sorry that your family is giving you a hard time about it. How old is your sister? And doesn't she realize that she too is gonna have the same thing and will most likely shave it off.....more work for her! If I were you I'd try being proud of my body and it's hair, don't let anyone take that away from you. We all get teased for some reason when we're teenagers, just part of life. If they were'nt teasing you because of that it would be that you were too short or tall, too thin or fat, too lazy or crazy or something else. Hopefully you can ignore it and accept your body and all it's "equipment" as who you are!

Hey...i had sort of the same thing happening to me. My family would be like, "You got a little dirt on your upper lip...oh, wait, thats hair" Of course i got embarrased about it at first but then realized it was normal. I was MORE embarrased though when i was in gym class at school and everyone had hair on their body except me. LoL, so i accepted my hair growth with open arms. My advise would be to just laugh about it, once they see its not affecting you, they'll stop. Hope i helped... http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

I hate body hair even to this day. I keep my legs and arms as is but shave or trim most of the rest (pubes, underarms, chest). I would probably shave the legs as well if they hair were not light in color. It's a personal preference thing, though.

Some teasing, which happens to all of us, should not make your decision that you hate the hair. If you personally prefer no hair, you could go the route of removal. Of course, that would leave you open to the problems mentioned in previous posts, where people would then comment on you not having body hair. Waxing is the longest lasting way, as it should last for 4-6 weeks. Shaving lasts mere days (maybe hours) before it starts to grow back, but it is shorter for weeks. I guess another thing you might be able to do since it is dark and that is what makes it stick out would be to bleach it, but I do not know if that is actually something that would work well. Maybe someone else could comment on that.

I say make your decision based on your own personal preference because whatever you decide, you are probably in for typical adolescent BS.

[This message has been edited by Shane (edited 06-19-2001).]

relax its only cuz girly magazines says its ugly that girls h8 it.
Im 20 and at the your age i had virtualy no body hair and used to give a silint prair as i had to change in high school and my legs where bare.
Be bloody careful what u wish 4 im not covered in the stuff i have a hairy back and feet.
FEET for god sake i can part the hair there to its long and catches in my socks.
BUT i thought this would **** my chances right up but at the pool im the first thing any of the gals see and they come up and teese me.
Guess what i usually pull 90% of em there atracted to it even though they say things just chill and be glad urs aint so bad.
At least we aint girly men!

Hi Ryan,

My husband is rather furry. Like you he was teased a lot about it when he was your age. It made him very shy and reluctant to take his shirt off even to go swimming. He was absolutely certain that no woman would ever be interested in him. That's just not true. I love the soft feel of his chest hair and I even like the hair on his back. It's not something I ever thought about before meeting him, but now I wouldn't want a man who is smooth. Soft and furry feels so much nicer.

Some people have body hair and some don't. Some folks like it and some don't. And some sisters should have been drowned at birth. Remember she IS your sister and it's her mission in life to make you miserable. She has no idea the effect it is having on you.

My husband's brother ragged him constantly about his body hair and slightly enlarged breasts. He would grab my hubby's breasts and squeeze them hard as he went past making awful comments. He did a lot of damage without even thinking about it. Now that they are adults they have talked about it and are finally becomming friends. His brother is very sorry he was so mean, but he was a kid and kid's can be mean and stupid.

Next time she picks on you, pick back. Hit her where it hurts. Make an unflattering comment about her boobs or her butt, then ask her how it feels. Tell her you don't like it when she is mean. If you don't stand up for yourself no one will.

And try to stop worrying about growing body hair. There's nothing you can do about it except be proud of the body that God gave you.

Peace,
JaneGee

I am 51 and I don't care for body hair I shave my legs underarms pubic area butt and upper chest and I keep the rest very short my wife won't let me shave my hole body so I just clip the rest short. As far as your family you need to deal with tell them you don't care for the neg feed back about your man hood. Good luck

I personally want to thank all of you who replied to this forum. It is nice to hear from people who may feel the same way, or have some sort of feedback to help me with my dumb fetish :-). I will probably always feel uncomfortable in this strange way, but it is nice to have people comfort me like this. Note that you can still reply if you want to :-).

Ryan

I lived the same trauma when I was 14. Now. I am 30 and my wife shaves my body parts that she prefers to have smooth. We are doing that as part of our private moments. So, feel good, you are a man.

Sounds like your sister's a bit immature to me. I was teased by my younger sister when I entered puberty but it only made me mad. I love my chest hair, leg hair, pubic hair....to me, it's very masculine and grown-up. Don't be ashamed of it.