Hey lance i just started reading on this board tonight and ive read like 50+ of your posts, and u seem very experienced. Why do u do this? just to be a nice guy? or is it fun? I find it very interesting and good to know . ok well now to my prob. Ok im 16 yrs old and im VERY shy, i think i have a small case of that disorder where u cant piss in public or even at home with ppl around. i also think i have some tpye of social disorder and i sometimes think i have no part in this world and i dont really need to be here. ok well now to my next prob, ok ive been thinking about when i get with a girl (sexually) , im uncut, and im VERY nervous on how shes gonna respond.. ive herd many ppl making fun of uncut ppl at school, and it kinda hurts me. Is there anything i can do to get over this nervousnes, im currently like trying to avoid these sexual actions because im so nervous

I'm glad you found the board! I do this for lots of reasons. I'm a counselor in a school and have years of counseling experience on a variety of topics so I've had lots of different educational and training opportunities. I'm not an expert and alot of what I know, I've learned through others on this and other boards like it. I wish that when I was your age I had the chance to ask questions just like yours without having to be face to face! Also, there is SO much misinformation out there that it is good to try to correct some of it. This is gonna be a sorta long post because you raise so many issues. First...you DO belong here and nothing you are experiencing is not something we've all been through or dealt with before. You're 16 so naturally there is all sorts of stuff going on with your body and many of us have issues with stuff in our teens. I too hate the whole pee in public sorta thing, I never liked public restrooms or showers or any of that because I had so many concerns about my body. I'm uncut also, for years struggled with penis size, was overweight, not built like my peers, not an athlete, etc etc. I always felt someone was gonna look and tease me for any of those reasons. Over time this has gotten better and now I'm totally OK with all of that. But I had to realize that noone else at the urinal or shower cared about me or my penis....they had their own business to take care of! My tip here is to go there like you own the place and ignore anyone else there! The urinal/pee in public thing is actually pretty common, you'll notice many guys go into the stall even if its just to pee, so do that if you'd like. As for your being uncut and the foreskin thing. All penises are different, they are different sizes, colors, some cut and some uncut. Most girls really don't care about what your penis looks like or its size. They care about you and who you are as a man. If a girl ever teases you about your penis, she's really not worth the time and she certainly isn't girlfriend material. As for taking teasing in HS gym or locker rooms or with your buddies....that's a common thing and we just have to learn to deal with it and tease back. Remember, they are looking for a response, so not to respond decreases their fun! One bit of advice since you're uncut. Be sure to clean under that foreskin regularly, its a breeding ground for bacteria and all sorts of stuff and left unclean can lead to infections and such. Also, never deny yourself fun in life because of anything you've mentioned. Being a virgin is OK, it's your body so do with it as YOU please, not just what others say you should do. The main thing is to learn all you can about your body and how it works, become a man who treats girls with respect and your body with respect. Take care of the equipment....its the only set you'll ever have! Good luck and keep in touch with the board!

Also, i forgot to post this cuz the last one was at 4am and i couldnt really think (im up till 4am every night playing games and stuff, im really into computers). ok so like around the age of 15 i had just realized that i was uncut, i had never been told or ANY thing about it from my parents, they never told me it needs to be cleaned or ANYTHING, NEVER talked o me about any of that kind of stuff, and its odd because they are real loving parents, great parents. Ive recently found out it has to be cleaned and im shocked that ive just found this out. also last night i tried to go and clean it and touching my head, it doesnt hurt but its VERY sensitive and its hard to clean it cuz of that. also i think i need to start do the stretching of the foreskin because i can retract it while not erect, but its like impossible when it is erect, :/

You know, I had great parents also but we never talked about anything to do with sex or my equipment or anything. I never knew that all penises weren't just like the one I had until I got to HS and had to do the locker room thing! It was much later when I learned all the stuff about retracting the foreskin, stretching and keeping that area clean all the time. So yes, start the stretching and clean under that foreskin good. You might even want to start stretching the skin all the way back ever time you pee, that'll help with the overall plan. I'm glad you found this board, you can always come here and discuss anything that you may be curious about. Good luck and keep in touch!

rixn
It's all right buddy! You sound alot like me when I was that age. I'm 19 now, and still going through some of that stuff. The pissing in public thing is PERFECTLY normal. Some guys are fine going in front of others, I'm not. Unless I really really have to piss, I can't do it in front of others. believe me it's alright. I am also very nervous in front of girls. I have never had a girlfriend for this reason, and I can tell you that when i do and if we have sex i will be quite nervous. Everyone is their first time. Lance is right in saying that a girl who criticizes you because of your penis is not worth it. Everything you're going through is just the high school and being a teenager experience. Lance had some very good advice. Have fun!

Lance as always has given you some great advice. I have often heard guys say they can't pee in public. One of my best friends who is also uncut told me he usually felt that way but that as he knew that I in fact envied him being intact he didn't feel that way when he went for a pee beside me one time. He now is very happy with a long term girlfriend.
Also remember once your skin retracts easily most girls can't tell the difference between an erect intact or circumcised penis. Indeed one survey showed that wives often answered wrongly about their husband's circumcision status!
Use the warm water in the bath or shower and perhaps some olive oil or vitamin E cream to help the stretching process. A recommended method is to use two fingers inserted into the foreskin opening and gently pull them apart to stretch the skin. Retracting a tight foreskin on an erect penis can cause it to get stuck and as this can trap the blood in the head and can be serious. If this should happen squeeze the blood out of the head and try and ease the skin forward perhaps with some lubrication. If you can't get it forward see a doctor urgently so they can get it forward under local. This does not happen all that often but it's best to warn you.
You sound like a good together young man who definitely has a right to a secure place in this world. Don't let those negative feelings get you down. Adolescence is a hard period in all our lives as you ride that roller coaster of emotions and hormones and cope with all that peer pressure and body changes. You sound like you are coping as well as anybody. Also remember that over 80% of males worldwide are intact so you are really part of the normal majority. You just need a little help to get it working at peak performance.

Thanks for all the advice. Ive started the stretching proccess and i can get the foreskin all the way down while erect but its a little painful , but im getting there. uh yeah im really tired im gonna go pass out. heh

Just keep up the good work and be patient!

I second that, Lance. riXn did either of us say that the more you wash, stretch and generally handle your equipment the more your glans' sensitivity will come down to normal levels? Glad to hear you've made progress already. I'm off for a few days holiday.

Hi I was just wondering what makes u guys nervous about peeing in public? Its not like anyone is looking at ur junk. I dont have a problem with it and dont really see why u guys do. Im not trying to be an *** I was just wondeing.

Originally posted by $mike$:
Hi I was just wondering what makes u guys nervous about peeing in public? Its not like anyone is looking at ur junk. I dont have a problem with it and dont really see why u guys do. Im not trying to be an *** I was just wondeing.

Whether someone is actually looking or not, I just get the feeling that they are looking, and it makes me uncomfortable. I usually just try to think about how it doesn't matter even if someone is looking, as I have nothing to hide really. When I think that, then I usually start to pee.

As I've gotten older this "thing" is better, but even though I knew nobody was really looking or even cared about my "junk"....I did. I guess it was just a body image thing and generally feeling uncomfortable about peeing in the close company of someone else. I know there are other guys out there with the same feelings and I also know for many it really does'nt matter. Just one of those things I guess!

1) When I was in HS, I wasn't teased in the locker room. I just did my business & went to the PE class. I was taught that God (or whomever you believe in) gave you your body. As far as foreskin, you were born with it!
2) When being nervious about a girl friend, the person should be a friend. They shouldn't tease you about your body.
Good luck & pratice safe sex!

Many girls don't even notice, many girls don't even care. Girls are actually more concerened about their own insecurities and how you'll react to their bodies and 'imperfections' As you grow with experience and age it won't matter. In a loving and trusting relationship 'imperfections' are invisible.

Hey man don't worry about not being able to piss with other guys around. I am 28, and sometimes I still can't piss in a crowded public restroom with another guy on either side of me at the urinals.

It was a lot worse when I was younger. I have heard other guys mention the same thing I have even heard it called "piss anxiety".

Don't ask me why I can't piss with other dudes around, I am not homophobic, and don't really care if they want to check out my junk, I am well endowed, and I am not really modest, but for some reason if there are a bunch of other guys standing around, especially waiting in line for my spot at the urinal, the piss just dosen't flow. LOL