I Just found out myself that I have herpes and shocked out of my mind. I have only been married for 8 months and I asked my spouse before we were married if he was current with his STD testing and Annual Physical etc...and he said yes. because I ALWAYS....go every year for my annual paps and blood testing for STD and I have Always came back negative and i got sick a few weeks ago and went to the doctor my feet swelled and legs swelled up..so i went to the doctor and i was really stressed out because i had found out somethings dealing with financial debts that he kept from me during our premarital counseling of 3 months so I was having a lot of issues with him lying so i got us in marriage counseling after we were just married ...unbelievable right.and also caught him text messaging some other female a reply that was nasty and explicit but the test came to me instead of her because we had just gotten new phones .so when I was at the doctor I asked them to do STD testing on me and it came back positive that I had herpes.. .I was floored out of my mind.....I told him and he said and was very calm about it he did not see how that was possible. I told him to really tell me the truth when was the last time he got checked out for STD and he told me 8 years ..I about fell to the floor ..so he get his results back tomorrow ..he was the only person i was with. so I know how you feel ...being over come with emotion you just feel numb like it is not happening ...me and my husband has separated just the last 15 days because of this and some other issues so we will see tomorrow if he tells the truth about his results...because I have to prepare myself that he my lie because that is what liars do. I am so sorry you are going through this just like me but it is good to have someone to talk to about it. so type anytime you feel you need to vent. has your partner tested positive how did you find out..because i have never in my life had a break out on me...even now i still have not had a break out and i just found out last week that i tested positive. so I am still trying to understand this myself. My doctor did give me some pills to hold on to just in case i have a break out...I feel totally sick ...about my situation because me and my husbands 8 month marriage is destroyed because of lies and deceit and him giving me herpes...I can't believe it either...