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jake52
06-24-2009, 04:43 AM
Heres my situation;
I hooked up with this chick of questionable integrity who i think could of infected me with the herp. I did allot of stupid things that could of perpetuated the situation and made it worst. About two days after i hookedup with her i started freaking out and examining every square centimeter of my package. I noticed some new things. the first thing i noticed were that i had these white spots which had been checked out before and were identified as fordyce spots but they are way more distinct now. Most all of them have hairs growing out of them. I forgot to mention that i shaved my entire package prior to hooking up with her. then i noticed one darker spots on the right side of my penis i assumed it was "dick cheese" like the urologist said before so i popped it and it went away. Now about 6 weeks later its back in a similar spot and there are two of them the same color and one has a hair growing out of it.... Also there are red and white dots all over the tip of my penis where hair doesnt really grow. I was convinced this was herpes because i matched it to some pictures on the internet. My dad who is a doctor (lives in maryland i live in california or id just show it to him) told me it was just yeast and i started treating it with yeast cream. I didnt know it was detrimental to use 4x the recommended dose and it got worst. Since the yeast cream didnt work it had to be herpes right? Last night i was feeling some discomfort so i touched my the region and it was hot to the touch, way hotter then the rest of the body. This led me to think that it was not herpes and indeed, like my dad had initially said, a yeast infection or jock itch i guess cause im a dude. Tonight i checked my feet for athletes foot and the same discoloration that is on the tip of my penis is on both of my heels. Is it much more likely that fungi from my feet went to my dick then herpes going from my dick to both of my feet, right? Also i started taking a testosterone supplement and its making my hair grow faster. Could i be mistaking fordyce spots plus fungi for herpes. I have a doctors appointment later this week and need an answer sooner it has been driving me crazy for weeks. I also have a cough that has flem in it. There is also this weird sensation inbetween my ass and the ball sack that i would describe as a tingling feeling. I stole some of my friends valtrax (dude, not the whore who i hookedup with) as a precautionary measure and started taking it today. Again my symptoms are
1. small red and white dots on the head of the penis
2. Big hair follicles giving a white appearance
3. A weird sensation in my grundle
4. Two darkish spots one that has a hair growing out of it, one that doesnt
5. A cough that has snot in it.
please if anyone knows anything help me
NEW UPDATE
I was checking my feet and legs and the rash either starts at my feet and runs all the way up or it starts at the dick and runs down both legs

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kilgore52
06-24-2009, 11:07 AM
Jake, You need to calm down. You are freeking out. I don't know if it was because it was in the middle of the night that you were posting but you were out of control and really irrational with your thoughts. That was too much info . I would think that you haven't slept at all. Your symptoms that you listed sounded fine and can be cleared up. Using condoms helps a lot and choosing your partner wisely does too. When you go to the doctor, he will check it all. You can look up Herpes, you will find all the info you need. Oh, by the way, just my opinion, when talking about your (package) a better word for it is PENIS.After all, thats what it is. Show it respect and treat it kindly. Just some advise for the future froma concerned woman.

jake52
06-24-2009, 07:36 PM
I haven't really slept at all or ate that much in the past 6 weeks... Sorry if the post offended you.. One picture makes me think yes one picture makes me think no, who knows tho. I have an appointment tomorrow, i guess the dr will answer all my questions. Thank you for responding quickly
jy

kilgore52
06-24-2009, 09:30 PM
Not offended, just concerned. Let us know how you do at the doctor. Remember, this isn't a death sentence. Good luck

jake52
06-25-2009, 01:35 AM
What would the symptoms make you believe. My dad ordered the hsv 1,2 and igg test but i gotta go to quest labs to get it done. He said to wait and see what the doctor says first.
It's gotten way worst and has spread to the groin. (sort of in between the leg and the testicles) Also my testicles have become really red and my cough is out of control. Maybe those are all good signs, il let you know tomorrow. and i have a fever, so one set of symptoms make me think herp dog, the other makes me think yeast. Il know today tho
jy

jake52
06-25-2009, 06:37 PM
Just got back from the dermatologist and he said i definitely didn't have herpes. He said white dots were hair follicles, that red dots were ppp. He did see two things tho that were either warts or infected hair follicles and he froze them off and said to wait 2 weeks to make sure they are gone. I can finally sleep again.
jy

kilgore52
06-26-2009, 01:31 AM
Great,but if they are warts, then you have hvp veneral warts and you really need to let your partners know and they need to get the hpv vaccine. Warts are very contagious and are very tramatic for the girl. Also, they are hard to get rid of. They are painful and grow in the moist vagina of women. They have to be cut out and they heal slowly and can come back. Average time to get them under control is around 2 years. MAKE SURE YOU FIND OUT. GOOD LUCK

jake52
06-26-2009, 05:10 AM
I agree and i will, i would never do what that whore did to me knowing she had something (she had been tested the week before and denied having anything) and letting me take the condom off. No one should have to experience what i have been thru these past few weeks, it takes a toll on your body mind and spirit. The good news about the "warts" are there are hairs growing out of them so it may be no more then a few infected hair foliciles, i did shave my penis and scrotum with a dirty razor a few weeks ago so maybe thats it.
Also a quick question for you, any dermatologist with half a brain would be able to identify herpes or scaring from herpes right? The reason i ask is because the derm i saw was an older gentlemen and although he seemed competent im still a little worried. I guess getting a blood test would be the next step but then you get into quantitive vs qualitative and ranges and shit. And don't they say that everyone has herpes anti-bodies?
Thanks again for all your help.

jake52
06-26-2009, 05:27 AM
Also the last area of concern i have is i still experience this weird sensation on the ball sack. (sort of the back starting in the skin the separates the ass from the testicles and running up to the bottom of the sack). Do you think its physiological?

kilgore52
06-26-2009, 11:10 AM
You are probably feeling tingling in the nerves and of course the mind can trick you too. Especially late at night. If your doctor just looked and said that it wasn't Herpes, then that probably wasn't enough to satisfy you, so yes get a blood test to make you feel better. Herpes isn't a death sentence. You can have a perfectly happy life with it and meds help a lot.I am sure that you are fine and it is what he said, but this is really bothering you and I feel that you will begin to feel more careful when choosing your partners. After all it is YOUR body and you have to live with your decisions that you make.

jake52
06-27-2009, 02:24 AM
No more one night stands, if I am indeed in the clear this would be the second reprieve god has given me... Its weird the tingling gets worst when i read about herpo or i look more into the subject so maybe it is indeed my mind. I've decided only having sex without a condom if i am in a monogamous relationship.

jake52
06-27-2009, 02:34 AM
Hey i just remembered my roommates girlfriend had bronchitis that could explain the horrible cough, the fever and the rashes right maybe even the tingling in the feet and genitals? What are the cure antibiotics? i have some left over from a tooth infection or i can have my dad call some what would be the best course of action to take?
jy

kilgore52
06-27-2009, 11:30 AM
Jake, yes you are thinking too much and just let this go and have your bloo work and move on. I don't know what you mean about a cough, but if you are ill then just go to nthe doctor for that or by some cough medicine. Just have safe sex and be smart. Good luck

jake52
06-28-2009, 07:57 PM
Blood tests and second opinion are gonna be done this week, I think the doctor was a kook. He seemed more interested in doing a biopsy on a mole then looking at the problem i came in with. Any temporary relief i got is now gone, it looks red around my urethra and the skin looks shiny also there are weird whitish indentation that may just be from the lotromin ive been using but doubt it.... soooooo again i think i am fucked.. il let you know

kilgore52
06-28-2009, 10:15 PM
Yes, Herpes is so common that most doctors just brush it off. He def. shoud have swab tested if you had a sore so that it would tell you what it was. You are probably right about the Lotramin. I would think that you would have a real outbreak if this was a problem.My guess is that you are fine and hopefully lucky this time.

jake52
06-29-2009, 02:22 AM
kilgore52, you are a saint i cant thank you enough for taking the time to help me out. I guess good news, i got a couple of my boys sick with whatever i have (cough, fever, head and body aches) so maybe it is a flu or something and not related to whatever i am seeing on my penis. I feel bad that they are sick and stuff but i'm glad because i think i can call it a coincidence.
I guess if i was using lotromin for a while it would dry the skin out the areas i am talking about are very very mild and the only reason i notice it is because i spend half the day looking at my joint and the other half the day laying sick in bed. I started vtrex regardless and will make a Dr.. appointment monday morning. Thanks again

jake52
06-29-2009, 01:31 PM
I just went and did the blood test, i dunno i noticed some stuff again that doesn't look right. Quick question if this girl knowingly infected me with herpes is there any legal action i can bring against her? I do not wanna do it for a monetary gain just to ruin her life like she potentially ruined mine. Also she shouldn't be allowed to go around infecting people with herpes there should be some laws against that or no?

kilgore52
06-29-2009, 07:02 PM
Jake, What makes you even think that she had Herpes? I didn't find it anywhere in your posts that she said or that you saw any sign. Where do you get this info? Was it some scars or sores or scabs? I would just wait for the results and that if it is positive with signs of being a new virus then yes, but you could have this virus for a long time with no outbreak. They can tell if it is a new infection by the bloodwork, but I think you need to wait a few months to see. I am not sure about that though. Maybe someone can answer that question for you. I would not worry and to answer the lawsuit question, you will spend more money trying to prove it than anything. Like I said HERPES is rampant and I really feel that no lawyer will be interested. Just my opinion. Be patient and I really feel unless you have some evidence that she did have it then not to worry so much. Do you know how to reach her to talk and for her to be honest?Jake, if I may ask you, is this something that could ..if you had Herpes.. concern you passing this to a loved one? Is this why you are so scared?

jake52
06-29-2009, 10:47 PM
No i'm not in a committed relationship or married or anything. The reason why i am so scared is because if i am indeed infected my life as i know it is over. The first conversation that i have to have with any potential girlfriend is "ehh i have herpes is that okay with you". And i hate to say it but more times then not the girl would be out of there. If some girl told me that, i would probably be like ehh we can be friends. Another reason why i am freaking out about it is because i am newly sober (15 months) and if you take sex away from the equation with drugs and alcohol what else is there. I talked to a friend of hers and everything she said contradicted what the girl i hooked up with told me. And then she was like "if she does have herpes, you shouldn't be mad at her you should be mad at the guy that gave it to her." Also she said it was my fault for not using a condom, but really if she knew she had herps and didnt tell me its not my fault right?
Both of their behaviors on top of the symptoms i have been experiencing is scaring the dogshit outta me. I guess all i can do is wait to see the results, i am a hypochondriac and maybe its just my head over analyzing everything i see but everything is leading me to think yes. Also there is a rumor that she burned someone else with herp. Granted this isn't high school and rumors are bullshit, clearly i am very scared. My dad is sure that it is not herps even though he hasn't seen it, he said the timeframes dont make sense and i would see noticeable open sores which i don't. He said the first outbreak is always the worst (he an ob/gyn). Also it seems to be going away but i dunno if its because of the vtrex or becasue i stopped messing with it.
Going around knowingly infecting people with an incurable disease is messed up and she should have to pay for that if not with money with time in prison or something..

kilgore52
06-30-2009, 12:28 AM
Jake, let me first say how proud I am that you have conquered alcohol. Wow , what an accomplishment. SOO..... now listen to me ... calm down and quit talking to those people. They are not friends and are not helping you feel any better. I know that you are angry and just remember that even if she does have Herpes, it doesn't mean you contracted it. She is not always contagious. A lot of people are married and their spouse never gets it. Did you ever have a sore? Is that why you took Valtrex? Or just for safety reasons? I would wait for the results and if you have the virus in your system, well a lot of people 1 in 5 do,but it doesn't mean you will break out. Herpes is very common and more people and couples have it and they have a perfectly happy sex life. Don't worry because the outcome is always the same and worry doesn't change a thing.

jake52
06-30-2009, 02:02 AM
No i have not had any sores just red bumps and white weird skin indentations that are very very mild. It really may be from tanning because the shaft of my penis is very very tan and then starting at about an 1/2 inch above the head its really really white like my natural skin color and looks like newer skin. I have never had anything that pusses or bleeds or emits any type of liquid but the weird sensation and pain in my testicles is kind of worrying me.
Like you said, the result will be in soon enough and I will know for sure. I probably should of done it from the start but needed time to work up to courage. There are no sores and just took it as a precaution but it seems to be getting less noticeable since i started taking the vtrex. That could be because i stopped playing with it, putting lotromin on it and are just letting things be or completely phycological.
Quick question the tingling feeling people sometimes describe does that last for weeks or months or a short period of time?
jy

jake52
06-30-2009, 07:26 AM
Also i dunno why but at night i get more and more worried about it and start noticing new things that are making me crazy. I really think i am done for one bad decision will haunt me the rest of my life. It also doesnt help that i have bronchitis while all this is going on. I just moved into my own house this should be the happiest time of my life but it is a far cry from that, i would trade the sober living house i was in with no problems for this any day. I'm done for, i will let you know when the results are back but i can pretty much tell you what they are gonna say. I just hope my sobriety will stand up to this

kilgore52
06-30-2009, 10:08 AM
Jake, worrying at night is normal. What is not normal is this pessimistic attitude toward your health and life. You have to be strong and cope with this magnified problem that you may or may not have. Stop touching the area and putting stuff on yourself. The tingle and burn plus outbreak is painful and very noticible when you have Herpes during an outbreak. YOU will know. I still believe that you probably will be fine. Stop worrying, the stress is worse. Like I said this is controllable and not that serious unless you let it be. When you get your blood work back, then you will know. Patience

jake52
06-30-2009, 06:04 PM
Yeah true but there are a bunch of things that are making be pessimistic, mostly that ive never experienced anything remotely resembling herpes and now all of a sudden i am getting these symptoms. Most notably the tingling feeling in my testicles also i dunno if it was phycological or what but last night i felt some pain. So I will wait for the results, thats all i can do, and let you know when i get them

kilgore52
06-30-2009, 07:15 PM
I understand and I do know that your mind can bring those thoughts up. The unknown. I still feel you will be safe

jake52
06-30-2009, 10:45 PM
There are weird red bumps around the rim of the tip and the whiteness in the head is becoming more and more distinct. My dad is gonna call quest to try and expedite test results but i feel it is a lost cause. I've become a pro on the subject of herpes researching it online and reading everything there is to know, so my diagnosis is positive regardless of what my dad (the doctor) thinks..
Also he trys to tell me its not the end of the world 1/5 people have it but i feel that it is. I would never put any girl, especially one i liked, thru what i have experienced the last 8 weeks. I will be single until they cure herpes so thats good maybe il take up the cloth and become a priest.

kilgore52
07-01-2009, 12:44 AM
Jake, I don't think those are symptoms of Herpes. The red bumps are probably irritation from constantly touching and messing with it. Stop this and don't jump to conclusions. You have seriously convinced yourself. You weren;t really even exposed in my opinion.

jake52
07-01-2009, 02:35 AM
Yeah my sponsor says i'm insane and I am unreachable on this subject. Maybe i am a little bit but its just because I'm worried. take away sex drugs and alcohol and there isnt very much left in the areas of pleasure...
Also i'm back on the yeast infection kick i noticed a weird white film covering my tongue and my feet tingle. I just moved into a new house and maybe the owners didn't clean the showers well and it took a ride up my leg. Also i was clyndamicin (the strongest antibiotic) for about 45 days due to a tooth infection. I dunno hopefully its nothing and you are right about not being exposed.

kilgore52
07-01-2009, 03:44 PM
Start thinking about good stuff because you are missing out on the fun stuff in life like getting to know someone one on one, being in a support group, meeting fun people, not missing out on going to movies, having dinner with a group of friends, talking about a great movie or a great book, seeing a wonderful art exhibit, picking out a good book at the library, seeing a broadway show, traveling to a spa, having a pedicure, getting a real massage, having a facial, having a reflexology massage, riding a bike on a fun trail, working out and working up a real sweat and taking a cool shower, calling a friend and going to a Yoga class, swimming in the ocean, kicking your feet in the sand, standing in the ocean and feeling how small you are in this big world, swinging on a swing,singing to a favorite song,dancing till you drop, going to a hospital and feeling lucky how well you really are and how you can be naturally how high on life you can be without drugs,having a grateful heart for who you are and telling your family that you love them, having a nice calm day, going to a cooking class with a new blind date, sitting at the park people watching, going to the zoo........I would love for you to be able to enjoy your life more with less worryabout things that may never happen.

jake52
07-01-2009, 06:04 PM
I'm in the biggest support group in the world A.A., its true you mentioned good things some of which i have done some of which i still have to do. I guess it isn't the end of the world even if the test results come back unfavorable just a large impediment. I'm sick you know and drugs and alcohol were but a symptom of my problems of self. I guess it would be easier to enjoy life if i wasn't sick in bed its the summertime in newport beach and I should be out enjoying it. I've done so many stupid things that have probably perpetuated the situation. I am gonna wait for the test results and probably book a flight back to baltimore where i can see doctors my dad knows that aren't quacks. Even if its not herpes something is going on that i need to get to the bottom of.

kilgore52
07-01-2009, 08:00 PM
Jake, I know that it this must be so hard for you and on you, but please try to get some help also dealing with the addiction of being so consumed with something wrong with you. You are so capable of changing the way you think. What an accomplishment being able to overcome alcohol and drugs. That is so wonderful,but you are now tormenting yourself now with this other addiction and I'm talking about self destruction. Please know that you doing this to yourself and you are and can overcome this too.

kilgore52
07-01-2009, 08:30 PM
You said something good, IT IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD AND YOU SHOULD BE OUT ENJOYING LIFE. I think if you got out of bed, you aren't going to die or anything and you can test your pain level by getting distracted and seeing if the pain goes away. If it does, then it is in your head. You can look inside your head Jake and see the person who is good and it's not so scary. I am sure that you are a good person who wants to get better. Obviously if you go to support groups. Don't give up on yourself. There is a lot of life left for you.

jake52
07-01-2009, 11:41 PM
well all the red shit went away i dunno if its a good thing or a bad thing, the pain is only noticeable when i am looking for it so probably in my head so is the tingling. I guess its only a bad thing if it comes back right?
The test will be in tomorrow and sleeping tonight will be near impossible. The places the quack froze when i went to see him last week are still there and they are black is that good or bad?

kilgore52
07-02-2009, 01:11 AM
Yes, the black is normal.It's healing well. I bet you will be fine and everything will be good. So now you know that when you think about the pain or tingling, then it is there, so stop doing that. Let it go. Good Night

jake52
07-02-2009, 06:28 AM
Kilgore, almost all the red dots are gone how can it be anything else? I was also reading that exposure to the sun sometimes causes outbreak how can i avoid the sun when i live in southern california. Upon looking at more pictures, feeling my groin lymph nodes, analyzing my symptoms and going thru the chain of events there is no humanly possible way it can be anything else. Also i don't even trust my dad to tell me if the test was positive he knows it would absolutely crush me and would contradict everything he has told me. I'm really a mess and its the night before i get the results and figured i'd just post one more time before i tried to go to bed. Anyway il let you know

kilgore52
07-02-2009, 04:27 PM
Jake, Everyone gets red dots every once in a while even women. It's just a small rash. If you are taking Valtrex it helps alot with the sun and for some, it cuts the outbreaks completely gone. ONLY if that's what you think you have. You would really itch and hurt with Herpes.I haven't really heard that from your posts.

jake52
07-02-2009, 07:26 PM
Kilgore, hsv1 0.4 hsv2 0.0... I still dont accept those results three quick questions if i was having an outbreak like i thought, there is no humanly possible way it wouldn't be in the blood right? Second, Should i go see another doctor to get a third opinion? Third can my mind manifest physical symptoms? And could having bronchitis make anything seem exaggerated?

kilgore52
07-02-2009, 08:57 PM
Oh yes Jake, the mind can really trick you if you let it. You can make symptoms when there are none. The same way that you can turn them into positive feelings with no symptoms. Are you telling me that the Herpes 1 and Herpes 2 came back negative today? Let this go then with no third opinion and move on. Stay positive Everyone has exposure to millions of virus germs everyday.

kilgore52
07-02-2009, 09:08 PM
This is good news if it means you are Herpes free.

kilgore52
07-02-2009, 09:10 PM
If your scores mean negative, then you do not have it.

jake52
07-02-2009, 10:43 PM
yes i am unsure about the hsv-1 reading I'm not sure if .4 is positive or what but hsv-2 reading was 0.0. So i guess it means i don't have it. My mind is still manifesting symptoms, how do i stop that??

kilgore52
07-03-2009, 12:17 AM
You sound like you know that you are negative for Herpes. Almost everyone has fever blisters on the lip sometimes. That's h1. When I want to start imagining that I have something, as soon as I start, I think of a huge red stop sign in my mind right in front of my eyes and I don't let my mind wander. It is a way of working to catch that very thought that sneaks up on me and before I know it , I am in chapter 1 of some big fear that will consume me. So, the trick is catching the thoughts before they get out of control. Practice doing that. It's all just bad habits developed in childhoood when you felt alone. The drugs and alcohol have also been there to help medicate you to feel better, but it didn't help, so I know that you can redirect your way of thinking. You probably feel that you always have to be punished for something cause you feel like you have been bad. It's not true and that's where I'm telling you that your mind does not have to control you anymore and you can practice stopping the hurt that you do to yourself.

sevenjeans
07-03-2009, 02:18 AM
Hey I've been there, and even when I say I'm going to be more careful, I still get freaked out after making bad decisions. * link to commercial website and related info removed by hb-mod, moderator * Good luck.

jake52
07-03-2009, 06:08 AM
Its only been about 6 weeks, thats not enough time for herpes antibodies to show up right

kilgore52
07-03-2009, 04:03 PM
Just to ease your mind, retest no sooner that 3 more months. If you have Herpes, you will more than likely break out before then. anyway. I feel that you will be negative and everything wil be fine. She didn't even have any sores like you said.Relax for a while and let this go so you can have some peace please.

3YearsWithHerp
07-06-2009, 08:45 PM
Sorry to change the subject - I am totally new to this site, I have had herpes for the last 3 years and this is the 1st time I am coming out out of the "Why Me Stage" I am finding alot of the posted blogs to be interesting, some helpful, and some inspiring.

The one question I have is how do you email just one person, incase you have additional questions or comments about their entry?

Truthseek
07-06-2009, 09:38 PM
Sorry to change the subject - I am totally new to this site, I have had herpes for the last 3 years and this is the 1st time I am coming out out of the "Why Me Stage" I am finding alot of the posted blogs to be interesting, some helpful, and some inspiring.

The one question I have is how do you email just one person, incase you have additional questions or comments about their entry?

It's against board rules to post your email but they have added a feature called "send email message". You just click on a poster's name and then "email". There is also the "private message" feature whereby you do not have to divulge your email address. The person has to have enabled the feature on their side in order to get through.





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