lovelyme
10-11-2002, 05:41 PM
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lovelyme
10-23-2002, 05:49 PM
ANYBODY????? She is 3 1/2 and wants only our bed!! Yet now she is mad that her sister is taking on HER toddler bed.
Greenberry
10-23-2002, 05:59 PM
I really wish I could help you, but my daughter is still too small to get out of her room without help, and this hasn't been an issue with us. In the past 10 days since she has been in a big girl bed, I have found my daughter outside her bed twice, but she hasn't even tried to get out of her room. I think that she doesn't even know we are here after she goes to bed. I think she thinks we vanish after dark and reappear in the morning. Last night my husband woke up because he heard some noise on the baby monitor and went to her room and found her trying to get back into her bed (presumably after falling out--a very short fall) but she never cried or called out for us or anything. Pretty strange, but she is already very independent. Maybe you could use the whole jealousy thing to your advantage, and definitely keep putting her back into her bed EVERY SINGLE TIME she shows up in your room. Otherwise you will end up with an 8 year old in bed with you in about 5 years. Good luck.
Marie55
10-23-2002, 07:28 PM
If the toddler bed and other bed are not in the same room, please put them both in same room. Children at age 3 1/2 are not ready to be put in a room alone after having been elsewhere.
I always rested on their bed with them after a story until they drifted off to sleep then went to my own bed. If they waked up at night I went to them and did the same. They need security, to know mom is there for them.
Talk up the big girl bed idea to her and refer to the todler bed as a baby bed in hopes she will go for the big girl bed idea.
There is nothing wrong with kids being in bed with mom/dad for a snuggle/cuddle session at night or morning. Just keep working lovingly on getting her to accept her own bed. Will take time but patience will pay off. Transitions are hard on little ones.
Marie
I always rested on their bed with them after a story until they drifted off to sleep then went to my own bed. If they waked up at night I went to them and did the same. They need security, to know mom is there for them.
Talk up the big girl bed idea to her and refer to the todler bed as a baby bed in hopes she will go for the big girl bed idea.
There is nothing wrong with kids being in bed with mom/dad for a snuggle/cuddle session at night or morning. Just keep working lovingly on getting her to accept her own bed. Will take time but patience will pay off. Transitions are hard on little ones.
Marie
lovelyme
10-24-2002, 02:29 PM
Well I slightly disagree. My 20 month old has no problem sleeping in a toddler bed and never gets out and when she needs me she calls out, "MOMMY! MOMMY!" And I go to her and she falls right back asleep. I feel that shows I have instilled enough security in her that she feels safe enough to sleep alone. My first child who is 3 1/2 as I said, slept in my bed a lot when she was an infant and into age one. She was always put down in her crib though. She has some fear of being alone in her bed yet she is not alone in her room since her sister and her share one. And now that she sees that her little sister is taking on the toddler bed she is getting mad, but won't sleep there still. I feel at 3 1/2 years old she is old enough to sleep unattended in her own bed in her own room. I do not feel she will think I love her less or have a low IQ for it and that she needs to understand that Mommy and Daddy have their room and their space and vice versa. I have explained that I am right there if she needs me and all she has to do is tell me, but she needs to be a big girl and stay in her bed. I have even tried lying down with her in her room until she is asleep which works until 3AM when she realizes I went back to mine. I mean this girl goes poddie in the middle of the night by herself, you know, turns on the light, goes, wipes, flushes, puts lid down and turns the light off and all, but will not sleep alone. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/confused.gif http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/confused.gif http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/confused.gif So now what?
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mushroom1
10-28-2002, 01:34 PM
When my older kids were little, we made them sleep in their own beds. When my youngest children (8 & 5) were little we let them sleep with us whenever they wanted to. The 8 year old wanted to every night from babyhood until about a year ago. The 5 year old went from his crib to a "big boy bed" easily and wanted to sleep with us only occasionally.
I must say that I have absolutely adored sleeping with our youngest daughter over the years. She now sleeps with us on weekends. I think it made her feel loved and secure. I wish that I had let all of my children do this. It is natural and done all over the world.
And it gives parents more time with precious little people who do not stay little very long!
I must say that I have absolutely adored sleeping with our youngest daughter over the years. She now sleeps with us on weekends. I think it made her feel loved and secure. I wish that I had let all of my children do this. It is natural and done all over the world.
And it gives parents more time with precious little people who do not stay little very long!
Chelle1977
12-05-2002, 05:15 PM
I don't know how, but you should do it NOW.
In fact, if/when I have children of my own they will NEVER sleep in my bed with me.
In fact, if/when I have children of my own they will NEVER sleep in my bed with me.
*SoccerMom*
12-09-2002, 02:54 AM
Hi Lovely,
I can totally understand your position! I have 3 children (12, 4, and 3). It can be so overwhelming when they will not stay in their beds. It can also put a serious damper in the romantic times too! :)
If there is one thing I have learned as a parent of 3 children is that no matter what you do, they all are different. (personalities, genetics, sibling rivalry all play a huge part) My middle child never cared a drop about sleeping with us. We have the nursery ajoining the master bedroom. After the crib, we had 2 toddler beds in there. Seemed I spent most of the night carrying my youngest back to bed.....and still do. When my 4 year old moved into a regular bed, I moved my 3 yr old's toddler bed in with her. She now just continues to come to our bed in the middle of the night. Doctors have suggested that I lock the door so she has to go back to her bed (drastic to me!), scold her and put her back to bed continously or to just allow her to sleep with us (or move the toddler bed in our room). I have also tried some suggestions from friends (rewarding with prizes, using more night lights and special light up items, giving a special doll or bear that "needs" to sleep in their bed with them, buying new special sheets, glow in the dark stars on the ceiling, and allowing her to share a bed with her sister) Maybe one of those ideas will help her. Best of luck!
I can totally understand your position! I have 3 children (12, 4, and 3). It can be so overwhelming when they will not stay in their beds. It can also put a serious damper in the romantic times too! :)
If there is one thing I have learned as a parent of 3 children is that no matter what you do, they all are different. (personalities, genetics, sibling rivalry all play a huge part) My middle child never cared a drop about sleeping with us. We have the nursery ajoining the master bedroom. After the crib, we had 2 toddler beds in there. Seemed I spent most of the night carrying my youngest back to bed.....and still do. When my 4 year old moved into a regular bed, I moved my 3 yr old's toddler bed in with her. She now just continues to come to our bed in the middle of the night. Doctors have suggested that I lock the door so she has to go back to her bed (drastic to me!), scold her and put her back to bed continously or to just allow her to sleep with us (or move the toddler bed in our room). I have also tried some suggestions from friends (rewarding with prizes, using more night lights and special light up items, giving a special doll or bear that "needs" to sleep in their bed with them, buying new special sheets, glow in the dark stars on the ceiling, and allowing her to share a bed with her sister) Maybe one of those ideas will help her. Best of luck!
Melamom
12-09-2002, 10:34 AM
You need to take your child back to her own bed every single time she tries to come into your bed at night. Tuck her back in and remind her that this is her bed and this is where she is to sleep at night. If she seems afraid you may want to stay with her for a bit till she gets settled but you need to instill that fact that she is not allowed to sleep in your bed as this is YOUR bed not hers and that she has her own bed to sleep in. After a few nights of being taken back to her own bed every single time she comes into yours she will get the idea that your bed is not for her to sleep in. My one question would be how did come to start sleeping in your bed anyway?