PAISLEY
11-15-2002, 04:26 PM
Hi. :wave:
My 3yr old refuses to wipe herself when she's had a BM. And in all actuality, I don't want her too! I know it's bad business because she needs to learn on her own but it can get pretty messy...even when I wipe her! I worry about when she is away from me if she wipes her own bottom. I don't think she even has BM's at pre-school because I know her teacher is not going to wipe her and she doesn't have the "skid" marks in her panties. So, I guess I am just wondering if I am really doing her a disservice by wiping for her?
Besides just stop doing it for her and teach her how to do it, how or what can we do to make sure it is GOOD enough so that she won't be smelly and dirty?
My 3yr old refuses to wipe herself when she's had a BM. And in all actuality, I don't want her too! I know it's bad business because she needs to learn on her own but it can get pretty messy...even when I wipe her! I worry about when she is away from me if she wipes her own bottom. I don't think she even has BM's at pre-school because I know her teacher is not going to wipe her and she doesn't have the "skid" marks in her panties. So, I guess I am just wondering if I am really doing her a disservice by wiping for her?
Besides just stop doing it for her and teach her how to do it, how or what can we do to make sure it is GOOD enough so that she won't be smelly and dirty?
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Welch
11-15-2002, 11:47 PM
It is not easy but in time she will decide to wipe herself. Many 5 year olds do not want to wipe the dirty part.
A 3 year old does well to hang onto the pottie much less use the toilet paper. Continue to wipe her and in the process teach her how it should be done.
Many times small children will hold it until they get home.
A 3 year old does well to hang onto the pottie much less use the toilet paper. Continue to wipe her and in the process teach her how it should be done.
Many times small children will hold it until they get home.
mushroom1
11-18-2002, 03:57 PM
I told all of my children that they could wipe their own bottoms at 5 and most wanted to, yet I had one son who still didn't want to at 6. However, I insisted and he was fine with it in no time.
Greenberry
11-18-2002, 04:16 PM
In my past life as a teenage babysitter, I wiped dozens of 3 and 4 year old's butts, mainly because they didn't want to do it themselves, and would call me into the bathroom when they were done. I am about to reach that stage with my oldest, and I will probably be doing it for her, because I hate the skid marks that she would probably leave behind.
mlgable
11-21-2002, 11:01 AM
Why not get some of those flushable wipes and start teaching her now. If she is in preschool already then yes she should be learing to wipe her own bottom. I am assuming she wipes well after urinating so teaching her to properly wipe her bottom shouldn't be too bad. Always remind her that if she is having problems she can call you for help.
lovelyme
11-22-2002, 04:32 PM
You definitly need to teach her to do it herself and notify your daycare provider to remind your daughter to do it after BM's. Even if she gets it on her hands, whcich is gross, but according to Poison Control, "If they are healthy then their poop is healthy". Colds do not count in this either. Unless they have some kind of bacterial infection in their body somewhere then there is the chance of getting sick from hand to mouth or any oraface contact. The only way to learn is to be taught and the only way to tackle the issue is to practice going through the steps.
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fntsyangel
11-26-2002, 08:01 PM
My oldest is very independent with such things and around 3 she quit asking for help. BUT I made sure she knew how to do it right. The tricky part was the whole ballance thing. Take the problem away by suggesting she get off the toilet first, then reach around and wipe. My daughter is still doing this at 5. And sure, sometimes she doesnt do a good job and ends up with a sore bottom that I need to take baby wipes to, but that is the way it goes. On that note, your child's bottom WILL get sore from not wiping properly, so it is not likely that she will become smelly and dirty - just a bit of feces will cause alot of irritation in just a couple hours.
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dawnmargaret
12-14-2002, 03:46 PM
I buy the flushable kids wipes and my 8 yr old still uses them. I didnt stop wiping him until around 5 or 6 yrs old because he couldnt "get it all" off LOL.
Dawn
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