mommyof5
02-15-2003, 09:17 AM
I can't believe I am going to write this post! If you've read my other posts then you know I have 5 kids. Girl- almost 12, boy- almost 9, girl-7, girl-6 and boy- almost 3.
So the topic, of course, is my son, the almost 3 year old (who thinks he's about 5!). He was such a GOOD baby and then things changed around 9 - 12 months ago. Things just got increasingly worse, He CAN be the sweetest little boy, adorable, loving, sweet, snuggly, you get the idea. BUT he's in between the terrible 2's and trying 3's - defiant, mouthy (he speaks well), oppositional, wants his own way or else - big temper tantrums (not just the lying on the floor kind, He'll cry, yell, swat at you, kick, pinch, dig his nails in you, run around in his fit, knock thing over, throw things, etc... I've spanked him, swatted his mouth for bad language ex: "f--- y-- mommy" (he picked that up at daycare from a girl from a not so good household), mostly I do time outs with him but he won't just stay in time out! I have to hold him down (which I hate having to do) while he cries, tells me off (calls me baby la-la,etc) tries to kick, hit, bite, scratch, etc, until he finally calms down (somewhere between 5-10 minutes) and then I make him sit there for about 5 minutes. I then go to him discuss with him what got him in time out in the first place. He becomes appologetic,sweet, loving and nice again - but not for long!
I have gone through the terrible 2's and trying 3's x 4 kids already but he's the worst one so far! I'm getting to the point where I don't know what to do about it. He acts up at daycare also but not as extreme as at home. My other 4 went to daycare also and they were for the most part well behaved at daycare and saved their bad behavior for home. The educator he has also had my other 4 and I KNOW she is a good educator, so I don't think there is any problem with that and he loves going there and playing with his friends (there are 8 kids in his group including him)
HELP, I need suggestions, advice, anything to give me some hope that it will improve instead of get worse. I still can't believe after getting through this with 4 other kids I'm having sooooo much trouble with the 5th!
mommyof5
So the topic, of course, is my son, the almost 3 year old (who thinks he's about 5!). He was such a GOOD baby and then things changed around 9 - 12 months ago. Things just got increasingly worse, He CAN be the sweetest little boy, adorable, loving, sweet, snuggly, you get the idea. BUT he's in between the terrible 2's and trying 3's - defiant, mouthy (he speaks well), oppositional, wants his own way or else - big temper tantrums (not just the lying on the floor kind, He'll cry, yell, swat at you, kick, pinch, dig his nails in you, run around in his fit, knock thing over, throw things, etc... I've spanked him, swatted his mouth for bad language ex: "f--- y-- mommy" (he picked that up at daycare from a girl from a not so good household), mostly I do time outs with him but he won't just stay in time out! I have to hold him down (which I hate having to do) while he cries, tells me off (calls me baby la-la,etc) tries to kick, hit, bite, scratch, etc, until he finally calms down (somewhere between 5-10 minutes) and then I make him sit there for about 5 minutes. I then go to him discuss with him what got him in time out in the first place. He becomes appologetic,sweet, loving and nice again - but not for long!
I have gone through the terrible 2's and trying 3's x 4 kids already but he's the worst one so far! I'm getting to the point where I don't know what to do about it. He acts up at daycare also but not as extreme as at home. My other 4 went to daycare also and they were for the most part well behaved at daycare and saved their bad behavior for home. The educator he has also had my other 4 and I KNOW she is a good educator, so I don't think there is any problem with that and he loves going there and playing with his friends (there are 8 kids in his group including him)
HELP, I need suggestions, advice, anything to give me some hope that it will improve instead of get worse. I still can't believe after getting through this with 4 other kids I'm having sooooo much trouble with the 5th!
mommyof5
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sylv40
02-15-2003, 09:54 AM
hi there,
i have a friend who has a little boy of 4 and he sounds just like your little boy does all the same things my friend asked me what she could do i said when he is being good reward him with a big hug and kisses and a sweet and say to him if your good for a week take him out and buy him a little toy even if he sits still for a little while reward him. my friend is on her own with a 19yrs 5yrs and 4 yrs old family to me when i go to see her which is only now and then as i have moved her little boy just once to play cars with my husband he sames to me to do things to get notices i have asked her how is is getting on she said he sames a lot better now let me know how you get on good luck,
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i have a friend who has a little boy of 4 and he sounds just like your little boy does all the same things my friend asked me what she could do i said when he is being good reward him with a big hug and kisses and a sweet and say to him if your good for a week take him out and buy him a little toy even if he sits still for a little while reward him. my friend is on her own with a 19yrs 5yrs and 4 yrs old family to me when i go to see her which is only now and then as i have moved her little boy just once to play cars with my husband he sames to me to do things to get notices i have asked her how is is getting on she said he sames a lot better now let me know how you get on good luck,
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