wattagirl
08-27-2002, 11:36 PM
ok-i need advice from moms and dads on this one-my daughter is just 1 yr old and already her father and and grandfather are wanting to take her for rides on the 4-wheeler-i'm totally against it and don't see the point-at her age she has as nuch fun outside walking around as she would on it-i know everybody where i live is raised riding these things but i just have a bad feeling about it-they just want to ride her around the yard but i can't stand the thought of it-the first and last time someone rode me we flipped so this may have something to do with it-how do ya'll feel
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*SoccerMom*
08-28-2002, 01:19 AM
wattagirl~
i am known as the most overprotective parent around so i am sure you can predict what i am going to say. we are from a rural area and a lot of people have 4 wheelers too. a couple of years ago, there was a local child (2 years old) that fell off/ slipped off and was run over by his father. it was horrible!!! http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/bigcry.gif
i think sometimes we see the fun in things and forget about the danger! about 6 years ago, another small child who was about 7 or 8 was helping his father mow grass and the lawnmower became stuck and he hopped off ...not thinking! it ran over him and he was killed instantly. <i know that some mowers have all sorts of safety devices but it isn't always effective>
my son is almost 12 and i have to tell him constantly that he is not allowed to ride either things. there are countless accidents that occur locally that i hear about! my question to my son often is...."does it have a seatbelt?" ....well, he isn't riding!! :)
i lost my nephew when he was 6 years old to a tragic home accident...it still breaks my heart! we just take for granted the harmful things that surround our families.
Best of Luck! Enjoy life through your little daughter's eyes! :)
i am known as the most overprotective parent around so i am sure you can predict what i am going to say. we are from a rural area and a lot of people have 4 wheelers too. a couple of years ago, there was a local child (2 years old) that fell off/ slipped off and was run over by his father. it was horrible!!! http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/bigcry.gif
i think sometimes we see the fun in things and forget about the danger! about 6 years ago, another small child who was about 7 or 8 was helping his father mow grass and the lawnmower became stuck and he hopped off ...not thinking! it ran over him and he was killed instantly. <i know that some mowers have all sorts of safety devices but it isn't always effective>
my son is almost 12 and i have to tell him constantly that he is not allowed to ride either things. there are countless accidents that occur locally that i hear about! my question to my son often is...."does it have a seatbelt?" ....well, he isn't riding!! :)
i lost my nephew when he was 6 years old to a tragic home accident...it still breaks my heart! we just take for granted the harmful things that surround our families.
Best of Luck! Enjoy life through your little daughter's eyes! :)
mydog8mybrain
08-29-2002, 07:07 PM
I'm a dad and grew up atop a motorcycle.
Four wheelers. Them things are of the devil himself. Nothing good comes of 'em. Both of my boys (22 and 17) are constantly after me for motorized wheels with no cabin or seat belt. The answer from me is always the same...... Not until you are 18 and even then.... not with my money.
If they are old enough and rich enough to buy such a toy then they are old enought to pay their own bills and live somewhere else.
You are on the right track. I'm just not sure how you are going to deal with his dad and grandfather on the issue. They will have some good points (just in the yard.... harmless and all). Sounds like you are in for a pretty good battle.
Got any friends that are doctors or EMT's? if so, have 'em over for dinner and clue them into your agenda before they show up. All of my friends that are MD's get almost rabid when the subject of 4 wheelers comes up.
Good luck.
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Be nice to your kids.... They will choose your nursing home.
Four wheelers. Them things are of the devil himself. Nothing good comes of 'em. Both of my boys (22 and 17) are constantly after me for motorized wheels with no cabin or seat belt. The answer from me is always the same...... Not until you are 18 and even then.... not with my money.
If they are old enough and rich enough to buy such a toy then they are old enought to pay their own bills and live somewhere else.
You are on the right track. I'm just not sure how you are going to deal with his dad and grandfather on the issue. They will have some good points (just in the yard.... harmless and all). Sounds like you are in for a pretty good battle.
Got any friends that are doctors or EMT's? if so, have 'em over for dinner and clue them into your agenda before they show up. All of my friends that are MD's get almost rabid when the subject of 4 wheelers comes up.
Good luck.
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Be nice to your kids.... They will choose your nursing home.
wattagirl
08-31-2002, 10:44 PM
i was so glad to get your replies-for some reason i thought everyone would think i was stupid-i just won't give in on this-if my husband or f-in-law sneaks and does it i don't know what i'll do but i can tell you there will be hell to pay-thanks again-soccer mom-your stories were so sad-i can't imagine losing a child or even one of my nieces or nephews-i try to think of everything that can happen and my family only seems to think in terms of it nothing is going to happen-well i can tell you,it may sound bad but i have the final say in her upbringing-and they might as well learn that now-lol
mydog8mybrain
09-04-2002, 11:24 PM
Hope you have been able to keep the kiddos off of those devil machines.
I swear - all the heart ache and pain those machines bring to families all over the world. I wish somehow they would just go away.
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Those who dispense tough love to their children now should be prepared to receive same back from them in 30 years.
I swear - all the heart ache and pain those machines bring to families all over the world. I wish somehow they would just go away.
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Those who dispense tough love to their children now should be prepared to receive same back from them in 30 years.
wattagirl
09-04-2002, 11:35 PM
haven't had to deal with the subject yet-i guess i've been putting it off but believe me it is coming-these people live on these things-i really dread it because i know they enjoy riding and so do the other grandchildren but i don't want any part of it-there are too many things i can't control so i'm not gonna let one accident i can prevent slip by-thanks all
rif
09-14-2002, 10:29 AM
Wattagirl,
I'm with you. Stick to your guns.
I'm with you. Stick to your guns.
theres126
09-16-2003, 08:39 AM
My son has been begging me lately for either a dirt bike or 4 wheeler. All his friends have them, and he wants to "have fun" just like them. He wants on as a Christmas gift, birthday gift, the next four years of birthday/christmas gifts........ you name it. He swears he wouldn't do anything stupid, and would wear all the protective equipment. I've steadfastly stuck to my guns and told him no. He has so many other things that are important to him - basketball, soccer, etc., that he could lose if injured. He thinks I'm being overprotective and mean. (He's 13) Of course, he seems to forget about all the other things I do let him do, which also scare me - snowboarding, skateboarding, mountainboarding. I tell him I draw the line at motorized vehicles. Let me ask - is this being overprotective? Do the pads, etc. make it a reasonably safe sport? Or am I right in sticking to my guns. (I've also said no trampoline)
Thanks -
Theresa (aka. Mean mom) :-)
Thanks -
Theresa (aka. Mean mom) :-)
nvu_nvr
09-16-2003, 07:18 PM
We have 2 of them and our 2 oldest kids do ride on them with either me or their dad. My son is almost 3 but he does not get to ride yet! We had wrap around child belts installed on ours that are designed for kids 10 and under but when the kids are with us, we stay in our yard.
All this of course when we are in the States, not here.
All this of course when we are in the States, not here.
TeTr01
09-17-2003, 12:35 PM
I say as her mom, you know if you are comfortable with it or not. If you don't think now is a good time, then wait a while for it. They should be able to understand that. You are her mom & you are trying to protect her... nothing wrong with that.
My daughter is almost 2 & loves to go on the quad with her uncles, they also take her for bicycle rides. I feel ok with, as long as they promise to be careful with her - I alway just remind them b/c they are still young, 17 & 13. The 13 year old also has a motor powered scooter that you stand on & there is a tall seat that you kinda lean on, she also likes to go on that with him, but I make sure that he goes slow with her on it. I think that one makes me more nervous b/c it's only got 2 wheels & he has to use one had to hold her so can only steer with one! But, I feel comfortable enough that they will be careful when is goes on b/c I know the wouldn't ever want to see anything happen to her!
But, your daughter is only 1 & like I said, if you are not comfortable with it then they should wait!
My daughter is almost 2 & loves to go on the quad with her uncles, they also take her for bicycle rides. I feel ok with, as long as they promise to be careful with her - I alway just remind them b/c they are still young, 17 & 13. The 13 year old also has a motor powered scooter that you stand on & there is a tall seat that you kinda lean on, she also likes to go on that with him, but I make sure that he goes slow with her on it. I think that one makes me more nervous b/c it's only got 2 wheels & he has to use one had to hold her so can only steer with one! But, I feel comfortable enough that they will be careful when is goes on b/c I know the wouldn't ever want to see anything happen to her!
But, your daughter is only 1 & like I said, if you are not comfortable with it then they should wait!
wattagirl
09-17-2003, 11:56 PM
my daughter is now 2 and i'm still not comfortable with it-but you see i envision all of these bad things happening-i'm the same about everything-other people driving her in their vehicles-staying with someone,etc-i believe i am a tad bit over protective-it doesn't help that my first-and last-trip on a 4-wheeler resulted in the stupid thing flippng back on top of us-nothing is gonna happen was what i was told when i was reluctant to get on-hmmm-famous last words
hope2663
09-18-2003, 12:06 AM
We also live in small town. My cousin was 19 when he was racing four wheelers at a local race and he fell off with a helmet on and it somehow hit him the wrong way and he was hooked up to machines for almost a month with no possibility of getting better (he was brain dead) and he died. I agree with you and applaud you for not letting your child on one of these. My sister tried to take my two year jet skiing down by her cabin and I absolutely refused, silly or not I'm not taking any chances.
wattagirl
09-19-2003, 12:04 AM
you know what gets me-we are silly and overprotective if we don't let them do this stuff but if they were to get hurt everyone would say what bad parents we are for allowing this to happen-