PennyLane16
08-19-2002, 01:34 AM
Hey everyone. Four days my boyfriend of 8 months dumped me. We're both sixteen so that's a pretty long time. He was my first boyfriend. He had recently told a bunch of his friends that he went down on me (which is true). But he told them some pretty embarrassing and graphic things. I emailed him asking him why he did it and asking him if the only reason he was with me was to get some play. He emailed me back saying that he had thought about it and I was right, the only reason he was with me was to get some action. I called him and he told me that he had felt like that for a while and it would be wrong to stay with me. School is starting soon and I think I'm going to have all my classes with him. I need help getting over it and getting on with my life. I feel empty now and really self concious. I don't know how to deal with it all. Please help someone. Thanks.
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HumbleMan10248
08-19-2002, 02:36 AM
hiya penny dont worry about your ex b/f he did u a fav by letting u go cos if all he wants is some action and if what u want is a decent relationship then good riddance, but hon if u still like this guy then u have to decide what u really want...
about the skool thing i know that prob might be hard situtaion but hopefully u can come to a conclusion by the time skool starts what it is u want that way your ex knows your not part of his life anymore and so he is not important anymore that is if u want nothing more to do with him
also about him saying those intimiate things about your sex life, it could be that he does really like u but is trying to be macho infront of his friends ...best thing is if u wnat to be with him then sit and talk to him about it and make it clear to him if he wants to be part of your life he has to clean up his act or he is out the door....ok he may of dumped u now but when skool starts and if he genunily like u he will be back!
Humble Man
about the skool thing i know that prob might be hard situtaion but hopefully u can come to a conclusion by the time skool starts what it is u want that way your ex knows your not part of his life anymore and so he is not important anymore that is if u want nothing more to do with him
also about him saying those intimiate things about your sex life, it could be that he does really like u but is trying to be macho infront of his friends ...best thing is if u wnat to be with him then sit and talk to him about it and make it clear to him if he wants to be part of your life he has to clean up his act or he is out the door....ok he may of dumped u now but when skool starts and if he genunily like u he will be back!
Humble Man
mothmin
08-19-2002, 10:50 PM
He sounds like a loser penny, you did nothing wrong, just look for a guy with more class than that.
bev52
08-20-2002, 12:37 AM
Hey Penny,
It sounds like you got a pretty raw deal http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/rolleyes.gif but it isn't the end of the world. Time heals wounds. It sounds like he's got a problem with insecurity, otherwise, why would he feel the need to 'kiss & tell?'
Move on, and if anyone is bold enough to say anything to you,(which I doubt), just shrug it off and don't make the same mistake he did by talking about it. The upside of it is - you're starting a new year, http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/dance.gif and there's other guys that don't do things like he did.
Best of luck to ya,
leppi
It sounds like you got a pretty raw deal http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/rolleyes.gif but it isn't the end of the world. Time heals wounds. It sounds like he's got a problem with insecurity, otherwise, why would he feel the need to 'kiss & tell?'
Move on, and if anyone is bold enough to say anything to you,(which I doubt), just shrug it off and don't make the same mistake he did by talking about it. The upside of it is - you're starting a new year, http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/dance.gif and there's other guys that don't do things like he did.
Best of luck to ya,
leppi
Katbabe1987
08-22-2002, 07:38 PM
What!? ANY guy that would go around telling YOUR and HIS personal business has NO reason to be with someone like you. Forget this guy. Don't be self concious about yourself because all the people that care don't matter...just because he went down on you, and said it stunk or whatever does NOT mean it does. Some people may just not like the taste or smell. For another guy, you may smell and taste as sweet as can be. It really depends on your likes/dislikes. However, just because he didn't like it doesn't mean he should've told your business. If he was also with you just to get some play, then I'd tell him g/l on finding anyone that will give it to him.
Forget him, he's not worth one single tear of yours! Cheer up and find someone new. If you don't, you'll only waste precious time :) Hope this helps!
Kat
[This message has been edited by Katbabe1987 (edited 08-22-2002).]
Forget him, he's not worth one single tear of yours! Cheer up and find someone new. If you don't, you'll only waste precious time :) Hope this helps!
Kat
[This message has been edited by Katbabe1987 (edited 08-22-2002).]
bev52
08-23-2002, 01:50 AM
You Go Kat! I'm totally with you and you almost make me want to kick some butt! :mad:
She's given you great advice. Bravo! http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/dance.gif
Keep us posted on how you're doing. ;)
Lep
She's given you great advice. Bravo! http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/dance.gif
Keep us posted on how you're doing. ;)
Lep
PennyLane16
08-23-2002, 01:51 PM
I'm so much better now. I cried non stop for the first two days, but now I've made a vow to myself not to shed another tear for him. I haven't seen him again yet, so I'm still really nervous for the first day of school but my girlfriends are gonna take me shopping for a super hot outfit, so hopefully all will go well. It's kinda weird not having a boyfriend now after having one for 8 months, but I'm having fun hanging with the girls now, I really missed them. Thanks for all your help.
Pinkroses
08-26-2002, 02:50 PM
Penny,
That guy is garbage. Your better off without him. Time does heal all wounds and you will find yourself someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Dont settle for anything less. You have alot to look forward to. Go out and celebrate, you got rid of a loser.
Take care.
That guy is garbage. Your better off without him. Time does heal all wounds and you will find yourself someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Dont settle for anything less. You have alot to look forward to. Go out and celebrate, you got rid of a loser.
Take care.
PennyLane16
08-31-2002, 03:34 AM
Okay, so all was going well until today. Suddenly I'm bawling about him and I feel all depressed again! Our class just went on their orientation (we spent the night at a lodge in the mountain, there are 70 people in my grade) and the only thing I could concentrate on was were is he and why is he having such a great time and flirting with everyone while I feel so aweful. Now I feel completely alone and depressed again...when will all of this end!
bev52
08-31-2002, 03:53 AM
Hi Penny,
You said you were really enjoying being with your friends again, and had really missed them. If they're your friends they will stay close to you, talk on the phone, go to the mall, joy ride, find other interests that takes your mind off of him. If you've had a relationship w/someone for 8 mos., hey, there's some kind of bond, (even if you are the only one that bonded). If he can take this attitude, flirt, enjoy his self, why can't you. He's obviously not missing you. I truly don't mean to hurt you. . .just want you to be objective about this one sided relationship.
He's NOT hurting, so let time heal your wounds and try not to show it. Make him think that the "relationship" meant no more to you, than it did to him. When he sees you laughing, flirting and just having a good time, he might not think he's such a Casanova, and that he 'wowed' you nearly as much as he thought he did.
Best wishes,
Bev
You said you were really enjoying being with your friends again, and had really missed them. If they're your friends they will stay close to you, talk on the phone, go to the mall, joy ride, find other interests that takes your mind off of him. If you've had a relationship w/someone for 8 mos., hey, there's some kind of bond, (even if you are the only one that bonded). If he can take this attitude, flirt, enjoy his self, why can't you. He's obviously not missing you. I truly don't mean to hurt you. . .just want you to be objective about this one sided relationship.
He's NOT hurting, so let time heal your wounds and try not to show it. Make him think that the "relationship" meant no more to you, than it did to him. When he sees you laughing, flirting and just having a good time, he might not think he's such a Casanova, and that he 'wowed' you nearly as much as he thought he did.
Best wishes,
Bev