MelNor
08-16-2002, 09:06 PM
Has anyone ever met with someone they were (let's say) romantically involved with on the internet?? How did it go?? Any regrets?? Any success stories??
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gwle
08-16-2002, 10:20 PM
My first real love came from the internet. Lasted about 2 years. Any regrets? Just remember it is real easy to deceive and to paly mind games over the internet. Oh yea, the distance is a big burden as well. If you can handle the fact that you don't know what the other is up to at all times, then it might work out.
mothmin
08-16-2002, 11:47 PM
I did it way back in 1993, when it was all bullitin boards. it was fun, but I would not advise it to girls/women, unless the guy is coming to YOUR house, and you have someone with you on the first meeting. The one i hooked up with was just sexual, and only lasted 3 weeks!
Mushmelon
08-17-2002, 12:09 AM
This will freak some people out on here considering my recent posts but I am now married to a wonderful man that I met in a chat room just over 5 years ago. We lived about 1,500 miles apart but he came to see me after 4 months of chatting and we've been together ever since. The great part about the internet is that you can fall in love with the real person, not just looks. He told me he loved me before he even saw a picture of me. Yes, you can find true love on the internet.
AshleeD
08-17-2002, 03:23 AM
OMG Mushmelon, I couldn't agree with you more!! Internet romances can absolutely work...if you truly want it and it's meant to be, dammit it'll happen! Hehehe :D
paramedik1
08-17-2002, 04:18 AM
The year after I graduated high school(1996) I met a guy on the internet, he was a senior in high school, he lived in South Dakota, I lived in ILlinois, I finally went to South dakota the summer he graduated high school and spent a wonderful few days, thena couple weeks later he made the drive to Illinois to see me. He was a wonderful person and will make somebody a wonderful husband someday(if he isn't already married), to make a long story short, I screwed up pretty bad and we don't keep in touch at all....I sometimes regret screwing things up with him, I"m sure we would have been married by now, but if things had worked out I wouldn't have my son, and I wouldn't have my wonderful husband that I am married to now. My sister in law met her fiance over the internet...she lived in New York, he was in either California or Chicago(I can't really remember which) but anyway they're both living in Chicago now and getting married in the Virgin Islands next August. IT can work, just beware of the freaks and weirdos and psychos out there...but you can meet those anywhere.
xKaShyLahx
08-17-2002, 04:42 AM
I believe in internet relationships. I have a friend who has meet a afew guys off the net and date, she has afew regrets about some. As for long term romance shes heading in the right direction :D ...im also thinking of meeting someone, his sweet, were traded pictures and stuff and i like him and he likes me..only thing is im from up north and he lives down south :mad: :eek: :(
Kashy :wave:
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mydog8mybrain
08-19-2002, 12:36 AM
Worked for me! I met a girl over the internet and much to my suprise found she only lived 30 miles away! Been dating about two years, discovered that we have many friends in common. We both have older children living at home so we are waiting for the nests to get empty in the next 12 months before we tie the knot.
I like what a previous poster said. With the internet you get a chance to look at the heart before all of the physical stuff clouds the picture!
Good luck.
I like what a previous poster said. With the internet you get a chance to look at the heart before all of the physical stuff clouds the picture!
Good luck.
VegasGirl
08-19-2002, 04:13 PM
Here's my story...
My best friend showed me a band's picture in Metal Edge magazine that she thought was cute. She asked me to search online and see if they have a website, if they were touring, etc. So I did and I found their email address and sent an email to the band. The bassist, JC, emailed me back and we started emailing back and forth. Come to find out the band wasn't even together anymore, just distributing old CD's. And JC worked for RCA records. I was living in MT and he was in NY and we became good friends via email and phone calls. This was early 2000, I told him I was moving to Las Vegas in April and he told me he was coming to Vegas the end of April w/ his best friend for vacation, so we figured we'd meet up in person, say hey and have a drink. WELL...we met in person, had instant chemistry, he started flying from NY to Vegas for a four day weekend every month. We did the long distance thing for a year, and in April 2001, he moved to Vegas with me. In Feb. 2002 we bought a house together, and in Sept. 2002 we are getting married. So things CAN work out for the best...when you meet your soulmate, it doesn't matter how it happened or how much distance there is, if it's meant to be, it WILL be!! :)
My best friend showed me a band's picture in Metal Edge magazine that she thought was cute. She asked me to search online and see if they have a website, if they were touring, etc. So I did and I found their email address and sent an email to the band. The bassist, JC, emailed me back and we started emailing back and forth. Come to find out the band wasn't even together anymore, just distributing old CD's. And JC worked for RCA records. I was living in MT and he was in NY and we became good friends via email and phone calls. This was early 2000, I told him I was moving to Las Vegas in April and he told me he was coming to Vegas the end of April w/ his best friend for vacation, so we figured we'd meet up in person, say hey and have a drink. WELL...we met in person, had instant chemistry, he started flying from NY to Vegas for a four day weekend every month. We did the long distance thing for a year, and in April 2001, he moved to Vegas with me. In Feb. 2002 we bought a house together, and in Sept. 2002 we are getting married. So things CAN work out for the best...when you meet your soulmate, it doesn't matter how it happened or how much distance there is, if it's meant to be, it WILL be!! :)
Mushmelon
08-19-2002, 08:41 PM
You go, Vegasgirl!!! You should make a movie about that one!
ice_tornado
08-20-2002, 07:23 AM
hey i have a wonderfule, g/f online she means the world to me, and as long as the 2 have a trust then it works
Lady^
08-20-2002, 12:57 PM
I just wanted to add that I too married my internet sweetie. We met in mIRC, I was on the east coast USA and he in the mid-southwest USA. We were both unhappily married to other people. We met on-line in August of 1997 and he packed up and moved here to live with me in 3 months later, in November 1997 (which was the first time we met face to face). We were married in November 1999.
VegasGirl
08-20-2002, 02:46 PM
Congrats you guys! You are right about trust...that is the MOST IMPORTANT thing in a long distance relationship. You can't be playing head games and stuff, you have to be able to trust each other implicitly or it will NOT work. To be miles apart, it has to be that way. J and I used to talk on the phone every night for about three hours before he moved here. And I knew I could trust him completely and vice versa. You can't be sitting across the country thinking "Hmm..what is he/she doing and who with?" LOL!
letsrace28
08-22-2002, 03:53 PM
I met the love of my life on the internet. We knew after a few days that we had something special. The bad part is the 600+ miles apart we are. The good news is that we are making it work and we are very much in love. We have been together several times now in the 6 months we have know each other and we both know that we will be married someday.
foofighter
08-26-2002, 01:12 AM
i met my bf off the internet awhile ago. it happend kinda quick, we talked online for about a week then he called then we met lol
it was kinda crazy i guess but hey were still together and very happy. we met without even exchanging pics which was very daring, but surprisingly he was soooooo cute and he thought i was too so yay :)
it was kinda crazy i guess but hey were still together and very happy. we met without even exchanging pics which was very daring, but surprisingly he was soooooo cute and he thought i was too so yay :)
Amy42601
08-29-2002, 09:03 PM
March '99, I met my hubby on the internet. We lived 5000 miles apart. He was in England, I was in Seattle. May '99, I went to England to meet him face to face (after exchanging photo's of course). End of May he asked me to marry him and I said yes. June '99, he flies to America with me and we marry June 10th, 1999. We're still married very happily and our son is now 16 months old! I believe in fate as neither of us were meant to be online the day we met, but both just happened to be. I couldn't have found a better man. Good luck! :)
Amy
Amy
TifaStrife16
08-30-2002, 01:30 AM
Yeah definately you have to have trust and perseverence. I've tried online things a few times, none lasted long enough that I actually met them though, but now I think the case is different. We met 7 months ago and have been eagerly awaiting meeting since. The problem has been that he lives in australia, and I live in the US. Most unfortunate. But he's planning on flying out this december, finally, and we both can't wait. It's refreshing to see success your success stories and happy endings :)
MzRed
08-30-2002, 07:25 PM
Four years ago I posted an ad at a website for the mere reason I was looking for a f4f relationship and you can not just walk up to a woman on the street and say "Hi do you like women?" LOL.
I had alot of responces only met a few the very last one I am still with today and have been living together for 2yrs.Alot of things just look "MEANT TO BE" We met Aug.26 , her Bday was the 27 and then mine is Sept.11 so we have alot of celebrating every year.
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I had alot of responces only met a few the very last one I am still with today and have been living together for 2yrs.Alot of things just look "MEANT TO BE" We met Aug.26 , her Bday was the 27 and then mine is Sept.11 so we have alot of celebrating every year.
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Dawnrise
09-02-2002, 07:41 PM
I don't think I would ever had found anyone had it not been for the internet. I was in a chat room in Jan. 99 and was there because I had never been in a chat room before and was curious. I was NOT looking for a guy. A fellow from Holland started chatting with me and after 3 months he came over to visit and 3 months later we were married. We've been married for a little over 3 years now and I don't regret one bit of it. He's everything I've ever looked for in a man. I just adore and love him so much. A lot of people were worried about me picking him up from the airport on my own and everything but I honestly knew in my heart that everything was just fine. And it was and is.
Kadree
09-03-2002, 01:35 PM
Have you found someone on the Internet Mel? Let me know what is going on in that head of yours!!
Love Kadree
Love Kadree
MelNor
09-03-2002, 01:55 PM
Yeah...and I married it!! LOL
Actually I asked this question to see if anyone else got into a bad situation. I often wondered if people like my husband use it as a breeding ground for lies and descete until they catch their prey!! Or if there were any genuine people out there with success stories.
I am pleasantly suprised and relieved that so many have had positive experiences!
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Actually I asked this question to see if anyone else got into a bad situation. I often wondered if people like my husband use it as a breeding ground for lies and descete until they catch their prey!! Or if there were any genuine people out there with success stories.
I am pleasantly suprised and relieved that so many have had positive experiences!
[This message has been edited by MelNor (edited 09-03-2002).]
Kadree
09-03-2002, 02:28 PM
You are so funny! Get back on that keyboard, go down to the stress and anxiety boards, and find yourself a good man with an anxiety disorder! Someone who can understand the whole experience. Ha ha LOL
Take Care
Kadree
Take Care
Kadree
niecsey
09-05-2002, 10:51 AM
glad it worked out for u guys but remember you do have to be careful, you could be meeting an axe murderer http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/bang.gifor a peadophile, pervert woteva, l understand all the excitment though, pity im takin lol :wave:
mayness
09-15-2002, 01:18 PM
My sister met someone on the internet in a religious chatroom and they communicated for about six months then decided to met.l Eventually they got married and they are very happy now.
purple2067
09-15-2002, 02:25 PM
My best friend has probably met over 50 guys from the internet (no exaggeration). Most of them turned out to be OK, but a lot of them turned out to be real ***holes. Some of them were also not so safe. I don't like the idea that she invites most of these guys to her house and meets them alone (I have been there a few times). I am just afraid that one day she is going to get raped or worse (GOD forbid!). Like I said, most of them have been nice guys, but the few a**holes have really been A**HOLES! She seems to think that just because most of the guys she meets are cops and firemen (she's obsessed w/ men in uniform) that she is safe. Turns out that they are the biggest jerks of them all! So far luckily she has been safe and nothing bad has happened to her. I think it is perfectly fine to meet guys from the internet, but I think that you really have to be talking to them for a long time before you decide to meet (at least a few months), and even then you should never meet them alone.
Lady^
09-16-2002, 11:47 AM
Yes, but you can meet an axe-murdered, rapist or pedophile in a bar or at church too.
dericksangel692002
09-22-2002, 09:56 PM
I met my guy over the internet... we have been together for almost two weeks and we are already planning on moving in together. He is the love of my life. We have talked about families and marriage. We are both alike in so many ways. I love him to death. I love him with all my heart. I thank whoever invented computers!!! :angel: http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/love2.gif
someguyinhis20s
09-23-2002, 12:36 PM
Wow, after reading all the replies, I'm wondering if I should give the internet a second thought. I've had the hardest time meeting women. It seems anytime I meet one I'm interested in, she's already taken. I've thought about trying to meet someone online, but I could never get past the mental roadblock. I know it's becoming more and more common for people to meet this way, but I think I'm still stuck in that old school mode of thinking. I keep telling myself, "if you find your soulmate, then who cares how you met em?" But then I look around and see other people meeting the old fashioned way and think, "Hey if they met someone without the internet, why can't I?" I think I'm also struggling to get past my preconceptions about the internet community and the kind of people you'd meet out there.
But I definitely see the appeal. The dating game really is a game. You could meet your soulmate on the street and they might dismiss you or you might dismiss for the dumbest of reasons. In real life, people judge you on the most superficial things like what you look like, how you dress, where you take em to dinner, etc. And then of course there's all the facades people put up. You never get to know the real person. At least with the internet, there's the potential to get past all that. You'd think a person online would be totally honest about who and what they are. After all, if they've never met you, then you have nothing to lose by being honest. But we know that people online lie all the time. Anyways, I envy all of you who met your soulmate online. The single life is lousy.
By the way, can any of you give me some directions on where to start. I don't want to go through the personals and I know this site doesn't let you promote other sites or services. I'm just looking for a good place to maybe find someone to chat with. Thanks.
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But I definitely see the appeal. The dating game really is a game. You could meet your soulmate on the street and they might dismiss you or you might dismiss for the dumbest of reasons. In real life, people judge you on the most superficial things like what you look like, how you dress, where you take em to dinner, etc. And then of course there's all the facades people put up. You never get to know the real person. At least with the internet, there's the potential to get past all that. You'd think a person online would be totally honest about who and what they are. After all, if they've never met you, then you have nothing to lose by being honest. But we know that people online lie all the time. Anyways, I envy all of you who met your soulmate online. The single life is lousy.
By the way, can any of you give me some directions on where to start. I don't want to go through the personals and I know this site doesn't let you promote other sites or services. I'm just looking for a good place to maybe find someone to chat with. Thanks.
[This message has been edited by someguyinhis20s (edited 09-23-2002).]
letsrace28
09-24-2002, 11:24 AM
I met my fiance on the internet 7 months ago. We starting talking (alot) on the phone. We knew we loved each other before we even saw a picture. We met after about a month and a half and have the most wonderful relationship. Right now we are still 700 miles apart but I hope to fix that before too long. I will happily move to her and spend the rest of my life loving her.
Lady^
09-25-2002, 04:37 PM
Well, I don't use mIRC anymore, but that's where I met my husband. If you download it there will be a list of rooms you can join.....maybe something will catch your eye or you can even create your own room. Even if you don't find romance you will still make friends and have some fun.
MegHurts
10-04-2002, 01:56 PM
I met my fiance online in an AOL Texas Chatroom back in December 2000. We talked online in the chatroom with our friends for 2 months. Then the chatroom decided to throw a party so everyone could meet one another and we ended up going. It was March 3rd, 2001 when we met in person. We spent the whole night together and every weekend afterwards I would drive to see him (2 hours away). In January of this year, he asked me to marry him and moved in with me. We're getting married in May of 2003. So it can work!! Plus, a lot of people in that chatroom ended up getting married too. So yes, internet relationships can last!
~Meg
~Meg
garbojen
10-21-2002, 10:44 AM
Internet Love is tricky, and sometimes deceitful because you may feel something for them and they may not feel the same for you because of the way you met. But, I met my possible soul mate in Feb online and I met them finally and its been great. there were rough times but mostly, you are talking and writing more than you would in a normal relationship and the bonds can grow stronger and stronger every minute. thank god for the internet, and yes give it a try and by all means.
someguyinhis20s
10-21-2002, 10:55 AM
Can anyone point me to a specific place or give me some directions on how to start? IRC is so huge I don't even know where to begin. What's a good strategy for someone who's new to this?
Girlie19
10-21-2002, 03:49 PM
i met a wonderful guy online but... he wants to meet me but he doesn't know i have acne :( so it probably wont last very long :(
niecsey
10-21-2002, 04:06 PM
Exactly http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/bang.gif 'could' be tricky or decitful http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/bang.gif at least if your in a bar near your home town chances are someone will know the person and there history can be passed on to you on here???? well........just think about it, could say anything good luck to all you who have found the 'real thing' and the decent ones :wave:
Girlie19
10-22-2002, 12:17 PM
turns out he doesn't care :)
MonkeyBarSoup
10-23-2002, 02:32 AM
I have a positive, wonderful, and successful internet relationship. He is 15 years my senior, and I met him when I was 18 and in my first year of college. I left college (a mistake - but I don't regret meeting him). I moved 2100 miles (from Washington State to Texas) to be with him. I've been with him ever since and we plan on getting married and raising our cat and dog together. We couldn't be happier. My parents were skeptical at the thought that I would just drop everything to move to Texas for a guy who was 15 years old than me, but for the first time in my life, I am happy.
Thank God for the Internet.
My suggestion to anyone who wishes, wants, or is going to meet someone from the internet...meet in a public place first. Always let someone know as much information as possible and let them know that if you don't contact them by a certain time, then call the police or something. You can never be too careful. Listen to your heart and your head.
Sincerely,
MonkeyBarSoup
Thank God for the Internet.
My suggestion to anyone who wishes, wants, or is going to meet someone from the internet...meet in a public place first. Always let someone know as much information as possible and let them know that if you don't contact them by a certain time, then call the police or something. You can never be too careful. Listen to your heart and your head.
Sincerely,
MonkeyBarSoup
magee
10-23-2002, 09:20 PM
If you do choose to meet someone that you met online, get his phone # and address first, and call him to make sure the # is real. Give the info to a friend, and inform your date that you have given all the vital stats to your friend in case you turn up missing.