A cousin of mine was an alcoholic and his wife was suffering from it. He was not physically abusive but just as bad verbally. To make matters worse they have two kids that were showing signs of PTSD. After Al Anon kept telling him he "was not working the system." He quit going and finally decided he needed to stop drinking after my family confronted him. He felt that Al anon and AA was NOT for him and he would still have an excuse to drink if he kept going to them. His solution was simply to STOP! Not to start a flame war but, contrary to popular belief, alcoholism is not a true disease! My cousin did a ton of research on the subject and could not find one true scientific proof on this... Do a web search on rational recovery and have your hubby take the crash course on their site. My cousin did it while he was alone in the dark one night and never drank again. To make a long story short, he has been sober for two years straight and his family is now very normal. He can shrug off the craving for a drink with a laugh. Guess I would need to see the site to understand how he can do this so simply... The AA people would probably consider him a "dry drunk" but him and his family considers him to be a real hubby and father now. Good luck and GOD bless!

[This message has been edited by Lev (edited 04-18-2003).]