Momof2boys
01-31-2001, 12:05 AM
Hi!
I am new to this board. I have two boys, ages 4.5 and 10 mos. I am concerned with my 4.5 yr. old. He is showing "symptoms" of ADD. I suspect my husband has it, although he will not follow up on it. I would like to hear from other parents as to when they first suspected it in their children. I have no idea if 4.5 is too early or not. I just am tired of hearing from relatives that I should be doing something to control him when he get's "out of control". They say things about him in front of him & it huts me, not to mention what it does to him. I try not to react to their words in front of him, I don't want him to see things like that bother me. He is very sweet, he is not destructive, but he IS very aggressive and cannot sit still. He seems to go into his own world and do weird stuff. Any Suggestions?
I am new to this board. I have two boys, ages 4.5 and 10 mos. I am concerned with my 4.5 yr. old. He is showing "symptoms" of ADD. I suspect my husband has it, although he will not follow up on it. I would like to hear from other parents as to when they first suspected it in their children. I have no idea if 4.5 is too early or not. I just am tired of hearing from relatives that I should be doing something to control him when he get's "out of control". They say things about him in front of him & it huts me, not to mention what it does to him. I try not to react to their words in front of him, I don't want him to see things like that bother me. He is very sweet, he is not destructive, but he IS very aggressive and cannot sit still. He seems to go into his own world and do weird stuff. Any Suggestions?
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purple icee
02-02-2001, 01:48 AM
Hi! I will tell you that 4.5 is definetly not too young to diagnose ADD. My son was 5 when he was diagnosed with ADHD and it was almost too late. At least that what the Drs told me. My son, also, did weird things, was destructive and can get very mean. I would recommend you talk to a mental health dr and see what they can do. I am so thankfull I finally did that. In 6 months time, with therapy and meds. (which I still hate giving him) he is doing much better. I hope this helps a little.
ckinusa
02-08-2001, 02:11 PM
My son is now 10 1/2. We first started suspecting about the age of 2 1/2. We sought professional help at that time too. Eventually we did look at medication (about 6 yrs. old) which has helped. Family therapy helped us too.....now everyone has an idea what is going on with him (as far as trying to understand the ADHD/ADD) it is very stressing to try and explain it over and over when others do not understand. Seek help now. Do not wait. Try and get ahold of a good behavior therapist that will work with your whole family. Good luck!
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Luvcarosel
04-09-2001, 01:40 AM
Hi, there are adequate test that can be done to make sure your child is correctly diagnosed. My daughter had a tova test. This test is done by a neurologist. This is a
computer based testing and has shown to be
very accurate for testing of ADD&ADHD.
Good Luck
Lisa
computer based testing and has shown to be
very accurate for testing of ADD&ADHD.
Good Luck
Lisa
hippiegirl
06-06-2001, 01:05 AM
Hi- My son is ADHD and was diagnosed when he was 4 years old. He couldn't even sit still to do the testing that had to be done. He was also very aggressive, violent, mood swings. He is now 10 and doing great. He is also Bipolar (the violence, mood swings and agressiveness) OCD. Definently talk to a Pshc. Dr. They can be very helpful.
Good Luck!
Good Luck!
Tracy_Leem
09-05-2002, 03:05 AM
My son is now 5 and we have been to soooo many drs and thay all say different things and do different things. One dr just kept uping the dose of ritilin and when that didn't work they tried adderal and when that didn't work they tried concerta til I finally found another dr and now he is saying that my son is probably bipolar and has been put on risperidal, which helps with the aggression and the all out mean-ness but does nothing for the hyperactivity and the fidgiting. Please tell me some one out there can see where I am comming from and help me, I feel like the whole world is crashing down on top of me and I want to just give up.
Tracy
Tracy
karenl39
09-05-2002, 09:39 AM
Hi Mom,
I know I am going against the flow here, but . . . My daughter was diagnosed with ADHD when she was 7. Anyways, I took her to her pediatrician when she was 3 and told him what I suspected. The Doctor told me to wait until she was in school because then they could really tell by how it was affecting her grades and her ability to learn and ability to focus as much as the other children. I did wait. I am not a big fan of medicating children unless absolutely necessary. After she was diagnosed, she was put on meds and instantly her grades improved as well as her learning. My son, whom I think has it, is 12 years old, but is gifted and gets straight A's. I have never put him on medication though because it didn't affect his grades. I have used a lot of behavior modification with him and kept him very active with swim team, sports and schedules. At times, I was going to pull my hair out, but what a blessing he is today. I myself was just diagnosed with ADHD and am on medication that works wonderfully. I just would really hesitate with putting a tiny child on stimulant medication unless absolutely necessary. I know how you feel, At times, I am not sure how I made it with my kids. I had 3 kids 18 mos apart and 2 with ADHD.
I guess the Lord enabled me to handle it. Hang in there and let us know how you do.
Karen
I know I am going against the flow here, but . . . My daughter was diagnosed with ADHD when she was 7. Anyways, I took her to her pediatrician when she was 3 and told him what I suspected. The Doctor told me to wait until she was in school because then they could really tell by how it was affecting her grades and her ability to learn and ability to focus as much as the other children. I did wait. I am not a big fan of medicating children unless absolutely necessary. After she was diagnosed, she was put on meds and instantly her grades improved as well as her learning. My son, whom I think has it, is 12 years old, but is gifted and gets straight A's. I have never put him on medication though because it didn't affect his grades. I have used a lot of behavior modification with him and kept him very active with swim team, sports and schedules. At times, I was going to pull my hair out, but what a blessing he is today. I myself was just diagnosed with ADHD and am on medication that works wonderfully. I just would really hesitate with putting a tiny child on stimulant medication unless absolutely necessary. I know how you feel, At times, I am not sure how I made it with my kids. I had 3 kids 18 mos apart and 2 with ADHD.
I guess the Lord enabled me to handle it. Hang in there and let us know how you do.
Karen
karenl39
09-05-2002, 09:40 AM
Oh, by the way. 4 years old was the roughest year for us with our son. He was ready for school, yet too young so drove us absolutely nuts, LOLOL. Hang in there!!!
Karen
Karen
reachclear
09-11-2002, 07:35 AM
MOM,
I understand your situation.
I have another option for you to take because I personally don't think it is a good idea for a young child to be taking drugs. Especially Psychiatric drugs, (which is what these are classed as) Ritalin is a form of speed, in a smaller dosage and has strong side effects, and this is the case for all Psych drugs.
What you need to understand is that there are other ways to fix this, not just control it, but FIX it, naturally. Good Luck!
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I understand your situation.
I have another option for you to take because I personally don't think it is a good idea for a young child to be taking drugs. Especially Psychiatric drugs, (which is what these are classed as) Ritalin is a form of speed, in a smaller dosage and has strong side effects, and this is the case for all Psych drugs.
What you need to understand is that there are other ways to fix this, not just control it, but FIX it, naturally. Good Luck!
[This message has been edited by moderator2 (edited 09-11-2002).]