djmatt
08-13-2002, 06:27 PM
My girlfriend was is gone for a couple weeks, my parents as well . im having alot of house parties etc.. i met this girl and we hang out the past couple days i invited her for dinner tonight i cheated on my girlfriend with her just a kiss but still im not that kind of guy im againts that bad . so now i dont know what to do cause i know the only reason i kissed her was because shes so amazing, shes not even good looking compard to my girlfriend but theres something about her.. now i dont wanna make a big mistake here and loose , but i cant live with knowing i kissed somone, but im afraid my girlfriend is gonna like get so depressed, so i dont wanna end the relashionship,
please help what to do, im slowly getting away from my long time girlfriend of 1 year and im afraid to leave her cause she has no clue.. how can i give her hints.. without hurting feelings or can love be at first site... any help any questions let me know so i can expain better
please help what to do, im slowly getting away from my long time girlfriend of 1 year and im afraid to leave her cause she has no clue.. how can i give her hints.. without hurting feelings or can love be at first site... any help any questions let me know so i can expain better
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dee10
08-13-2002, 09:47 PM
hi there, how r u? here's my female perspective:
First, u cheated, own up to it; don't minimise the situation by saying just a kiss. Love at first sight, no but obviously the girl at the party sparked something in u...it's your intuition telling u to pursue her. Think about what u want to do logically, not emotionally. Maybe u just feel lonely and u needed some 'action.' Can u truly be physically attracted to someone who's not as pretty as your gf? As for dropping hints, that's a cop out. Regardless of her sensitivity level, u should be mature enough to talk to her in person and just say it's been a great year w/ her but time to move on. You should respect her enough to be direct and upfront (but I'd hold off telling her there's someone else, that would be cruel). Be genuine, but not rude. hope that helps, best regards,
Dee
First, u cheated, own up to it; don't minimise the situation by saying just a kiss. Love at first sight, no but obviously the girl at the party sparked something in u...it's your intuition telling u to pursue her. Think about what u want to do logically, not emotionally. Maybe u just feel lonely and u needed some 'action.' Can u truly be physically attracted to someone who's not as pretty as your gf? As for dropping hints, that's a cop out. Regardless of her sensitivity level, u should be mature enough to talk to her in person and just say it's been a great year w/ her but time to move on. You should respect her enough to be direct and upfront (but I'd hold off telling her there's someone else, that would be cruel). Be genuine, but not rude. hope that helps, best regards,
Dee
KC Lee
08-13-2002, 10:16 PM
1 word for you, LUST.
nicola76
08-14-2002, 06:42 AM
I agree with KC Lee. Sounds like lust got to you. You really need to just own up to it and admit to your girlfriend that you kissed somebody else. Yes you did a crappy thing but it doesn't have to be the end of your relationship. She'll probably be angry but if you guys love each other and really want to be together you'll work it out.
Take care!
Nic
Take care!
Nic
F-Man
08-14-2002, 02:30 PM
I think you should tell your girl friend about it. You need to decide though, what you want to do. If you want to persue something with this new girl, then be honest about it. In my opinion, honesty, trust and communication are critically important to a relationship. breaking up can be painful at first, but it happens all the time and people almost always get through it. Maybe you'll find you've got something really special with the new girl. I'm not condoning cheating, but to me, girl friend is a lot different from wife. Its ok to be open to other dating opportunities if the arise. You just need to be honest about it with your current girl friend.
scandi
08-14-2002, 04:07 PM
I'll have to agree w/ F-man, be honest. I know how you feel just I haven't kissed anyone else yet. I don't find a quick kiss on the lips OR cheek or a hug to be cheating. When you pass that then it is. There are still many options open since you 2 are dating. My advide is to compare both the 1st kisses, my 1st bf kiss, there was no spark, nothing but with my bf now our 1st kiss it was unbelieve. I never had anything like that, there was a huge spark, I thought about it for days & felt it for days later, until we did start to go out. The spark has faded some but its there when we kiss. So just be honest & your gf should understand. Explain how it felt & that you do care & love her. Good luck
Mushmelon
08-14-2002, 07:21 PM
Ok, I'm not judging anyone here but I have to have my say. I recently posted about having the hots for a guy at work but clearly said that I HAVE NEVER TOUCHED HIM, much less kiss him or anything else. I admited that I am married, much older than the other guy, and his boss....but once again I HAVE NEVER TOUCHED HIM and all I got in advice/replies were what a horrible person I was for even thinking about it. What's up with that???
Angie E
08-14-2002, 11:41 PM
The difference is you are married, 39 years old and you were asking if you should pursue some sort of relationship with the guy..
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