Disposition
06-30-2002, 11:58 PM
Okay let me start off by saying, my partner and I ALWAYS use LOTS of lube, that's not my concern.
But the first time we tried this, it did hurt alot when he was going in, but after he was in it was smooth sailing and it felt incredible.
Any other time we've even attempted this after the first time, it's at least 20 times more painfull when he tries to go in, and I can't even stand it it hurts so much that I make him pull right back out. There isn't any rippingaround my anus, like I said we use loads of lube but I don't understand why it's so painfull now, when it wasn't at all before.
I really want to please him and I know he likes doing anal sex (and so DID I when we got it the first time), but I feel bad that I can't do it anymore.
Why the sudden change? I mean, shouldn't it be the other way around where it hurt a lot the first time but it gets easier after?
I just don't get it.
And I really want to get it again.
I just don't want to go through the tears of PAIN it brings anymore.
(by the way we've tried lots of different positions including doggy style, me on the bottom, etc and I'm plenty relaxed and such).
Thanks for any help.
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"Tomorrow may be better, but today I chose not to feel..."
But the first time we tried this, it did hurt alot when he was going in, but after he was in it was smooth sailing and it felt incredible.
Any other time we've even attempted this after the first time, it's at least 20 times more painfull when he tries to go in, and I can't even stand it it hurts so much that I make him pull right back out. There isn't any rippingaround my anus, like I said we use loads of lube but I don't understand why it's so painfull now, when it wasn't at all before.
I really want to please him and I know he likes doing anal sex (and so DID I when we got it the first time), but I feel bad that I can't do it anymore.
Why the sudden change? I mean, shouldn't it be the other way around where it hurt a lot the first time but it gets easier after?
I just don't get it.
And I really want to get it again.
I just don't want to go through the tears of PAIN it brings anymore.
(by the way we've tried lots of different positions including doggy style, me on the bottom, etc and I'm plenty relaxed and such).
Thanks for any help.
:(
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"Tomorrow may be better, but today I chose not to feel..."
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baldie
07-01-2002, 05:27 AM
hey disposition,
try using small things first, and go bigger then. maybe you want it that much, you cannot stand it. like you are relaxed and all, but the nerves are there, under your skin. without you knowing about them.
i would try smaller things first.
try using small things first, and go bigger then. maybe you want it that much, you cannot stand it. like you are relaxed and all, but the nerves are there, under your skin. without you knowing about them.
i would try smaller things first.
nincee
07-01-2002, 12:04 PM
I also enjoy, but have found it best when I am in TOTAL control http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/bang.gif http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/idea.gif you need to be on top, and tell him to stay completely still http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/heart.gif which can be a turn on, and you guide him to the edge, after lubed, and rub him back and forth until you are ready and just insert the tip, only, and relax, once your body has accepted, just slowly, and I do mean slowly, lower yourself down until you feel comfortable, after you are going at it, you can change positions if you like, but this one is my favorite. I need to know I am in total control to be comfortable enough to relax and enjoy. Good Luck! :D
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Bizaare
07-01-2002, 05:52 PM
You need to be completely relaxed and totally into it. I know it still hurts with my husband but thats when Im a little tense. Just slow down and maybe let him use his finger to relax ya first. Works for me. :)
Good Luck!
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Good Luck!
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Teri beri
07-20-2002, 11:02 PM
i dont think i could even bring myself to TRY it
Johanna14
07-24-2002, 12:00 AM
EWWWWWWW.
Teri beri
07-25-2002, 08:28 AM
couldnt have put it better myself johanna lol
Hezza
10-08-2002, 07:35 PM
Why would you say ewww?
Sex can involve everything, and regardless if you like it or not, some people do and it's kinda rude and immature to say that other practices are "ewwww" just because you don't like it. Oh but wait, you've never tried it. I think you should. I don't know why everyone thinks of anal sex as being messy, it's not at all!
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A good friend is someone who will bail you out of jail.
A best friend is someone who will sit next to you and say "That was fawkin' awesome!"
Sex can involve everything, and regardless if you like it or not, some people do and it's kinda rude and immature to say that other practices are "ewwww" just because you don't like it. Oh but wait, you've never tried it. I think you should. I don't know why everyone thinks of anal sex as being messy, it's not at all!
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A good friend is someone who will bail you out of jail.
A best friend is someone who will sit next to you and say "That was fawkin' awesome!"
MegHurts
10-08-2002, 11:27 PM
My fiance and I had that same problem, but it was easily aleviated by us changing our position. We were trying doggie style (wrong, I know!) and so I slid forward and he stayed on top of me and it slid right in! We were sort of doggie style, but I was completly laying flat on the bed on my tummy (with my butt up in the air a little). It was amazing!
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lawtalkinguy
10-11-2002, 10:55 AM
a lot of people say "eeewww" about anal sex,
a) because of the stigma of gay people
b) because they have never done it, so they have NO IDEA what they are missing out on. The anus has more nerve endings than the clitoris.
c) they think it is dirty ("thats where I poop from") yeah and the penis is where urine comes from.... if done correctly there is a low icky factor.
My girlfriend and I tried it as a drunken experiment, initially it hurt her, but now she loves it just as (if not more) than vaginal sex.
Without a description of the *exact* pain it would be hard to diagnose the solution.
Remember that if there is any grit or anything like that it will be felt during anal sex twice as much as during vaginal sex, so ensure the bed or surface is clean and grit free.
If the pain is inside, then it is most likely the angle, if at the entrance then probably a relaxation (or grit) thing.
- I do have my own question re anal sex, are there any long term health implications? I have of course heard rumours about gay people wearing nappies in old age, but I doubt that a penis could cause damage if done correctly, can anyone shed light on this?
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a) because of the stigma of gay people
b) because they have never done it, so they have NO IDEA what they are missing out on. The anus has more nerve endings than the clitoris.
c) they think it is dirty ("thats where I poop from") yeah and the penis is where urine comes from.... if done correctly there is a low icky factor.
My girlfriend and I tried it as a drunken experiment, initially it hurt her, but now she loves it just as (if not more) than vaginal sex.
Without a description of the *exact* pain it would be hard to diagnose the solution.
Remember that if there is any grit or anything like that it will be felt during anal sex twice as much as during vaginal sex, so ensure the bed or surface is clean and grit free.
If the pain is inside, then it is most likely the angle, if at the entrance then probably a relaxation (or grit) thing.
- I do have my own question re anal sex, are there any long term health implications? I have of course heard rumours about gay people wearing nappies in old age, but I doubt that a penis could cause damage if done correctly, can anyone shed light on this?
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forgiveness is a rose without any thorns
Hezza
10-11-2002, 11:27 AM
well i can try. whatever i say on these boards, people tell me i'm wrong, but meh.
i don't think anal sex can cause long term health problems. notice, i said think.
you could also say that vaginal sex can cause long term problems, most positions can, ya just gotta be careful and very gentle.
and i agree with the penis being the tool that ejects urine, so yes, that is "ewww" as well. think girls, if you have anal sex you don't have to see any poop or feel any poop (although it may feel like you're pooping with that penis in there) and with oral sex, you're lickin what he pees outta. mmmm, pee residue.
i don't think anal sex can cause long term health problems. notice, i said think.
you could also say that vaginal sex can cause long term problems, most positions can, ya just gotta be careful and very gentle.
and i agree with the penis being the tool that ejects urine, so yes, that is "ewww" as well. think girls, if you have anal sex you don't have to see any poop or feel any poop (although it may feel like you're pooping with that penis in there) and with oral sex, you're lickin what he pees outta. mmmm, pee residue.
Super Sarah
10-13-2002, 07:11 AM
When you have anal sex, don't you have a constant feeling that you need to open your bowels?
I went to see my doc with stomach problems and he wanted to do a rectal exam on me. He inserted his finger into my anus for no longer than a minute or so and I had this constant feeling that I need to open my bowels. If I had this feeling from a finger, what is the feeling like when having anal sex?
I went to see my doc with stomach problems and he wanted to do a rectal exam on me. He inserted his finger into my anus for no longer than a minute or so and I had this constant feeling that I need to open my bowels. If I had this feeling from a finger, what is the feeling like when having anal sex?
berto
10-13-2002, 11:26 AM
isn't the rectal area for evacuating feces and that's it ? some things should be left alone and used for their sole purpose - the ******* being one of them.
Anybody ties to stick something up someone elses ass and causes pain - well what in the hell do you expect - it's not intended to be violated-
ahhh I feel better now
Anybody ties to stick something up someone elses ass and causes pain - well what in the hell do you expect - it's not intended to be violated-
ahhh I feel better now
Hezza
10-13-2002, 03:18 PM
but that's just it.
if you do it properly, it shouldn't hurt. it should be pleasurable. yeh it feels like you have to poo, but not very much. if he's going in and out, on the pull out it feels like you have to poo more, but it's nothing major. you're not gonna poo and it's not to the point where you feel like you'll like control. i was iffy at first, but ya can't knock it till ya try it right. i hate saying that, but it's true.
if you do it properly, it shouldn't hurt. it should be pleasurable. yeh it feels like you have to poo, but not very much. if he's going in and out, on the pull out it feels like you have to poo more, but it's nothing major. you're not gonna poo and it's not to the point where you feel like you'll like control. i was iffy at first, but ya can't knock it till ya try it right. i hate saying that, but it's true.
butalbee
10-14-2002, 10:02 PM
Never tried it, doubt I ever will.
kimmy7
10-19-2002, 05:22 PM
I think anal is wrong ...yuck
lawtalkinguy
10-22-2002, 11:32 PM
i believe the phrase is 'dont know it till you try it'
so many people are afraid of so many things in this world......and when they actually bother to approach things with a neutral mind they are surprised by the outcome...
i try to approach everything with an open mind, and enjoy life as it goes...... no point in putting something down because you don't like the sound of it.....
different strokes for different folks etc
so many people are afraid of so many things in this world......and when they actually bother to approach things with a neutral mind they are surprised by the outcome...
i try to approach everything with an open mind, and enjoy life as it goes...... no point in putting something down because you don't like the sound of it.....
different strokes for different folks etc
Super Sarah
10-23-2002, 09:25 AM
Me and my boyfriend have only ever had anal sex once and never again.
It was very painful although we used lots of lube and went real slow and I did not really enjoy it and the next morning I woke up with very bad stomach ache and a very upset stomach.
Is it possible for anal to cause you stomach ache and upset afterwards? I have lots of stomach problems anyway, so maybe it was not such a good idea in the first place?
It was very painful although we used lots of lube and went real slow and I did not really enjoy it and the next morning I woke up with very bad stomach ache and a very upset stomach.
Is it possible for anal to cause you stomach ache and upset afterwards? I have lots of stomach problems anyway, so maybe it was not such a good idea in the first place?
PAISLEY
10-23-2002, 01:42 PM
Originally posted by Super Sarah:
Me and my boyfriend have only ever had anal sex once and never again.
It was very painful although we used lots of lube and went real slow and I did not really enjoy it and the next morning I woke up with very bad stomach ache and a very upset stomach.
Is it possible for anal to cause you stomach ache and upset afterwards? I have lots of stomach problems anyway, so maybe it was not such a good idea in the first place?
Yes, it is possible for stomach aches to occur...I think of it like an enema! Maybe it wasn't a good idea for you to try it since you have stomach problems already, but I think the more you do it, the better it will feel, just like vaginal sex (your first time). It takes some getting used to, but it can be enjoyable. You have to find the right position. I also found that you just have to tell yourself that the pain will go away cause I know it's almost unbearable.
Me and my boyfriend have only ever had anal sex once and never again.
It was very painful although we used lots of lube and went real slow and I did not really enjoy it and the next morning I woke up with very bad stomach ache and a very upset stomach.
Is it possible for anal to cause you stomach ache and upset afterwards? I have lots of stomach problems anyway, so maybe it was not such a good idea in the first place?
Yes, it is possible for stomach aches to occur...I think of it like an enema! Maybe it wasn't a good idea for you to try it since you have stomach problems already, but I think the more you do it, the better it will feel, just like vaginal sex (your first time). It takes some getting used to, but it can be enjoyable. You have to find the right position. I also found that you just have to tell yourself that the pain will go away cause I know it's almost unbearable.